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writes: Hi, I am a 28year old girl and have been seeing a fantastic 37 year old man for the last 2-1/2 years and had a really great time with him. The problem being this man does not want the whole marriage and kids thing and just wants to have a good time with me and we travel a lot and see some fantastic places together. We do sleep together occassional and have a good snog and I do have deep feelings for him .Recently I started a new job and the manager took a fancy to me. To be honest I really like him. The problem is he is married (17 years) with 3 kids. He has told me he wants me to wait for him (5years) until his kids are older and then he will leave his wife and marry me and have kids with me.The question is do I wait for him? I have told my other special friend and he is devasted as we have so much fun together. He has said it's up to me, but I hate hurting him and he is now distancing himself from me which I hate as I feel lost without him.Do I wait for my married man or stay with my fantastic friend and continue having fun??Thanks for any replies
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reader, MissMariah1984 +, writes (31 October 2005):
Don't settle with someone just because you are having fun... if he doesn't want what you do, then leave him. You may hurt him but it is just hurting you now to be with someone who isn't ready for what you are. Now the married man, if he is saying these kinds of things to you now, would he do that if you two were married?? You also shouldn't have to wait for someone if you two are really meant to be. My advice.... loose them both and find someone that wants what you do and who also is going to make you wait for them best of wishes xoxoxo Mariah
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reader, kirsty2hot +, writes (30 October 2005):
Well are you bothered about having kids and the marrige thing and you should tink about this carefully, but the married man you could wait for him 5years and marry him and all but how do you know he isn't going to do the same he is doing to his wife now?
If you do want kid and marrige don't wait for the married man find someone who wants it else where.
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