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writes: I have been in love with this guy for a long time but he expresses no interest in me, so I began to go out with his friend who likes me. Now the guy that I am in love with begins to sweet talk me and take notice of me. I don't want to hurt his friend's feelings because I like him a lot too. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2005): I agree with previous response. He doesn't want you, but doesn't want anyone else to have you. Forget him and if you think you will hurt his friend, let him go too. Dont make someone else suffer pain because you are confused. Move on, find someone to date who isn't in the same circle (not your ex's friend)
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reader, Ellis Mac +, writes (24 October 2005):
What do you want to do?
Listen to your heart. The thing is, there are no mistakes to be made in life. Life is all about learning lessons, and all the trials and tribulations we go through, we have to go through to learn. Consider what might be your lesson to learn here.
Deep down inside, you will have an intuitive feel as to how you want to play this. This is your life and you are responsible for you. However, every action has a consequence, and these must be considered, but ultimately, we have to be true to ourselves.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (24 October 2005):
 This seems to be very much an example of what we can't have, we want but when it is available, the challenge diminishes somwhat. The guy you are in love with is like this and he is playing with you.
Okay, think about this. He wants you now because you are with someone else. He doesn't seem very trustworthy to pursue a girl who is with someone, or very nice for that matter. How typical it is for him to finally show some interest when you are with someone after you have waited for so long. But his behaviour should illustrate to you a warning; he is artificial, he is playing games and basically, you should give him his marching orders.
Ask him directly why is he showing some interest in you when before he showed no interest. Put him on the spot and then declare that you are happy with someone else, or at least, with someone else which means that you will not entertain him because you are more loyal and trustworthy than that-very much unlike him. Say to him that he isn't being fair to his mate either. Your boyfriend would do well to no longer have him as a friend.
Ignore this guy then, as best as you can. Everytime you find yourself feeling as if you long to slip into his arms, remind yourself that he is a creep if he can try to take you from his mate and that he is playing games. If he was successful, I believe then he wouldn't want to know. It is simply the challenge that turns him on.
Have fun with your new boyfriend and push this guy to the back of your mind. Say what you want to say to him, then ignore him and go out with your boyfriend.
Good luck.
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