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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

I've been avoiding sex because I'm afraid of being compared to her other 30 partner!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend and we have been official for just over a month now. I've known her for 3 years prior to getting involved with her. She is a lovely person, and I'm so glad we are together, but she recently confided in me that she has slept with ...

How can I make this not hurt?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5376 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - heyy. my name is C******, and i am 15. okay here's my question. -i like to masterbate the same as everone else does. i only like rubbing my clit though. well everone else can go inside the hole, i cant. well i can but it hurts, why? help me ... ...

He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I ...

How can I convince my fiance to perform on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - My fiance has always told me " If it bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die, I'm not eatin' it!". Oral sex is something I personally have never experienced, and would like to. How can I convince my man of 20 years to try this with me, for it is a bad ...

Cheating, Love, and Hate.. I don't know what to do!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Me and this girl have been friends for a while and her boyfriend and I have been friends for even longer. I am talking many years and I would consider him my best friend. Anyway one day she starts to touch my arm so I start to do it back. This es...

Please help me not to concentrate on sex so much!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - i am 22yr old guy and my problem is i just feel very horny all the time there is sex in my mind all the time coz of witch i just cant concentrate on any other work. i have a girlfriend and i have sex with her every time we meet but still i feel the ...

Could this be causing my premature ejaculation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I suffer from frenulum breve and phimosis. My foreskin can just about be pulled down past my penis head and then my frenulum starts to pull my penis head downwards. Could this be why i suffer from premature ejaculation?...

I am pondering an affair because my husband won't initiate intercourse!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Thanks for reading my question... My husband has over the last few months lost interest in me sexually. At first i didnt notice, we are busy and all. But suddenly realised that it had been 4 months... I spoke to him and said hon, whats happenin...

How long will it take for me to start enjoying sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I had 1st time sex with my boyfriend last weekend and we plan to have sex again after a night out this weekend. I knew to expect a bit of pain and discharge 1st time so we used a towel to keep any mess off the bed (my boyfriend also wore a c...

What should I do to just relax and be able to have sex with my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Well. Its been sometime since i had sex. Counting now i thinks its 4 years. And i want to have sex with my boyfriend but I'm afraid it would hurt and besides the fact im much bigger than i was before meaning weight size what should i do to relax and ...

I feel like our sex life is drying up. Any suggestions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Hi, i don't know if i have a problem or if it's just me, it's that i have been married to my wife now for 27 months and although i love her with all my heart, and i know she loves me, i feel like our sex life is already drying up. Before we had our ...

Did my husband text her acknowledging a lunchtime blowjob?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi again everyone. Just an update about the 'situation' and more need for help. I am the wife trying to come to terms with the texting husband and discovered more texts on his old phone, one calling her a 'dirty little minx' but none of ...

My girlfriend and I would like to have a threesome. Is this healthy for our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - my gf and i were discussing our sexual fantacies and we both realised that we both would like to have a threesome but with each of us present when it goes down i would like to know if this is healthy for our relationship...

Everytime I hook up with my girlfriend I feel sick and I hurt "down there"!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Ok I have a girlfriend right? And we hook up or cuddle or whatever you want to call it, and when we do it gets really intense but, I havent had sex with her yet. Shes had it before but Im still a virgin. Now the thing is a couple of hours after ...

It's his first time getting a blowjob, can I get a std?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5599 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for months now, and we are absolutely crazy about each other. I know him well, and know for a fact that he has never been sexually active with anyone. He is super shy, and has told me he hasn't, and I can honestly say I ...

Dry humping....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5599 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - hey there, whenever me and my boyfriend are dry humping, semen never comes out, and i was wondering why that is ??? thanks a lot, i really appreciate it =]...

My wife had filed divorce because of my internet addiction, how can I get her back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been married for almost six years. It is a second marriage for the both of us. When we first started dating the passion and love making was amazing. As we continued dating and became engaged, things stayed fantastic. As we ...

If two fingers hurt a penis is going to horrible!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - the other week i was at a party and ended up making out with a guy i like, he fingered me but he only used one finger and when he tried to use two it hurt alot, how can i make it looser? cz i'm 17 and wanna have sex but if two fingers hurt a penis ...

I'm in love with an 18 year old I met on the internet. He told me he wants sex, and I do too.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I am 14, and have fallen in love with an 18 year old over the internet, we have been on webcam, shared pictures, text and call eachover. he is already in a relashionship with a 16 year old but i love him andd he feels the same, he wants to come and ...

Is she lying? She didn't bleed when we first did it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hello, my question is my gf said that she was a virigin before me, but wouldn't that mean that when we first had sex that she would bleed? Or is she lying about me being the only one? I do trust her but Im not sure because she didnt bleed when...

I get too wet during sex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i come to fast and get wet to much why?...

A warning from one teenager to others . . .

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - This is for the teenage girls who purposefully try to get pregnant, because they think they are 'ready' or they think it will be 'cool' to carry a baby around in there arm or have a belly to show off, or it will keep you and your boyfriend together ...

My husband is too shy in the bedroom!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My husband is a little shy in some ways in the bedroom. I know what i want and i have talked to him about having a desire to fulfill his fantasies as well as he fulfill mine, but he seems to intimidated, and doesn't. Sex is really good, but its ...

How do I satisfy him without sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - hey I have been with my bf for about 4 months we haven't had sex because i'm just not ready and however corny this sounds i want my first time to be special and i think he understands that but he never seems fully satisfied with the physical ...

Should I go or stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Iam 30 yrs old and married to a wonderful, extremely caring, gentle and patient guy for the last 4 years and we share a common passion for holidays, food, wine, countryside etc. which we enjoy doing together. I couldnt ask for a better husband, ...

Does Plan B work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months and having sex for 2. He sometimes asks me if he can just pull out but I've always been too afraid to risk it (because I'm not on any other type of birth control) so we always used a condom. ...

I really love him but the lack of affection is making me miserable!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5600 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi, my husband has said that he does not feel like sex because he is tired, sick of work, etc. We have sex about once every 3 weeks, which is sending me crazy. He is late 40's and I am mid 30's. He has been like this since I put on 20kg (after ...

I think I still love my ex even though I'm married and haven't seen him for 6 years!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been married for three years and I do not enjoy sex with my husband. My ex-boyfriend (before I met my husband) was very good in bed and I think I still love him. I haven't seen him for 6 years no but still think about him. What should I do?...

We want to try and have sex but I cant bring myself to do it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Ive been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months now. Im still and a virgin and he knows this and he is very uncderstanding saying he will wait till im ready. But the problem is im too scared because I dony know what to do and ive been told ...

Should I lose my virginity to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - A girl that Ive been dating for a little while and i are planning to go to a convention out of state and hang out and see what their is to see. we have considered having sex for the first time, usually im really nervous about the idea but this time ...

Questions about sex and foreplay....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - hi everyone, ok this is a simple question. what is the difference between dry humping and body rubbing ?? i'm only 15 so that's why i don't know what's the difference, but thanks and i really do aprreciate it. i also wanted to know what is for...

I ran into my childhood crush, things were going great, we slept together...and now he seems more distant

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I made a big mistake. You would think a woman 44 years old would know better. I ran into a man i had a huge crush on when I was in High School. We bacame friendly while online where we belonged to many of the same sites. Once we exchanged phone ...

What is he really thinking of when we make love, me or porn stars?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend nearlly 2yrs now. i am 18 and he is 21. we use to kiss and cuddle all the time but now we dnt do it very often. he never gives me sex i get it once a week. i am a pretty girl i am slim and smart dressed i like to make ...

Older, "obese" guy Fetish

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hey, I'm a 16 year old female (I am the legal age of consent in my state). I have this...fetish...for older guys. Not only older guys, kind of...fat...older guys. (around the ages of 26-38) Is it weird? I haven't told ANYONE. I don't think I ever ...

She doesn't want sex!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I am a 30yo male with a 30yo girlfriend. We have been together for 3 years lived together for 2 one of which was overseas, we have returned recently. My problem is she has been saying she doesn’t want sex, she has had this stance for 18months...

Boyfriend is a player but talks about starting a family? Whats wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi there....ok I met this guy, realized he is a player, had sex and now we keep it cool, always talking with each other, but knowing that nothing serious will happen. Every time that I am with him, he talks about women, he flits with other women in ...

No Sex Nellie: thinking of having a fling!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I am 45yr old female married for 16yrs.Is it abnormal for me to still want sex as my husband seems to be incenced if I approach him.I am getting desparate and thinking of having a fling. No Sex Nellie...

Who gets more pleasure from sex, men or women?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5423 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - who has a better oragism men or women and who gets more plessure from masturbating man or women...

I had my first blow job but I didnt feel anything!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5372 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I'm kinda shy here, so this is a BIG step forward for me ^^' Anyway recently I finally got over a self-confidence issue of not allowing anyone to do anything to me, and I received my first ever blowjob! (YAY!) Unfortunatly for me, I couldn't reall...

Does less foreplay equal better orgasms?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (?) - My wife and I a wonderful relationship. She normally reached orgasm very quickly. She says that if we have too much foreplay, she loses the ability to have an orgasm or her orgasm is not very intense even with a vibrator. Is this common? I always ...

I used to go and hunt for sex, now I seem to prefer to do it on my own!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - Hi, I seem to have lost my libido with other people. I don't really understand it. I am gay, have never had much of a problem having sex with people. Now I just seem to prefer doing it on my own. I used to go and hunt for sex but now I just think ...

14 years with my BF but I don't want sex anymore. Whats my problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I don't care for having sex with my boyfriend no more. We've been together since I was 15 years old, now 29. I keep having these dreams about him having sex with someone else. I don't like for him to touch me or nothing. I started to go to the ...

Guys - I need hints on talking dirty.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5546 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - this is for the males out there..well girls can answer too...My hubby wants me to talk dirty to him while we having sex..but im not sure what to say...i mean i know he wants to hear that im loving it and he's going a great job and feels good..but i ...

Is a clitoral orgasm easy to experience?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I am 22 years old and have a partner. I have had one clitoral orgasm with a vibrator but never with my partner. I'm kinda scared to have another one, will it get easier to experience... a clitoral orgasm? Also, I'm not sure if I have had a gspot...

We want to have sex with another couple, is it fair to go ahead without the other husbands permission?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - i am 35 years old married person and my wife is 29 years beautiful and charming lady. actually we both like sex very much and we have sex almost daily. now we are feeling to change some the partner for sex not permanent just for change only. we both ...

Should I go to Sydney to visit my online lover or forget about him completely?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I really need some advice regarding a long distance male I have had contact with for the last 6 months. He lives in Sydney. I live in Perth. To cut a long story short when I found him on Oasis I was quite vulnerable and hadn't been long out of ...

Problems with sex in our relationship....we're only in our 20's!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years but we aren't having sex anymore. We have probably had sex 5 times this year. We're both in our 20's so libido isn't the problem! He complains I am not horny enough- this may be because of the pill? ...

Struggling to have sex for the first time!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5600 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - So, I'm 24, still a virgin and have found the love of my life. We're getting engaged soon and I really would like to have sex. I have not had intercourse before because I'm afraid of the pain. We have tried before but it feels too weird and i feel ...

Just married and hardly having sex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5601 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi, This is a very long post, sorry about that. I have been with my partner (now husband) for almost 10 years and we have had our share of ups and downs. However we have finally decided to spend the rest of our lives together. Before marriage...

I'm 16 and pregnant..my mom doesn't deserve this big disappointment from me..should I tell her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have a very difficult situation...2 months ago my mom finally accepted my boyfriend. I love him. and i;m so sure he's it. I'm 16 years old. My birthday is in two weeks...Anyway it was difficult to get him accepted because I'm the only girl and the ...