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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I had 1st time sex with my boyfriend last weekend and we plan to have sex again after a night out this weekend. I knew to expect a bit of pain and discharge 1st time so we used a towel to keep any mess off the bed (my boyfriend also wore a condom properly). Since we'll be having intercourse regularly,I was just wondering how many times it will be before my vagina settles down and gets used to a penis so Ican start enjoying the sensations.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (31 July 2009):
Well, I'm not a woman, but I've seen other women say it takes 5 times to stop hurting, 10 times to start enjoying.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (31 July 2009):
 It is very different for everyone, some people can enjoy sex right away and some take a good few times before they enjoy it. I would say that you need to enjoy a bit of foreplay before you have sex to make sure that you are properly lubricated (that sounds disgusting lol). The more turned on you are, the better it will feel.
If you are planning on having sex after a night out, that wont really help if you will be drinking alcohol. While alcohol helps you to lose your inhibitions and makes you more confident, it lessens sensation during sex. So while it wont hurt as much, you wont enjoy it so much either!
Just keep on trying, you will enjoy it soon I'm sure. Go to your doctors and get the pill if you plan on having regular sex - condoms break, leak etc and can be unreliable. You need the back-up of birth control too. If you think you would forget to take the pill then you can get the injection from the doctors too, that is once every 3 months and gives the same protection as the pill. Make sure you are safe, the last thing you want is to get pregnant!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): Hi dear,I hope I don't sound orthodox or something and I'm sure you would be irritated that I'm going to say this but it's just that I have made a similar mistake in my life so just saying, it's way to early for you to indulge in sex. I didn't have sex but I was physically active with a guy at your age, and it still bothers me. Please please please do think before you act and be very very careful.If you are very sure about yourself and your relation, than I would say that over the time your vagina would get used to it....maybe you can ask your guy to finger you as that might help your vagina to loosen up.Do take care of yourself.And keep it safe and protected.
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