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writes:My fiance has always told me " If it bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die, I'm not eatin' it!". Oral sex is something I personally have never experienced, and would like to. How can I convince my man of 20 years to try this with me, for it is a bad experience with another girl that's the reason he won't do it with me.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (31 July 2009):
 good straight answer Emily. Marriage is all about give and take compromises. His use of such a sophomoric and trite phrase is not a good sign at all. I would say he has a pride problem more than a prior experience problem.
Now having said that there are people out there who have such dysfunctional upbringing that they can't bring themselves to change a baby's diaper. Let alone kiss the bearded lady. I feel sorry for them as they will miss out on a whole garden of delights, in the name of sanitation. One thing I do know is you can't force the situation. You can introduce him to your parts. Let him play with them, wash them, examine them, smell them. Perhaps then he will want to taste them.
In the end I think Emily has it right this could be a deal breaker for you. He is inflexible, and you are wanting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): There used to be a joke about that! How can you trust something that bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die? Oh well. Not the funniest of jokes, I'll grant you that.
He's got three choices really. Either he eats your pussy during the three good weeks out of four or he waits until you get to the menopause, (yes, there are SOME good things about the menopause) or he can pave the way for some other guy to give you what you need.
Tell him the choice is his!
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reader, DLover  +, writes (31 July 2009):
Well, make sure you are at the right moment of the month, that you very clean and maybe try some intimate perfume (be careful not to irritate or dry yourself, as this will create unwanted bacterias)
Also, start by asking him to simply stimulate your clitoris with his mouth, you should find that very pleasurable, while he should not feel threaten.
By the way, he is not alone, many men do not like that, especially the generation before his (the one after the baby boomers).
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reader, IamSoConfused  +, writes (31 July 2009):
Ask him what his problem is with it or just convince him that you are different.
I don't know about his experience with the other girl but if she was not the cleanest person in the world then you can reassure him that you aren't like that.
Or maybe that is just not his thing and you should let it go. Don't let it ruin your relationship.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 July 2009):
Tell him you can't go the rest of your life without it and give back the ring.Also, I hope you aren't giving him oral sex.Tell him that if he's not willing to try and please you EVER then you don't want to be married to him.Good Luck!! xx
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