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writes:I don't care for having sex with my boyfriend no more. We've been together since I was 15 years old, now 29. I keep having these dreams about him having sex with someone else. I don't like for him to touch me or nothing. I started to go to the doctor to see what's wrong with me. So can you please explain to me about what could be going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, chevara +, writes (29 July 2009):
Well this is very common, not normal. Look you have been together a long time, and you may feel you have missed out in life. You are doing right by going to the Dr. for a check up. It may be that your hormones are going through a big change that will affect you in so many ways. Be careful, your choices that you make are going to change things.
Something similiar happened to me, at the end of last year. My spouse of 13 years went and is going through some changes. Its hard, we have 2 kids a 12 y old and 6 y old. She didn't like me touching her, talking to her and other things. Look if you don't have kids it's a plus, but the heartache and hurt will still be there regardless. I don't know how you can handle things, but if you can be strong and fight, do it. The grass is not greener on the other side.
You've been together for a long time, you know that alone is rare now a days. Take your time, find your self, and really think about all that you 2 have been through, and accomplished. Just consider everything. He should too, if there are 0 kids between you 2, yall can come to an agreement. I wish you the best, but have you thought about what if it was him going through all these changes. You just have to be strong. Sometimes giving up is the easiest thing to do, but fighting to hold on and work through it all is the hard part. You are young and can redo your life, but this man has been there through 14 years, and through the good times and bad times. God bless you, you'll find your way.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 The relationship could be fizzling out and you could be getting bored but don’t give up. Maybe you need relationship counseling if you want it to work. I’d say try and spice things up again with new positions and stuff like that. If that doesn’t work you need to talk to your partner and try and resolve the problem with him or end the relationship and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): with time the sexull atraction in a relationship can diminish. this is verry normal and is often easy to remady. try takeing it at a pace that you can deal with and try new things.
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