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writes:I am 14, and have fallen in love with an 18 year old over the internet, we have been on webcam, shared pictures, text and call eachover. he is already in a relashionship with a 16 year old but i love him andd he feels the same, he wants to come and see me in his car soon, im still a virgin and want to loose my virginity, he has told me he wants sex and has asked me for sex. i want sex for myself no1 else, but im worried about becoming pregnant even if we use a condom. its my first time and i want to no, does sexual intercouse hurt, as he is 4 years older than me and has a big penis. can someone give me advice or help me decide what to do.thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): When I read this, I realized I'm in the same situation you are.
Well, I'm going to be 15 next month, but I still love an 18 year old I met on the Internet. I call him, text him & the same stuff you do, and we've even talked about sex once or twice.
The thing is, he said if we do end up together, he wants to meet my parents first and he wants to wait until I'm 16/17 for us to have sex. (which is funny.. when i'm 17, he'll be twenty. eeew. xD)
But thats what I think you should ask your lover when you're speaking to him if you really love him and he supposidly loves you. Ask him if he's willing to wait for you. & keep in mind that he is in a relationship. Ask him about this too. If he really loved you, of course.. wouldn't he be willing to give up his relationship with his girlfriend for you? it's not fair for you, or the other girl to be hurt. I honestly don't think this guy is very trustworthy.. Make sure he respects you & your feelings.
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reader, jenny-love +, writes (1 August 2009):
i think if you had sex with this guy then you would regret it
i think ur too young but i suppose you hear that all eh time lol
trust me sex ur first time is loads more better with someone you care bout who you have known more than over eh internet
this guy is older than you and he is thinkin way hay a virgin am well gettin in there he should know better he would just be takin advantage of you it might not seem that way to you but i know from experiance if you do he will get wot he wants then ditch you cos hun if he could cheat on his gf then he can do it to you
hes just a scum bag
hes not in love with you
men will tell you anythin to get sex they will make you think they care n want more when they dont
all does is leaves you feeling hurt vunerable used and will make your first experiance of sex a complete let down
save ur self for someone worth givin ur virginty to
when the time is right you will know its right
if you thought that it was you would not be askin others for advice
and trust me when you know when its right and who with you will know its lot more special n loving than with some stranger you meet on eh net who gonna dump you when hes done
ps lol the first time is sore it hurts lol
gd luck i hope you do the right thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): sex may or may not hurt 1st time.you may love it like hell.just like me when i had sex 1st time at 14.i do doubt you will split that is what a baby does not a penis.
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reader, mr.dork88  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 yes it hurts for your first time so dont do it until you r older and ready try when your 17 or older then at least you wont be a lil girl any more, wait plz im telling you if you have seex that young you r going to regret it
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reader, Hesty +, writes (31 July 2009):
Honey, he doesn't want you or a relationship (he already has one!) and wants to have sex with an underage girl in his car!
I think that says all you need to know about what a loser this guy really is.
Report him, move on and only lose your virginity when you're mature enough to handle it and in a proper, long term, relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): I have to agree with what everyone else has told you. This man IS much older than you, and he wants sex. That's ALL he wants, and he's made that very clear.
He's not in love with you - and REAL love takes a whole lot more than a few "meetings" via webcam or phone, but that's a whole other story - and you are infatuated and flattered by his talk.
Do not agree to meet him. You are running a big risk if you do, and will regret it.
Don't let him fool you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): I must beg you to read all this.
Here's a 'tough love' note from me to you. First of all, he is IN A RELATIONSHIP. How can you love this boy and take him seriously if he is willing to cheat on his current girlfriend? What makes you think that he wouldn't do the same to you once he gets bored?
Secondly, your body is not ready for this. It's not, trust me. Your body is still maturing at 14. It will be painful, and you could tear because you're just not developed enough.
Now imagine having such a tear and having to go through the embarrassment of asking your parent to go to the hospital with you cause you're feeling that discomfort.
Of course at this age it's perfectly normal to have sexual feelings, but it's your hormones emerging. It doesn't mean you're actually ready for sex. If it's really bothering you, maybe try experimenting with masturbating and pleasuring yourself if you have to, but don't give your virginity up at 14. That's really sad.
I am a 17 year old female, and just saying if someone my age is asking someone your age for sex, I would personally slap him. It's soo wrong. Don't do it.
I am in a relationship with a guy who I've met online, and it doesn't mean he's a pedophile. But with the age differences and his demands, your 'bf' probably is. I mean he has a girlfriend!! Just run!! Forget about him. You WILL find someone new and better. Someone who's not cheating on his gf with you!! That in itself is a "NOOOOO". If he is not mature enough to at least break up with his current gf before even mentioning sex of all things with you, he IS NOT ready for a relationship. He's a player!!
This guy is sketch. You think you love him, but it's not love. Drop him, if you don't you could regret giving him what he wants for the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): uhh, no you don't want sex u need counseling and help. Ask your parents or family members if this okay and then come back and tell us how they feel. If you can't discuss it with your parents you shouldn't be doing it. Just tell him to keep it in his pants and log out from the internet it'll drive u insane and to do stupid things.
Good luck
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Stay safe ( and a virgin)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): no, no, no...you need to think this trough, you haven't even met him in person before yet, & you're too young. You need to be careful, online dating is dangerous.
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reader, Hattie127 +, writes (31 July 2009):
if he's asked you for sex and you haven't even met this guy, i'm really worried. firstly because he could be dangerous, secondly you're 14 and you're not of the legal age for sexual intercourse and thirdly because he has a girlfriend. i don't think you should think about losing your virginity to this guy, despite being in love with him. hes alot older than you and you're still very vulnerable.
if you decide to go ahead with it though, condoms are essential and i think theyre 99% effective, IF used correctly!
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