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Archived questions from: May, 2013 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

My husband's comment about "you women" made me immediately think he's cheating!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

31 May 2013 (F) - I have suspected for months that things have been going on at my husband's place of work although of course he has strongly denied as he really has too much to lose. However, we were about to go to bed for sex the other evening and it was cold so ...

Is cybersex cheating and is it forgivable?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

31 May 2013 (F) - My husband of 15 years was caught having an affair online with a colleague. He left "chat" open and I read all the sordid details. He claims everything happened online but I discovered they had plans to meet. I feel beyond betrayed and hurt and...

Suspicious email to husband--he denies he's signed up. Can I believe him?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

30 May 2013 (?) - Dear Cupid, I have a problem. I just got married. I h ave been with my man for a long time. I was looking through his emails and came acroos a email from XXXXbook [mod note: actual site name removed, it is not facebook]. I wouldve just deleted ...

Has anyone with retrograde jealousy ever come to terms with it and found peace?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4143 days ago

29 May 2013 (M) - About 2 years ago I posted an issue in this forum about how my wife cheated on me while we were dating and how lost her virginity to another man. This was despite her telling me she would not have premarital sex with anyone until married and I ...

My husband always looks at other women and tells me that's normal. I can't bear it! Help?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - whenever i am out with my husband, he always look at other womens which i can't bear. its hurting me always. due to which i don't talk to my husband 2-3 days. but still he does the same. i spoke to him about this. he says it's normal. but i can't ...

I see my marriage as an obligation, not something that I can enjoy and have fun being in

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - Hello! After a lot of time that i haven't seen my ex-boyfriend, i think that i don't really feel the need to be with him anymore. We only talk some times in the phone in a friendly way. We remain friends after all, but i don't like a more intimate ...

The thought of this man really excites me but I don't want to lose my husband

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - I am riddled with guilt, anxiety, and excitement. I am married 15 years to a man I have known 20 years. Recently I met a man at a place I usually shop. We struck up a conversation, and met almost every day there. Finally he asked me if I am ...

I want to hurt my husband with words the way that he hurts me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - My husband always says harsh words to me which make me feel worthless and they stay in my mind for a long time. He says words which belittle me and make me feel worthless. Anytime I give an opinion or request he jus turns it down so harshly. When he ...

My wife misses her mom who lives in another state

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

28 May 2013 (M) - My wife and I have been married almost 21 years. We met in California, which is where we have chosen to live. However, my wife's mom is from the South. Her mom lived in other places during our marriage including Alaska, Washington, and Californ...

How do I get my husband to focus on me in bed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

28 May 2013 (F) - Hi guys. My hubby and I have a good sex life. But I was wondering how I can get him to focus on me in bed? He doesnt give oral- so thats out of the question. When we are intimate, I think I initiate a bit more, Ill kiss him rub his body, give him a ...

I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

27 May 2013 (F) - Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...

I'm married so why am I seeking validation from other men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

27 May 2013 (F) - I'm a married woman in my twenties who still seeks validation from every man I see or meet. Meaning, I want them to find me attractive. What does that mean? Am I screwed up in the head, or are a lot of women like this? How do you get past something ...

I don't want to lose my marriage over porn...but I cannot trust someone who will look me in the face and lie.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4192 days ago

25 May 2013 (F) - My husband knows how I feel about watching porn behind my back and lying about it. I don't like him watching it at all because I know that my body doesnt compare to those girls (after having his baby my stomach was severely covered in stretch ...

Is it normal for ex wives/husbands going on vacation together normal?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4227 days ago

25 May 2013 (M) - I am on my third marriage/my wife also her third. My wife is going on vacation with her grown kids, grandchildren and with her ex husband from her first marriage. The ex is bringing his girlfriend also. I just find it strange that she would want to ...

My husband being a night owl is causing problems in our marriage

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4228 days ago

25 May 2013 (F) - My husband is a night owl whilst i quite like my sleep! But the difference is annoying not only at home but socially. Like we were at a wedding yesterday and i had work the next day - i said maybe we could go home around 12. But we agreed o...

My wife got pregnant by her lover and had a secret abortion!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4138 days ago

24 May 2013 (M) - This is difficult but I will just say it. My wife had an affair with a person I considered my friend and got pregnant. She made arrangements with her lover (also married) and had a secret abortion one year ago. We have been married for 6 years and ...

My Wedding. Does any one have any solutions? I'm just terrified of everything and everything revolving around me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4230 days ago

22 May 2013 (F) - Hi! So I dont really know what to do for this, but I'm afraid of my wedding. I'm not afraid of commitment or anything and Im not afraid to go to other peoples weddings- just afraid of my own. I start looking at venues or dresses and just panic. ...

Do you think he has started having different feelings? If so I might as well end this relationship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4226 days ago

22 May 2013 (F) - So for the past 5 months I have been in a fwb relatioinship with a friend I met thru a friend. The thing is I'm married and he's not married but is already in a relationship himself. So we work on eachothers schedule. Now the sex isn't always the...

No diagnosis for his ED and lack of desire! My marriage is almost destroyed by this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4231 days ago

21 May 2013 (F) - I hope there are someone out there in my situation. I feel so alone with my problem. My 28 year long marriage is almost destroyed by this, and I dont know what else can I do. So my husband has a chronic sexual/erectile dysfunction, and complete ...

Dodgy messages on husband's phone, suspicions of a prostitute, should I phone the person to see who it is?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4231 days ago

21 May 2013 (F) - I have been married for almost ten years and we have a six year old son. My husband has always been interested in porn (every year or so he slips up and I "find" something, particularly quite young women although not illegal), but I have had no ...

What city should I file for divorce in?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4232 days ago

20 May 2013 (F) - I am thinking very seriously about divorcing my spouse. I was wondering if I plan on moving after I give him the papers do I find a lawyer in the city I live in now or then city I plan to move to? It will be in the same state. ...

Mother in law blamed me for her son's change of behavior.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4233 days ago

20 May 2013 (F) - My husband is a grown man he's 33years old 4 years older than me He was 30 when he join the Army and I was pregnant with our twins while he was gone. He's always a Momma's boy for the last 6 years we dated ( joint bank account with mom) his whole ...

I haven't heard from him for a long time, and miss him a lot!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4217 days ago

19 May 2013 (F) - Thanks for help first. I knew a man three years ago from a party. Since I was married at the time, we never talked and saw each other again. I am separated now. Since I was lonely, I went to sing and met the same man again. I told him I wo...

Should I confront my ex-bestfriend who is now sleeping with my soon to be ex-husband?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

19 May 2013 (F) - My best friend and my husband are now lovers. She left her husband, he left me. She has two kids and we have one. She and he have discussed kicking me out of our family home and them moving in. I suspected something was going on for so long...

My husband wants sex but I dont!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4235 days ago

18 May 2013 (F) - Please help! I have been married to my husband for 13 years. We have three beautiful children and are financially stable. My husband is the provider and I am a stay- at- home mom. Other than our sexual problem, we have a wonderful relationship. ...

My husband is very controlling and dismissive

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4234 days ago

18 May 2013 (F) - Hello, I was was wondering if I could get some help here. My husband is very controlling. He refuses to listen to any ideas I have, and plans our weeks the ways he wants them. He will not see movies I want to see, or go to any social events I ...

My husband has been hiding that he's talking to his ex-fling on FB. What to do about him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4233 days ago

17 May 2013 (F) - We've been maried for 3months now. i'm just 22 and hes 24 maybe too young for marriage. We've been LDR for 2years then got married. We've been LDR again for about 2 months now, and he did it again, chatted wih his ex fling, admits he did but refu...

Not crazy about my husband but feel I should stay for the child

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4236 days ago

17 May 2013 (F) - I really need some advice. i am in a marriage that fell apart. a part of me wants to stay because i have a young child with my husband. my husband and i met when we were 22. we have been together for 20 years. he was my first true love. it has been ...

My husband doesn't understand his ex-wife and her daughter are manipulating him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4237 days ago

16 May 2013 (?) - hi,im 34 myparthners 52. we have 3 kids together. i love him but for some strange reason he thinks I don't love him but I love his money or etc. hes terribly wrong! he lived with his ex for 20 years.they have no kids together.we would have a har...

Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4237 days ago

15 May 2013 (M) - I recently saw my wifes Internet search history on her phone and she had visited a horoscope site and specifically looked up "how to seduce a Scorpio". Sounds innocent enough, except for the fact that I am a Cancer!! Been married 19 years. Should ...

How to forget him and go back to how I was before all this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4237 days ago

15 May 2013 (F) - Hi there Just wanted some advise really. I'm married and have been for 20 years. Feeling very taken for granted by husband which is normal I suppose. I know he loves me but we've had serious trust issues over the years. He's broken my trust over th...

We have good sex so why is my husband looking at porn?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4238 days ago

15 May 2013 (F) - I recently noticed on the history of my phone was a porn site so clearly its my husband I've checked his history and it was the same site. I don't watch porn but don't mind him watching so said nothing. our sex life is really good to him to and is ...

Our marriage has went downhill since I've been pregnant. He just doesn't seem to care how I feel!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4238 days ago

15 May 2013 (F) - I've written about this topic before, and every time I try other's advice, it just goes no where, and I'm not sure what to do. I'm now 8 months pregnant (fit and all belly). Since I started showing, my sex life has dwindled. It's pretty much beco...

There were five condoms in the drawer and now there are none!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4240 days ago

13 May 2013 (F) - Hello my question is my baby father had like 5 condoms for one we don't use them I check his draw beside every time and seen he had them now its empty my suggest to any women what would you but he doesn't know that I even know about. I've worried ...

Sister and husband had an affair, and I am expected to act all happy at family gatherings!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4236 days ago

13 May 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid, I'd married my first love for more than 10 years. we have one college daughter. Few years ago, I found out he cheated with my younger sister. I filed for a divorce, but never left our house beacause he was begging, crying ...

My husband tried to hook up with my sister!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4241 days ago

12 May 2013 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We aslo have to kids. Recently I found out that he has been talking to my sister. He told her that he doesnt love me anymore. He loves her. That he wanted to be with her if she would give him a chance ...

Wife of many years slept with another man while we were dating and now dealing with it.....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4240 days ago

11 May 2013 (M) - Hey guys, hopefully you can help. My wife and I met in University and when on a date. I then went home for spring break and we spoke every night for hours on end. During these conversations we discussed how many people we had been with, past ...

I'm married but it feels wrong to let this woman slip through my fingers!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4238 days ago

11 May 2013 (M) - Possible drama ahead.. I am a happily married man with 3 young children and a loving wife. I am also deeply in love with another, younger, single woman. I'm approaching 40 and so I can understand that this may related to a mid-life crisis, but I tr...

I wish I spoke "Woman"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4243 days ago

10 May 2013 (M) - My wife of 23 years has on and off tried to end our relationship for as long as i can remember. we both have had previous short lived marriages, and when we first got together i was just outta of marriage by a few months so when we were dating i ...

My husband is more interested in the TV than me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4244 days ago

9 May 2013 (F) - I get my feelings hurt because I do not see my husband all day and when he gets home the first thing he does is go to the TV and stays there all night.(when I do talk to him he doesn't hear half of what I say either) I work part time and...

In my 20's and never had an orgasm, I cant even have sex with my husband! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4243 days ago

9 May 2013 (F) - How common is it for a woman to be in her 20s, and never had an orgasm? Growing up, I had an unusual childhood, not much free time, got picked on in school for the way I looked, and never felt comfortable about my body. I also had a mother who...

My American wife finds my comments on her body cheap!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4245 days ago

7 May 2013 (M) - Actually, I'm from Pakistan who came to US 2 months ago after my wife Spouse Visa petition for me was approved. two and half years ago, we met through internet dating and got married in third country " Dubai". I'm 32 whereas she is 40. She is ...

Husband calls me names and is sarcastic. Then calls it a joke. Is this OK? Will it hurt our relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4245 days ago

7 May 2013 (F) - My husband of 27 years admits he is sarcastic and is a name caller. He says the opposite of what is meant and then say "I was joking" This happens is front of your children and he thinks is ok and I am overly sensitive. Is this ok in a marriage ...

Do I leave or Do I stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4246 days ago

7 May 2013 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 15 years (together for 17) and have 3 children (17, 14, and 12). Things between his family and I were tolerable at best in the beginning, but it was well known that they didn't like me because I am white (he ...

His controlling female friend is damaging our marriage

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4247 days ago

6 May 2013 (F) - Hmm...I have thought about this issue for many many months but this is the first time I have written it down to try and talk about it...It's such a mess I almost don't know where to begin. My husband and I have this friend..well..he has this ...

Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4246 days ago

6 May 2013 (M) - I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around qui...

I want to tell my boyfriend that I kissed another guy but not sure how to do it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4248 days ago

5 May 2013 (F) - I cheated on my boyfriend and kissed someone when I was drunk I feel bad, he's cheated on me in the past but I felt worse that he had lied to me I want to tell him but I don't know what to say...

My wife doesn't know that I found out she's considering leaving me. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4249 days ago

4 May 2013 (M) - My wife doesn't know that I saw her messages to her friend from a forum she always on but I saw how she said I dont have ambition anymore. she's always talking down about my family. I also read that she talked to her father and how she was thinking ...

I hate my father, but my whole family depends on him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4250 days ago

3 May 2013 (F) - I grew up in such a loving family, and then one day that all changed. My mom and dad had argument and my dad moved out from our apartment. Shortly after my mom and my younger brother went on vacation. The same day that they went, my dad dropped ...

Husband's co-worker is sending him suggestive messages late at night and he is responding!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4250 days ago

3 May 2013 (F) - Hello. I am concerned about my husband's co-worker. I snooped through his email account this morning and found an email from her to my husband saying that if he was single and asked her out, she would say yes. I am very concerned abou...