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anonymous
writes:Hello my question is my baby father had like 5 condoms for one we don't use them I check his draw beside every time and seen he had them now its empty my suggest to any women what would you but he doesn't know that I even know about. I've worried about it from time to time hoping he eventually he would get caught.How can I tell rather he is lyilying?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 May 2013):
 Yes but to the last poster... wouldn't it just be easier to say "honey these condoms are expired I'm throwing them out" and then do it?
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reader, fzald +, writes (13 May 2013):
There are condoms in my drawer. Once they get close to their expiration date, if I haven't used them with my GF, they're going the way of the trash.
If my GF accused me of cheating on her simply because I threw out old condoms, I'd get really upset. It'd be a sign she doesn't trust me and that she is looking for reasons to reinforce that distrust.
Think about your relationship. Are there any real reasons you should distrust him, other than this? This is such a minor thing that there are so many other possible explanations, some of which have already been posted. The real signs of cheating are a lot more involved than just missing condoms.
Consider all of these things, and ask him about them. A relationship will NOT last without trust. Trust can be shaken at times, but if it goes away,getting it back is difficult enough that in most cases the relationship will end... So, try to restore trust before you end up losing it!
Best of luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 May 2013):
You clearly don't trust him.
you need to ask him, the problem is if you already don't trust him, will you believe him?
and how will you let him know you've been checking up on him?
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reader, Abella +, writes (13 May 2013):
 Is your guy a man who plays sport?
Because some golfers use condoms to cover the top of golf clubs in the rain.
Fishermen sometimes use condoms to hold live bait.
And even soldiers or guys shooting for recreational reasons use condoms to protect the end of a gun from water wrecking their gun.
I've heard of parents filling up a condom with a huge amount of water and floating the said condom in the bath to prove to sons just how strong a condom is during a birds and bees talk.
Is he a very tidy guy? Perhaps he decided the condoms were past their use by date?
More telling will be to notice if he re-stocks the drawer with new condoms.
That said, do you believe you are in an exclusive relationship with him? Do you have any other signs that suggest that you cannot trust him?
If he's cheating there should be other clues. Is he more evasive about his movements? Are there more unexplained absences than before? Is he slightly less interested in you than previously? Is he finding fault with you more often than he's ever done before? Does he ever cancel a date or change plans to meet you, at very short notice? Does he seem less interested in you than before?
If you have a range of reasons to believe that you and your guy are no longer exclusive, or worse that he's possibly cheating, then it's time to have a talk.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 OP, since you were already checking his bedside drawer to see if the condoms were still there, I would say that you dont trust him.
The only way to sort out this issue is for you to ask him what happened to the condoms. He might have thrown them out [expired] or given them to one of his mates, or even used them to masturbate into.
By asking him and guaging his reaction to your question and his answer will tell you if he is telling the truth.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (13 May 2013):
 This doesn't mean he must have cheated.
He could have
- thrown them out
- used them while masturbating
- give them to a friend
- put them somewhere else
Just ask him where are the condoms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2013): Just as him OP, you'll be able to tell from his response.
He might have just given them to one of his friends or thrown them out seeing as he has no use for them.
Instead of sitting there paranoid trying to play Sherlock Holmes just ask him. Simple.
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