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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So for the past 5 months I have been in a fwb relatioinship with a friend I met thru a friend. The thing is I'm married and he's not married but is already in a relationship himself. So we work on eachothers schedule. Now the sex isn't always the main thing we're both looking for comfort and attention as we don't get it from our actual partners. We talk about our problems and give eachvother advice. In these couple of months we have only had sex about 8 times. Now about a month ago we were talking on the phone and right before we hung up he tells me he loves me and I reply the same back. Now I know im not in love with him like that but I do love him as a friend. I'm not to sure if he feels the same way I do or if he's actually starting to want something more than just a fwb relationship. I'll admit the past month and a half we haven't really spoke since we don't want either one of our partners to find out what's going on. But when we do talk he's very sweet and tells me he misses me and he loves me and he can't wait to see me. And when we're together he hugs me and kisses me very gentely and passionately followed by "I love you baby" or "I missed you babe". Do you think he has started having different feelings? If so I might as well end this relationship. Oh and please if you have nothing nice to say please don't reply.I don't want any negativity from anyone. I understand what I'm doing is not right but I do have my reasons to do what I am doing. But it shouldn't affect your replies. Thank you in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): He has feeling for you, yes. He has told you so, mutltiple times.
Up to you how you deal with that now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you I really appreciate your words.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Feelings are a big danger in FWB relationships. Intimacy of one kind (physical) invites intimacy of another (emotional). You also have the intimacy of the shared secret. He may have a better understanding of your schedule than your husband does.
From what you have told us he is slipping into the use of comfortable words. It is no smoking gun. So to answer your question from a guys point of view. He might be having feelings but you have no solid proof. The idea that you go weeks without talking says that he probably doesn't have feelings.
As to what course of action you should take. Breaking up is the safe path with the added benefit of a brighter outlook for the marriage.
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