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writes: hi,im 34 myparthners 52. we have 3 kids together.i love him but for some strange reason he thinks I don't love him but I love his money or etc. hes terribly wrong! he lived with his ex for 20 years.they have no kids together.we would have a harmony family if nt his ex and exes daughter who is nearly my age. shes a manipulative woman,stronger than me,im naïve and say things louder say what I think unlike her.he thinks im nasty and shes angel,but he doesn't sees that shes using him, does things to destroy our relationship and make us apart,i see he wouldnt. she still lives in his flat,he sees her often calling each other babes on messages and stuff like that.i don't like that! even her daughter send him wedding invitation dad! but she never liked him before or never called him dad.theyre doing it deliberetly but my parthner wont see it.he calles me names.were loosing each other,i don't know what to do.he doesn't cares how I feel,he wants me to keepliving with him like nothings happening but I cant.im getting depression don't enjoy anything any more.cant even go back tomy own country cos ive got 3 kids to support.they wants this to happened cos her daughter and she are loosing his money.i don't care about the money but I want my parthner to wake up and see whos really who!am I reasonable please?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 May 2013):
 If you don't care about the money, then tell him to send them a weekly check via the bank, with the amount you can afford to spare the more the better. Then he's giving them what they want and they will leave him alone.
Problem solved. IF it's about the money. I don't think that's what this is about.
If my younger husband (39, to my 53) whined and complained about my children contacting me and needing me or needing help, I'm not sure I'd tolerate it. He married me knowing I had kids and ex husbands and he knew that I was a package deal. IF half way through the game he wants to change the rules and no longer accept my kids, well then he can learn to be alone.
Since you say you can't go home to your own country (no family to help you?) then you have no choice but to accept it.
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