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writes:Hi guys. My hubby and I have a good sex life. But I was wondering how I can get him to focus on me in bed? He doesnt give oral- so thats out of the question. When we are intimate, I think I initiate a bit more, Ill kiss him rub his body, give him a short massage, usually preform fellatio, then Im usually on top and we switch it up a little more than half way through. He will caress my body and do some "breast play" but thats about it. Do you think theres anything I can do? Or just accept it? I love him, I would stay with him regardless of sex, we have a great relationship.( I wouldnt have married him if I werent committed lol) It would just be nice if he were to pay more attention to my sexual needs. Thanks in advance!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (29 May 2013):
 Try this: give n take. Will he go down on u for something from u that youd rarely do? This compromise could boost ur sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): MMy bf was just like this. He was very selfish and it took me over a year to make him see my way. I tried talking to him and that never worked! So my last resort was to treat him the same and he treats me. No oral, no body rubbing, not too much kissing just sex... And even then I would sometimes say I wasnt in the mood. He soon was asking why I was being like it I told him why and how it makes me feel used, unwanted and unattractive. My words "I feel like I'm a hole" hit him quite hard. He now dose everything I want oral rubbing breasts.. The lot don't let it go. It's not fair sex is about giving as well as receiving. X
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Hi, when you are being initimate, turn it into a game, tease him and stop and smile and tell him, if you want more this is what you have to do for me, and tell him what you want. Sometimes through guidenance and help you can get him to give you what you want without making him feel he is not doing a good job in bed. Therefore I did not suggest a good talk, just lead the way during sex!
Goodluck
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Have you talked to him about maybe slowing down and spending some more time on foreplay? Maybe being more vocal on what you like or direct him where his hands should go?
Does he not perform oral on you because of his own preferences or beecause of yours? I would set a romantic mood and tell him I want to explore him and wish he would do the same.
I hope this helps. Good luck to you!!!
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