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Archived questions from: December, 2016 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

Do abusers set out to deliberately hurt the self esteem of another?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2668 days ago

31 December 2016 (F) - Are there seriously people who will try to bring down a partners self esteem by making them feel bad about them self is making them feel too old for anyone else to want and not as attractive as other women ( or men ) etc . I ask because I've rec...

I hate being alone and will do almost anything so that I am not

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2668 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - A few weeks ago I posted a question about being reallyyyyyyy sad all the time I am an honours student in university, I have a great life at home, I am well off financially, and I have everything I need (not to toot my own horn but I have a ver...

He is two different boyfriends in one. Mr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. He's making me feel scared. what should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - MODNOTE FREE UK resources added by the Moderator: http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/if-you-are-a-woman-experiencing-domestic-violence.aspx Phone 0808 2000 247 in UK and http://www.refuge.org.uk/what-we-do/our-services/helpline/ ...

I've given her support over the years. But now she seems to have dropped me. Should I just accept her rejection and move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2888 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - My friend is mad at me after constantly asking me for advice and not liking my advice. Okay I have this friend from college - we met in class 3 years ago and kept an in-class friendship, we messaged almost every day on Facebook but we live 3 ho...

Can our relationship work? we have a baby on the way but the father of the baby has an addiction. Should I break up with him and move back with family?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - We have a baby on the way and he is addicted to marijuana. I had my own personal addiction to it myself but after realizing I was with child, I don't need it anymore. I want my child to have the extra money instead and to use it to benefit as a fam...

How can I make this work, with her? We both need to lose weight, but her motivation is waning.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

28 December 2016 (M) - I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make i...

I have a serious health issue and cannot have penetrative sex. Will I ever be able to have a normal relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2879 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - Guys, would you date a 29-year old woman who is unable to have penetrative sex and unable to bear children? I'm wondering because you guessed it: that person is me. I have a really bad case of vaginismus (had it all my life for as far as I can tel...

If you are a parent or a carer of special needs child can you help advise me on any of my questions ? I am not asking for experts, just parents in a similar situation

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

27 December 2016 (F) - My severly disabled son has to go into residential care soon . We don't want this but he is very aggressive and they need to take him in to stabilise him because he is on too many medications and they think he will be better going to school and ...

Do you guys have any advice on how to stay confident and keep myself afloat when living in a world that doesn't deem you as beautiful or worthwhile?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2891 days ago

27 December 2016 (M) - So I'm a 22 year old gay guy and I've never had a boyfriend or any sort of relationship in my life. I always used to think that I would only share myself and my body with someone I love and care about (At least when it comes to firsts like first ...

How can I try to improve the way my mother communicates with me? Her egotistical ways are not helping.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2891 days ago

25 December 2016 (F) - Hi all, My problem is about my mother, who has very poor communication skills, even in languages that she's really good at. It might be silly but creates big problems mainly because after not having communicated to us properly, she will turn ...

Was I right to call this woman a silly old trout over her cashmere jumper?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

24 December 2016 (F) - Today me my husband and my severly disabled son when into a fish a chip shop restaurant. My son got hold of one of those small squeeezy packets of sauce, (he can grab at people and throw things so we always try to sit well away from people. )We were ...

I've been feeling anxious and I don't know why. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2887 days ago

23 December 2016 (F) - Recently this past few months I've been feeling really really sad and I don't know how to fix that?? I am an honours student in university, I have a great life at home, I am well off financially, and I kinda have everything...not to toot my own h...

I’m struggling with my sexuality and depression and wonder what I should do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2888 days ago

22 December 2016 (M) - I'd always considered myself a straight man but I guess what I'm about to say kind of disputes that a bit. So for the last 5-6 years I've basically been in love with my best friend who is also a man. I knew the entire time that he wasn't gay and ...

How common is rejection for the first ever date attempt in life?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2895 days ago

22 December 2016 (M) - I've been doing a great deal of inner work lately, and I wonder how much it "wired" me when I was rejected the first time I ever asked someone out, at 17. It would help me to know if this is common or unusual. If you are a guy, were you or any ...

My boyfriend is depressed. Is he likely to come back when he's cooled down?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2888 days ago

22 December 2016 (F) - My boyfriend of a year dumped me because he thinks "he's too depressing" for me and he's in a bad place right now. I told him I was okay with it and I'd do anything to make him feel better if he just opened up a little, but he insisted we broke it...

Would acquiring a new dog help me to forget the loss of my beloved previous dog?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2894 days ago

21 December 2016 (F) - I recently loss my dog two years ago before valentine's day it was not a happier moment for me since I couldn't stopped thinking of my dog all. Can I still get a dog to make me happier so I won't end up missing my old dog at all?...

My disappointment and depression are acted out in tirades

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2896 days ago

20 December 2016 (F) - I am in a relationship with a man who is rather controlling and kind of immature. However, he won't change since we are older. I realize that to enjoy all the great things about him (and he is a wonderful companion for many reasons) I must develop ...

I need my husband's physical attention!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

19 December 2016 (F) - Hi cupids, in May this year my what was to me perfect world crashed. I was hospilised for what we thought was a stroke, (I'm 37) however after many many tests I have a neurological condition which is called hemipligic migraines, which after an ...

Is he a keeper? After all the white lies I'm starting to doubt my partner of 6 years.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

18 December 2016 (F) - Hi there, thanks for looking :) - I'll try to keep this brief! I've been with my partner for 6 years, living together for 2. I'm 24 and he's 26, and we are usually very close. He's actually a super sweet guy - all my friends think so, and hes kind...

Should I stay or go? If I walk away from this, then what if I never meet anyone else who will love me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

18 December 2016 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend 3 and a bit years and we've lived together just over a year. We've just put down a deposit on our first home together and everything should be great but I have doubts. My boyfriend used to be so sweet an...

I feel as though everything in my life is slowly falling apart. But how can I start to address these issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

18 December 2016 (F) - Where did it all go wrong? :( I've never had a large circle of friends but I was happy on my last year a total school, having roughly about 5-7 friends whom I spoke with daily. As we all parted for our next journey, we lost touch. I now only sp...

I want respect. I packed up and left him after he disregarded our agreement - but how can I demonstrate or convince that I'm not trying to be controlling?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

18 December 2016 (F) - Before I got with my boyfriend I knew he took drugs; weed and cocaine. I really don't like it so when we first started dating I asked how we would work in a relationship, how would we ever live together as I don't want it around me. He assured ...

For the sake of my daughter, should I stay with a man who has just told me that "he wishes I was dead" ? l

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

18 December 2016 (F) - i dropped my fiance off at a work christmas party so he could drink if he wanted to and so he wouldnt have to worry about the snowstorm. he was going to call an uber at 11 so itd be there for sure by 12. that was the plan. i go home, fall asleep t...

My boyfriend can't control his intake of alcohol

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2872 days ago

17 December 2016 (F) - Ok so I have been seen this guys for almost 4 years now. On and off at first (we broke up 4 times and both went looking somewhere else. But would still kept in contact and talk about who we have been sleeping with, then have sex together. Unless one ...

I'm comparing myself to his beautiful ex and feel like I don't measure up!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2901 days ago

16 December 2016 (F) - I have been married to a wonderful man for the last 4 years and I have yet to find any flaws in his looks or personality. In being up front, this is a question based out of my own insecurities and not from something he has done or said. He w...

Crippling retroactive jealousy - does it get better?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

16 December 2016 (M) - My battle with retroactive jealousy: - It's been almost 2.5 years. Improvements: - It is getting better. I can function normally in last one year. - Hearth shattering instant images no longer pops up. - It is getting less visual. - I kinda g...

Do I give him a chance to show he's not like that, once we have our own place, or leave?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2900 days ago

15 December 2016 (F) - MOD NOTE: your update is emphatic that the name you chose for your account - KrisTaylor - is NOT your real name . .... . ..... . ...... . ....... Hello all, I've recently hit a rough patch with my new husband and need some advice. My hu...

Boyfriend wont have sex because he is anxious about unwanted pregnancies

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2900 days ago

14 December 2016 (F) - Hey there! So Ive been with my boyfriend for a year(to keep people anonymous we can call him bob) and I wasn't a virgin when I met him, but he was when we started dating. We've had sex more than a few times but he admitted to me some months ago...

I feel put off by the way he lost his virginity!

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2901 days ago

13 December 2016 (F) - I just found out my boyfriend lost his virginity to a prostitute, it wasnt on a lads holiday or anything he did it to lose his virginity. Is it wrong that i feel put off by this? ...

I feel her weight gain is getting out of control!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2901 days ago

12 December 2016 (M) - I am 27 my girlfriend is 24 we live together and we have a great relationship. The problem I have got is that I feel her weight gain is getting out of hand. She was by no means thin when we got together and I am not saying she should have a model ...

I stil have feelings for my ex, but I don't know what to do next. How can I move forward?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2902 days ago

12 December 2016 (M) - Desperate need for advice. Sorry for the super long story. I broke up with my ex girlfriend a year ago now. I feel that I still have lingering feeling for her. She was my very first girlfriend and for some reason I just can't help but think she...

Does anyone have tips on how to be positive?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2906 days ago

12 December 2016 (F) - I have been going to therapy for a while and the last couple of months it's been a sting of awful evens that have made I guess have a wake up call- from my doctors main issue is that I look at everything in a negative way- life love career - ...

Love-bombing. How long does it last? Will he replicate his love bombing actions in any future relationships ?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2908 days ago

10 December 2016 (M) - How long does love-bombing by a narcissist last for? My dad is a narcissist (I believe) and he cheated and left my mother for a younger woman. I've heard that there are three stages of a relationship with a narcissist - 1. 'love-bombing', 2....

Why is my girlfriend crying over what another guy said when I have tried to reasure her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2904 days ago

8 December 2016 (M) - Few months back, we had a talk about losing weight. She did get upset over it, but it passed and we were talking normally for a month or two. Recently, a guy at school who she talked to called her fat ( either as an insult or for fun). Since we're ...

A threesome with my wife and another male was my fantasy. So why couldn't I get hard looking at my wife?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2905 days ago

7 December 2016 (M) - How would you explain this? What I am about to say was totally MY idea, even though my wife was very into it once it got started...My wife and I were in a male friends house initiating a threesome with him...up to this point you could say it was ...

Is casual sex possible without emotion?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2904 days ago

6 December 2016 (F) - Is sex without emotions possible? I have only had two relations ships one long term since I was 20-26 and another one short brief 7 months ago- I grew up in a strict orthodox background that was never open to sex outside of marriage or being ...

He's become really rough and insistent about sex, is this just a phase?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2906 days ago

6 December 2016 (F) - my bf just wants sex al the time and it is getting very difficult for me/us to lead a normal social life. He used to be very caring and loving but he is like a different person now. He is pressuring me into stuff that i really not sure i want to do ...

How can I stop being addicted to love?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2911 days ago

6 December 2016 (F) - How can one make love not so important? It seems that I'm always thinking about love (I'm single) and thirty 32 but ever since I can remember it's always been 90 percent of my life- I've lost jobs for men - I've gotten into arguments with my family ...

Lack of confidence has put sex on the shelf

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2909 days ago

5 December 2016 (M) - I've been dating a guy now for about 5 months and everything is going really well; however I'm feeling incredibly guilty at the moment because, although we have been intimate a few times, we haven't had sex yet (this is when is starts to get ...

Please advise me. Trying hard to meet the right type

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2910 days ago

5 December 2016 (M) - I am a 30 year old man, and it's the time of year when I see loved-up couples enjoying themselves and families getting together. I have the family part at Christmas (always enjoy that). I have Asperger's Syndrome but that's not the main issue h...

I'm looking for red flags where there are none!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2909 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - Please bear with me- I know I sound quite petulant in some of my actions, but I'm trying to own up to it and fix what I've been doing. I've never really had a successful relationship. I end up dating a guy and by 3 months it's always over. The...

From where do I get any confidence?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2914 days ago

4 December 2016 (M) - Dear cupids, Please please help me. I am a very very quiet person and keep to myself a lot. It takes a lot of time for me to get comfortable with anybody. I also get nervous in presence of people I don't know well. I started working at a new...

I sometimes think sex is a chore.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I are having sex issues and it's really damaging our relationship. He seems to get an erection as soon as he wakes up, but I'm so groggy and tired that I'm not in the mood at that time. I'm also seem to have lost any desire to have ...

Supporting my sick friend but I'm getting run down

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2913 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - I wanted to see if someone has advice on how to get my self esteem up and stop listening to people's negative opinion. I come from a broken home (my dad was abusive to my mom) their still married it was an arranged marriage so long story short ...

My mother in law always sides with her son regardless of how badly he treats me

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2913 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - I have recently had an argument with my mother in law my severely disabled son attacked me , he pulled my hair and my head back and forth several times, I now have terrible pains on my back and neck. I can cope with that but during the attack m...

I'm struggling to leave a bad relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2913 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - Hello I'd like some advice.This is probably all going to sound ridiculous but here goes. I am stuck in a bad relationship it has been bad since the very beggining my partner has done terrible things to me emotionally and physically and I've alw...

How do I get over this rough patch?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2913 days ago

3 December 2016 (M) - I feel so down today. I had no one to share it with so I came on here. I guess it's just a couple of things that have got to me. I have been working full time for a year, and this December within 3 days my whole months salary has gone leaving me ...

Is it possible to have borderline personality yet lack the urge to be a slut and cheater???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2915 days ago

3 December 2016 (F) - I found out recently that I might have borderline personality disorder and dependent personality disorder. Ever since I been researching and trying to fix all the annoying parts these disorders have...And I keep coming to this question here, ho...

Facing dental work and afraid I'll have a nervous breakdown!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2912 days ago

1 December 2016 (F) - This is going to be a very hard night for me. I have always been obsessed, literally obsessed with my teeth. Yet, cursed with bad genetics, so despite my taking care of my teeth I have had fillings and veneers since I was a teen... even earlier. I ...