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writes:I recently loss my dog two years ago before valentine's day it was not a happier moment for me since I couldn't stopped thinking of my dog all. Can I still get a dog to make me happier so I won't end up missing my old dog at all? Reply to this Question
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (24 December 2016):
Eagle'sfan1986 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI talk to my second brother and ask him when the pain goes away losing a member of the family. I really love roscoe so much but i tried bot to cry all the time. I am sorry you loss your dog also. And I am here to talk I'd u want that
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2016): My heart hurts reading this. I lost my best friend, my childhood dog of 13 years at age 16 and even now, 10 years later I still miss her! I promise it gets better ... hugs :-(
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (21 December 2016):
Eagle'sfan1986 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you wise owl and you can't be serious, both your words and comments made me feel better. Whenever I held the little shirt and the bandana I still cried because it reminds me of how he would wear them before he got sick two years ago. He had a illness where he couldn't go potty very well and he would bleed also. I want my own dog but can't right now I am very busy helping my sister and my brother in-law clean and take care of their dog and also my niece.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2016): Very sorry about your loss! There is no rule that says you can't get another dog, after your beloved pet has recently passed on. Let no one lay a guilt-trip on you; if doing so will bring you comfort.
You will still feel grief for the loss, that's a normal emotional process that takes time. Every animal has their own personality and little quirks. Your grief isn't necessarily shortened or eased by finding a replacement.
Grief subsides once the subconscious recognizes and accepts the loss. Keeping busy making a new pet feel at home, and caring for them will give you some joy and grief-therapy.
Just be careful, grief sometimes shortens the patience.
Unlike our relationships to fellow humans, the grief and loss is different. The pain is no less, but the connection between a pet and pet-parent is similar to the loss of a family member.
It's not like replacing a lost possession. Society frowns on quickly dating or remarrying after loss of a mate. Not a pet.
No one could ever convince me losing a pet is the same as loss of a family member or your mate. There really is no comparison. I've experienced both. Some would argue otherwise; but that is normal for people who relate to animals better than they do to people. I think they're mean to say it out loud.
Some people admittedly have more compassion for animals than other people who are injured or abused. They'd do nothing to help or protect another person. I feel sorry for people like that. My compassion is for all creatures. I grieved heavily for my pets when they passed on. Not like I did for my sisters, parents, my partner, and friends. No person has hurt or disappointed me to that degree of cynicism or bitterness towards humanity; that I would show more outrage for abuse of an animal, than I'd feel for a helpless innocent child. I simply don't understand people like that. It frightens me! Some would say something cruel to you in another forum. Not here.
I say, please do get another pet. As soon as you'd like! Just don't be impulsive and get the wrong pet; and find yourself wanting to return it, or give it up.
Please sooth your loneliness and loss for your pet by getting a rescue animal, if possible. Those animals need homes and love; and they will give it abundantly. Just a suggestion. Do whatever pleases you. If you want a particular breed. My neighbor recently rescued a greyhound that formerly raced. They run those poor animals until they lose races or are injured; then toss them aside like trash.
Take care, my dear! My heart goes out to you! I can't say it will make you happier. Your old dog was a character and designed his own path to your heart. A new dog will have to do the same, You both have to bond and start a new chapter together.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (21 December 2016):
 Your old dog will always have a special place in your heart.You will never"replace" them and neither should you try to do so, just as you would never "replace" any member of your family. There are so many dogs in shelters, desperate to find homes before they lose their lives. Could you open your heart to one of these unfortunate animals? Please think carefully before committing to taking on a dog as it is (or at least it SHOULD be) a commitment for the lifetime of that dog. If you are in a position to do it, and you can provide the dog with love and care, then what better tribute and honour to the memory of your old dog than offering a home to a new dog? Be realistic in what you can offer in terms of space, time, exercise and care for your dog so that you pick one which will fit in well. I love this poem. I hope it helps.The LegacyWhen humans die, they make a willTo leave their homes and all they haveto those they love.I, too, would make a will if I could write.To some poor wistful, lonely strayI leave my happy home,My dish, my cosy bed, my cushioned chair, my toy.The well loved lap, the gentle stroking hand,the loving voice,The place I made in someone's heart,The love that at the last could help me toa peaceful painless endHeld in loving arms.If I should die, Oh do not say,"No more a pet I'll have,to grieve me by it's loss"Seek out some lonely, unloved dogAnd give my place to him.This is the legacy I leave behind -'tis all I have to give.
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