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Archived questions from: September, 2017 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I feel so guilty about leaving my abusive ex

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2643 days ago

30 September 2017 (F) - Hi, I previously asked for advice regarding a relationship I was in for 3 years with a guy I lived with who was controlling and violent. It went on for a number of years and last December I cheated on him with a guy who had been keen on me for a wh...

Is this too much for a first and second date or is he just trying to control her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

29 September 2017 (M) - So, a friend of mine is seeing this guy.. They started talking through Bumble. He's slightly older tha her, she's 22. They've only know each other a couple of weeks or so. He's a volunteer police officcer. So, they met at the weekend. Saturda...

Is she seeking attenton from me or just comfortable?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2644 days ago

28 September 2017 (M) - We chat a lot. She seems to remember conversations like from two weeks ago, like we had a conversation about buses and she was per your conversation two weeks ago, she'll remember stuff about me things that I do etc We've known each other for q...

We want different things in life ... should I just let it go?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2644 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. I’m 20 and he’s 22 so we’re still pretty young and we don’t plan on getting married or having kids any time soon. Especially since we’ve only been together for 2 years. But we have com...

I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...

My boyfriend and I argue constantly but I love him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years. Things were great in the beginning but more recently we seem to argue about everything. Things are lovely when we're getting on but we seem to argue most days and he goes silent and will ...

Fiances mother is refusing to come to our wedding unless we change our plans

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2647 days ago

27 September 2017 (F) - firstly, thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm having problems with my fiancées mother. Backstory: me and him met in school, at15, we've been together ever since. We got engaged may 2016 in Fiji we had originally planned a two wee...

Long distance boyfriend is asking for naked pictures, should I trust him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2647 days ago

27 September 2017 (F) - Hi there friends...I really need your advice.. I have a long distance relationship and know for a year.we don't meet yet and we both christian born again... and I dont want this guy to entertain but he was keep in contact with me even if j don't....

I went along with planning for a big wedding. Now I don't want it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2647 days ago

26 September 2017 (F) - Hi I'm getting marrried in a few months and having some serious regrets about the way we've gone about things. We're having quite a fancy wedding with around 100 guests. I thought at the start that a big wedding was what i wanted but now I'm havi...

I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2629 days ago

25 September 2017 (M) - Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 Kids.one of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...

My boyfriend has a new friend & he seems to care more about their relationship than ours.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2628 days ago

25 September 2017 (F) - I've been in a relationship for five years, and cheating has never been something I was concerned about. But about six months ago my boyfriend made a new friend through a club at colleg, and they became close friends real quickly. They talk all the ...

How do you cope and embrace change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2653 days ago

23 September 2017 (F) - How do you cope with change. More so change within the work place. I work in an office and have been here for many years . I do like my job and the company i work. Obviosly i know things change and people come and go. At the moment we have a good ...

I desperately want to reconcile with my ex husband. He had sex with me after he had broken up with his girlfriend but hasn't contacted me since

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2648 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - This is a long story and I apologize but I really need some advice from some neutral parties here. I am wanting to reconcile with my ex-husband. We were married for 4 years. He was and still is the love of my life but he left me for another ...

I didn't bleed so is my hymen still intact after having sex lots of times?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2654 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - hello, well my problem is i had sexual intercourse several times but i did not bleed in any of them, so i'm wondering is it possible that my hymen is still intact??...

I am unhappy at home, and flirting with my ex boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2654 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - I am married for nearly 4 years and lived together for 5 years . Since having my son last year , everything has changed . We both very good with looking after our son but My partner seems to be on the phone so much , which has been locked fo...

We were such good friends, now she wont even talk to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2654 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - Slightly off topic of love and relationships but wondering if someone can shine some light over a situation with a close friend. I'm broken, torn, lost and really struggling to come to terms with the loss of my best friend, for the simple reaso...

She's going into an arranged marriage, unhappy with the man. Please help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2653 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - I am an Indian. In our culture arrange marriage system is prevalent. Recently my best friend got engaged to someone. Her parents found that guy for her. Its been an year but not a day passed when she didn't complain about him. She always tells me ...

She's asked me for advice-Can I be honest and tell her she's in a bad relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2654 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I need some advice on should I say what I think or... be polite and lie. I have 2 cousins who are like sisters to me. One of them is having problems with her papers. She's been living in a foreign country for the past 7 y...

He's rejected me but is open to having sex. I'm upset but tempted to, since I'll be bored and alone in his city.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2654 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - I apologize in advance...this is a long one! I met a guy on Tinder back in March of this year. I was going to be in San Francisco for a few days and wanted to meet people while there so I changed my location to SF and started talking to him. ...

I'm Open-Minded but His Porn Habit & Denials are Alienating Me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2654 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - my husband who is 10 years older than me is watching porn on a daily basis and playing virtual reality porn games,I know because he,s not very clever at deleting his history.He shows no interest in me even though I go out of my way to look nice and ...

I'm a 27 year old virgin who just wants to be loved..

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2653 days ago

19 September 2017 (F) - Hi I'm just looking for advice I'm a 27 year old female and I have never been in a relationship I'm also a Virgin. I just seem invisible to men or only the wrong ones I'm at the age all my friends are settled down and having babies and I can't help ...

I was drunk and slapped my boyfriend across the face!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2656 days ago

19 September 2017 (?) - I feel really bad admitting this but i have been with my partner five months and i think the world of him. But the other evening we was drinking and to the point where i literally don't remember what was said. But he went into the kitchen and when i ...

My girlfriend wont cut ties with her ex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2655 days ago

17 September 2017 (M) - This might be a bit long. After a few relationships, i decided to try and get together with a girl recommended to me by my friend's girlfriend. I'll call her Agnes. This happened great, especially the first 3/4 months - we had our issues to ir...

Why can't I remember him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2658 days ago

17 September 2017 (F) - The year after I graduated from high school, I had a sexual encounter with a boy I had graduated with and known well. 40 years later we have reconnected...problem is I do not remember the encounter and he remembers every detail right down to what I ...

How should I handle one of my biggest regrets and the depression it is causing me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2656 days ago

16 September 2017 (M) - When I was in high school, I was so afraid of being bullied that I became a bully myself. I was a immature kid and the way I was thinking was completely wrong. About a year after I graduated, one of the kids that I bullied, Zach, died from ...

I'm worried about my husband's business venture

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2660 days ago

16 September 2017 (F) - My husband is starting up a business and is very excited. He dedicated his life to it and we seldom get quality time as a newly married couple. If he is busy with his own job, i can understand. I know certainly what his business is. But this mor...

Should I stay .... or maybe I should go

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2656 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - Hi dear Cupid, so I'll break this down in for form.. Myself (24) partner (23) - together three years Before I met him - I saved $13,000. Dating him - started going halves in things cause I thought it was a great idea. In three years - partner ...

I have a hard time trusting people and showing emotions because of my childhood and my strict mother

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2661 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - I'm having serious problem of trusting people.In my childhood,my mom and dad were very strict.Everything I did had to be the best.For example I got punished because I got 99 in math in elementary school.My mom always criticizes me,and when I did ...

My step daughter is making my life hell!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2658 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - My step daughter is making my life hell. I'm a nurse on a trauma unit and I work nights. My job is stressful enough without coming home to a battle every day. My husband is far from perfect but his main flaw is his unwillingness to discipline his ...

I want to get over crushing on my teacher!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2661 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - Hi, I'm a 19 y/o female student and I have this burning question within me for a year already, and I don't exactly know where to get my answers so I thought I'd give this platform a try. Anyway, I have a HUGE crush on a same-gender female teacher ...

Should we jump right in or take it slowly?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2657 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - Hi there. I've been talking to a wonderful guy for a month or two now, things are going really well. It started as just friendly conversation, banter via text message and talking about everything we have in common, but the conversations went on ...

I want my husband to share me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2574 days ago

14 September 2017 (F) - i want my husband to share me. i have had this desire for a long time. it started when my husband told me, during foreplay one night, he wanted to watch me have sex with another man. we talked about it and i said i would like to do it. but afte...

Wifes past haunts me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2575 days ago

13 September 2017 (M) - I have been married almost 20 years now. When I met my wife she told me that she had been raped. A few months into our marriage she told me that she had been gangraped as well, I didn't question her too much about it and just left it. A few months ...

Should I cut ties with my family to appease my wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2615 days ago

13 September 2017 (M) - My wife and I are 10 years happily married with a 5 year old child. An issue has arisen recently that is causing great trauma and I would be very grateful of some worldly-wise advice and help to find a way forward. We like in the UK , I am fr...

Angry about my parents divorce.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2663 days ago

10 September 2017 (M) - Long story short, when I was 6 my mom cheated on my Dad with a married man that has 2 kids older than me. Less than a year they both left their spouses for each other. When I grew up my step siblings ignored me like I don't exist. My step dad son ...

I 'almost' had a relationship, what's going on, s he being cautious?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2662 days ago

10 September 2017 (F) - I am very confused. An "almost relationship" probably best describes what we were. We were close friends prior to any feelings developing. We were not physically intimate, there was a lot of cuddling and closeness when he invited me over. But he ...

I'm on the verge of having an affair

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2657 days ago

9 September 2017 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am about to start an affair, I'm 30 year old woman, in along term relationship. I've been married for so many years and we have 2 children. I have a stable life, extremely loving husband, too loving he doesn't get the concept ...

My mother always gives me such a hard time

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2661 days ago

9 September 2017 (F) - Have you ever felt heart ache ? well I have. The feeling of light pain and sour when you're really depressed,and I had one experience for my dying grandma, another one for myself. My mom is a very traditional woman.she always wants me to learn ever...

Job not how I thought, girlfriend dumping me

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2664 days ago

7 September 2017 (M) - I'm having problem at work and I'm not enjoying it currently, ive had time off because of the stress it's caused and my assistant boss doesn't seem to want to leave me alone and he's up my backside every five minutes. I work for a sports company and ...

How should this family go about dividing my late Grandmother's jewelry?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2669 days ago

7 September 2017 (F) - My family is dividing my grandmother's jewelery this weekend. The divide is between my mother (daughter), my cousin (granddaughter), me (granddaughter), and my cousin's 15 year old (great-granddaughter). My mom insists that my grandmother told her ...

My co-worker is trying to paint me as a bully!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2669 days ago

6 September 2017 (F) - Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles. I work with this girl who is trying to paint me as a Bully. We don't always see eye to eye. She says I pick on her when I have to tell her she is doing something wrong. I don't like being that person. Its because I have a...

Advice please on handling these locals glaring at me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2667 days ago

6 September 2017 (?) - Hello, this might seem like a silly problem. I am 44 years old and while i can be fiery i have calmed down a lot as i have got older. When i was younger i was very different as a person, fiery and i thought nothing of having casual partners. I ha...

My boyfriend's mother is a bully

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2670 days ago

5 September 2017 (F) - At my bf’s family get-togethers, my bf’s mother would rudely tell her husband Tom to shut up if one or two words came out of his mouth. Tom is her 2nd husband and not the father of her children. I was aghast at her treatment of Tom. I think I am the ...

My girlfriend broke up with me but now wants back

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2657 days ago

4 September 2017 (F) - My girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks back but couldn't give me a reason for wanting out. We have been in a gay relationship together for 5 years with many ups and downs and this was just another time of her saying she didn't want the relation...

I think my boyfriend is going a bit too far

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2668 days ago

4 September 2017 (F) - I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 15 too We been together for almost 6 month but sometimes when we just kissing and stuff he grabs my butt and stuff but in the beginning I would always take his hands away from my butt but know I kind of got use to it and s...

My fiance refuses to drive 15 minutes to visit me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2670 days ago

4 September 2017 (M) - I went from single, to now engaged... this took 2 and a half years. But as much as I love her and she is always telling me she loves me I am having some issues... her actions are not lining up with her words. In the past 2.5 years she has co...

How do I explain my decision to skip the reunion without bad mouthing the Dean?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2670 days ago

4 September 2017 (M) - When I was in high school (a Catholic school), the Dean of Men was one of the worst people I ever known. He played favorites (if you were one of his favorites, you would never be in trouble no matter what you did but if you were not his favorite, ...

How can I let go of the anger I have toward my parents?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2671 days ago

4 September 2017 (F) - How can I make peace with my absuive childhood? My parents were absuvice verbally and physically towards each other - and raised me in that environments - I cannot remember a day of peace - they are way too judgemetnatl - my father is a man that is ...

Why does every girl that I like want to be "just friends"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2671 days ago

3 September 2017 (M) - So I m now 29, for the last several years I haven t been able to start or get a relationship. Every girl I ve shown interest in has turned out to be asexual, gay, not interested and only wants to be "friends". In the last 7+ years I ve asked...

I'm tired of my husband and his lack of responsibility. Should I ask him to hit the road?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2671 days ago

3 September 2017 (F) - I am a 34 year old female and my husband and I are married for 14 years,we have 3kids aged 12,7 and 5. From the beginning of our marriage i have assisted my husband financially and for a good portion of our marriage have been the sole bread wi...