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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I called my girlfriend fat. I was joking but she's upset. How do I make it up to her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4043 days ago

31 October 2013 (M) - I have got a problem which needs your help. I met my girlfriend in Singapore two years ago and living with her in her small apartment there provided to her by school where she teaches. I do odd job there and grateful to her for that. She is an ...

What do I do with a dog a friend has never picked up or looked after?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4043 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, I have found myself in a very difficult situation. I quite like dogs but I'm by no means an experienced dog owner and certainly wouldn't have chosen one as a forever pet but in the summer (June) I heard that a friend-of-a-frie...

Not all fathers are good fathers, but what do you do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4042 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - This isn't a question as such, more to see what other people's opinion on this is. I am all for a dad to have his rights and responsibilities towards his children. But what do people think a mother should do when there was domestic abuse in th...

How do I tell my parents about this much older guy in prison?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4043 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I am in love with a man that's 24 years older than me seems to really feel the same about me he is wanting to become a pastor really soon he knows slot about the Bible and he is devoted to God he is 53 I'm 29 he is currently in prison and has only ...

can you love, or have strong feelings for someone you have never met?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - I'm going to sound like an absolute idiot for asking this but, can you love, or have strong feelings for someone you have never met? I'll tell the story. We started talking a good five months ago, he lives in the same town as me but i had never ac...

My child's father suddenly wants to play a bigger role in her life

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - I have a child with my ex, she is 3, and I have raised her completely on my own with a little help from my family and her father's sister. I never asked her father to stick around me, but I practical begged him to play a part in his daughter's life, ...

Can you have a serious relationship with a man 7-8 years younger than yourself?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - What if a man is younger by 7-8 years than the woman , can they give each other a secure relationship? Specially if they purpose it to marry not just time pass . How do a woman know he is really serious to marry inspite of age gap and not taking her ...

How can something feel so right yet be so wrong? In love with a married man who loves me too, but also loves his wife and wont leave her.....

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4042 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - I don't know what to do... I don't even know how to start. I never been on any of these sites before.. this is also a long story. I met this man at a work place..once I was working there he texted me and would flirt just a little (he had my numbe...

Should I believe that he wants me for more than just sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4045 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - Hi, I am from Malaysia. I met a Persian guy online. We talked for few days and he came to meet me up. I kinda like him and we were in love fast, till now its like a month we are together. I dont know him well, yesterday I was asking him about his...

I'm afraid that my life will pass me by before I find my life's purpose and I'm getting anxious

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - Ok, this isn't exactly a relationship but I'm really in need of help and could use some constructive advice. My life is not what it should be and there needs to be change, because it really sucks. I'm in a career I just defaulted into, ...

Is my negativity taking control? How do I stop being jealous and bitter about my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4042 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - This is not so much a question, but more looking for perspective or feedback on what you think the underlying problems are with my life at the minute. I should on the grand scheme of things be content with my life, I am starting a new job next mon...

What should I do to be more masculine?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4046 days ago

27 October 2013 (M) - So I come here often for advice, so I am here again. This is something that has bothered for me for a long time. I am gay, and I am totally okay with it. But I seem to be very effeminate. I have always thought of myself as masculine, but m...

Do fathers have rights to know where their children are living?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4046 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Does anyone know, either from a personally experience, or legally, does a father have right to know where his children are living? Story is: Bad relationship, physically and mentally abusive, also his current girlfriend is now causing trouble t...

Is asking your separated spouse for sex wrong, we were on very good terms

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

26 October 2013 (M) - My wife and I are separated for 4 years, it's a long story of infidelity on her part and neglect on my part. I have accepted the situation for what it is and to help keep peace in the family. We have 2 adult children. Recently she asked me to go ...

Question to American Women and Men!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4046 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - I have some American friends and I have a question to American women and men. My male friends there tell me that women there love money only and all the men are afraid to have a relationship because they want to get marriaged fast and use the men´...

Do men prefer feminine and delicate women? Please can someone explain from a male perspective?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Strange question, I know, but I'm curious to hear from a man's perspective what it is about femininity and feminine women they find attractive. I don't understand it - unsurprisingly, since I'm a het. female - and I was just curious if feminine ...

Do men truly still value virginity or do they see it as something to run away from?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Do men truly still value virginity or do they see it as something to run away from? I'm going to be 21 soon and haven't even been kissed. My best guy friend who's a man whore tells me virginity sucks and romance is dead. He said he'd sleep with me ...

Why is he hiding our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - My ex boyfriend and i got back together almost two months ago and he STILL hasn't told any of his friends or family that we are officially back together and i want to know the real reason why. Why is he hiding our relationship from everyone? We had ...

Drunken horseplay, and nine years later she's openly rude.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

25 October 2013 (M) - Hello Aunts and Uncles. Thanks for considering my question. Nine years ago, I was the Best Man at a dear friend's wedding. It was a wonderful, joyous and fairly raucous affair. High energy, lots of joking and horsing around, and lots of laughs. ...

Is this what love is?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

25 October 2013 (M) - What is Love? I have been with my girlfriend for just over a year now. I do care about her, have fun with her, find her funny, clever, beautiful etc. But is that what love is? I'm there for her whenever she needs, we never fight but do have the ...

Feeling so low after the break up!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4049 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - Dear friends, I wrote here first when my boyfriend ditched me without stating any specific reason. What I know is that he just wanted to marry a girl of his mother's choice in their hometown and he was making me fool by showing love just to tak...

I want to make some positive changes in my life but I don't seem to be making any progress

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4033 days ago

24 October 2013 (M) - I cant help but feel like I've dug myself into a bit of a hole over the years. For a while now, I've been wanting to make some positive changes in my life to get myself out of it, but I just don't seem to get anywhere. I find myself drift in and out ...

Is it cowardice to rather die in a dream than live in reality?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - Is it cowardice to rather die in a dream than live in reality? In a dream you choose to be and do exactly how you wish things to be, while in reality you're forced to accept the hand that is dealt and make it work. Is it cowardice to escape...

I'm hoping this co-worker doesn't have a thing for me -- do I have reason to be worried?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4051 days ago

23 October 2013 (F) - Ok my question is about a man from work,he's always really nice to me which is fine, but he's 40 and I am 24 But I'm starting to worry slightly as during presentations (he's senior management) he always seems to hold my eye contact A LOT! And then I ...

My heart says give him another chance. My gut says run.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4051 days ago

23 October 2013 (F) - I broke up with my boyf of near two years about a month ago. I wanted to do this for a while, our relationship was far from perfect, i'll explain this quickly just so you have the entire story: he drunkenly cheated on me in our own bed and I walked ...

I love men, but don't at the same time. Can anyone help with these feelings I feel?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4053 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I dont know if im a lesbian or not. Or bisexual. I'm totally lost. I like a man right now, but he treats me so crappy. I have been with women before as a teenager, and dated them, even cried over one. But I thought it was for sure a phase and...

What kind of costumes or looks would you recommend? Because the manager's demands seem unreasonable.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4052 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I'm a restaurant server and our manager just sent out a ridiculous memo. We have to wear costumes for the week of Halloween or we do not get our tips. I feel this is unethical and illegal. I also learned that if we order through the catalog ...

Was the feeling I was being disrespected real or imagined? Was backing out of the arrangements the right action?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4053 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Thanks in advance to the great people who offer help here.I had made a standing commitment to spend time with a friend this evening and called this morning to confirm.She said that was fine but she would also call another friend to join us. I was ...

She has recently broken up with her BF. She is a co-worker. Should I ask her out on a date?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4054 days ago

19 October 2013 (M) - Kind of a weird one here. I work with this girl who I have liked for a while, 5 months ago we got drunk and kissed at a party and it didn't go so well in terms of trying to develop a relationship. I came across too serious and dramatic. So we didn't...

My boyfriend isn't supportive of me when I'm shy and socially awkward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4054 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Dear cupids, I really hope you can help me because I'm quite upset at the moment. I am 27 and really quite shy. I've always been like this, and although I've tried lots of things to become more confident such as online courses and self help books ...

Keep getting hurt in relationships. Are relationships really worth all the hurt?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Do you think some people are better off not in relationships and instead dedicating their life to other things? The reason that I ask this question is because of men. I am beginning to think that my life may be better if I don't have relationshi...

How does one turn their emotions off?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - How do people keep from letting their heartache effect them? Better yet, how do people NOT have heartache? I know alot of scientist types... and I love their logic and how organized they are compared to me, but the thing I envy the most is how ...

What's a girl to do? No job with a boyfriend and his two kids.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4050 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I have been in a 2 year relationship. Three months after becoming an official couple my bf found out his ex was 7 months pregnant 7 months since they had broken up. He was pretty sure it was not his child and he says his ex had not spoken to him ...

Her pride might get in the way of our dream vacation

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4056 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for nearly two years, now. Our dream, as a couple is to go to Las Vegas but living in Brazil makes the trip harder, mostly because of the high price of flying there. Earlier this year, I took part in a Work and Tra...

Do I struggle to stay and finish my course and graduate with my friends or do I take a year off? Help!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4056 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I need some serious honest advice, i'm having to make the biggest decision and I'm stuck. My whole life plan has been ruined by something major and I didn't prepare myself for the outcome of changing plans. I had an accident over summer which mea...

Boyfriend doesn't approve of male roommate

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4057 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - I found a perfect apartment that has the perfect location , amazing price, and what seems like a great roommate from Craigslist. Only problem, my boyfriend absolutely hates the idea that I want to move in with a guy who I barely knew. I understand ...

Is it practical to be with someone you love but constantly arguing over money? The 'married' to a poor man dilemma!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - I am in a steady relationship that we both have assumed each other as husband and wife despite not registering for a civil marriage yet. I love him very much and we've been together for many years. He has made it clear that he doesn't want marriage ...

Why do people let facebook ruin their relationship?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - I have a question about Facebook, and that is why do so many people let it run their relationships? I'm not just talking about significant others, either. They let it affect their relationships with family as well. I know my family has, at least. A ...

I'm confused about my education and life choices!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - so i moved to Leeds about a year ago to live with my dad and his gf, a year later i hate living ere the only reason that im staying here is cause im in my final year of college and i have met new friends and met my girlfriend as well. I want to live ...

Will we get stared at or ridiculed? We are a biracial couple

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - Hello. My name is Jeff, and I have a question that may come off as odd. I've met this beautiful white woman, and she told me she would like to go out on a date with me. As I am black, I have always wondered how it would be like to date a white wom...

I just feel like I don't belong anywhere and my life is passing me by.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - Ok, I know this isn't a relationship question but I need help. I'm not quite sure how to put this but my life just sucks right now. I feel like it's passing me by, and it's really pathetic. I'm not sure quite how to put this, but there's a vo...

I keep my late partner's Facebook page active -- is this wrong?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

14 October 2013 (M) - I had created a Facebook profile for my partner and lover of two years and he recently passed away. I definitely do not want to memorialize his profile because I just dont want to believe hes gone yet. So I am still logging in to his profile and ...

He's lost all hope of getting a job in the next placement drive!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - I am an engineering student currently in my final year of graduation. As such, placement drives of various firms are going on in my institution. Fortunately or unfortunately, I got placed in a leading fir in the first drive itself. But my boyfriend ...

I think I hold a grudge against love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - Dear agony aunts, I have a very pondering thought, it's just that: I wonder what good can come out of love, I mean to tell you the truth I kind of hold a grudge against it, I mean every person I've seen around me always fall out of it quickly or do...

Beating myself up for immature mistakes

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - I was never a wrong person but some circumstances made me commit some really silly and immature mistakes. Like forcing myself to go out on a date just cause my trust on my boyfriend was lost. I never intended or had any desire to be with any guy. I ...

I don't like it and insinutated he should find a new 'soul mate'

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend lately has been saying he wants to get more serious, I'm his soulmate etc. We've been together a year and a half. The other night we were really drunk and he entered me from behind. It really hurt and I hated it. But I always told him ...

How do I choose where to live now that I'm on the job market? Boyfriend's or grandparents' town?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - I've just come to the end of my two College degrees, and I'm finally looking for my first graduate job… but I really can't decide where I want to live - back in my hometown at my Grandparents house or stay at my boyfriends parents house where I've ...

Abusive husband wants wife to move to Iraq with him when he's deported! How do we help her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - My cousins husband is from iraq. He is a failed asylum seeker and is now in prison as he was violent and abusive towards her. my cousin has stood by him as he begged her not to leave him. The home office want to deport him and if they can deport him ...

I feel like I don't have any control over what happens to me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

9 October 2013 (F) - I want a job so badly and I have had no luck finding one so far, and it's breaking my heart. It breaks my heart that I want so badly to have a better life, and I know I deserve good things, but I feel like no matter how hard I try, I don't have ...

What is the right age do you think, to settle down and have a family?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

9 October 2013 (F) - When do you think people ussualy start thinking about settling down? My daughter is 27, her boyfriend will be 30 in a couple months. They both have good jobs, but live with 4 other roomates. its a big house in a very expensive city. I just vis...