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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for nearly two years, now. Our dream, as a couple is to go to Las Vegas but living in Brazil makes the trip harder, mostly because of the high price of flying there.Earlier this year, I took part in a Work and Travel program in the United States and ended the trip with a week in Vegas. It was fantastic and fuelled my desire to go again. Unfortunately, my girlfriend did not travel with me.Wanting to go there again with her motivated me to study hard and get a job. I am planning way, way in advance and plan to go in December of 2014. This is so that I have time to earn more than enough money to make this trip happen. I am saving over 80% of my monthly earnings, greatly for this purpose.The problem is, she is not working and does not have as much money as I do. In other words, splitting the trip evenly between the two of us is not possible. Being the way she is, she wants this trip to happen, but she wants to be able to go spending her own money (she’s quite proud, my girlfriend).If things keep going the way they are, I will have earned more than enough money to take her there to spend both her birthday and Christmas in Vegas (they are in the same week). I want to make this dream come true for her, but am worried that her stubbornness might get in the way. I am stuck in a dilemma where, on the one hand, I can help her make a dream come true and, on the other, would be running a risk of her not being as satisfied as she could be.Fortunately, I have plenty of time to consider what to do, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.Thank you very much!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 October 2013):
 I am not sure what she said to you. Like did she say she is not going to the vacation until she has her own money? Is she going to get a job soon?
I think more likely than not you two would be going on the trip in December. She just doesn't want you to think that she is living off of you. I don't know why she is not working. Maybe she is a full time student. I just think for someone who wants to have her own money she would take on any job and save some money herself.
If you see her as a wife some day then look at this trip as a way to a deeper bond. Her not wanting you to spend it all may mean that she wants to keep a safer distance (in a good way). She is a keeper and may think like a modern woman with equal rights. It's not a matter of being satisfied but being able to enjoy guilt free and let go.
Just tell her you understand her concerns but you are taking her anyway. And that spoiling her like a princess does not take away her independence and you would not think less of her just because she has no money now. These are my thoughts assuming that this relationship is rock solid and that you will get married one day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2013): Make it a birthday present!!Then she can't say no :)If she resists at all, remind her that you really are happy to pay, and that you're really excited about this experience that you will have together :)
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