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Archived questions from: October, 2012 (see latest in Big Questions category)

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They actually filmed her having a heart attack and I don't know how to deal with it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

31 October 2012 (M) - My fiance recently had a heart attack, she's fit and healthy so it was surprising for her to have this - it's due to stress, the doctors say but we can't be sure. It's certainly not her diet, she eats well, a mainly Mediterranean diet, due to being ...

What do you appreciate most about DearCupid.org? This is also a big thank you to all the aunts and uncles on here!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - So, as you have probably gathered, this isn't a question. More of a massive thank you to all the fabulous people on here who give great advice day after day on this site!! I have been on this site for a few years now, and have been posting abo...

What are your best survival tips to help you and your loved ones in a Super Storm like Sandy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

30 October 2012 (F) - to all the wonderful people in Dear Cupid affected by Super Storm Sandy my Good Wishes to you. Such natural events can have repercussions on family life, relationships, friendships and cause personal pain. Wherever you are, if you've missed fl...

Still single and sick of it. How do I put the Zippity Do Dah into my life and Spice things up enough, to learn how to successfully date and become a partner to a nice girl?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

30 October 2012 (M) - I posted here before 4 years ago. I imagine you probably receive hundreds of messages like this regularly. I thought long and hard about whether to actually send it. I actually wrote something sinilar to this at the beginning of the year ju...

Guys please: Considering that I'm a 20 year old virgin, the question is, am I doing something wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

30 October 2012 (F) - I am 20 years old and still a virgin. I should also start by pointing out that I'm not fat or ugly, in fact I'm blonde with big boobs (both of which are real), a small waist and really good skin (I swear I'm not super up myself). I've dated (bu...

Is my Bf involved sexually with an older lover? He says no. His text to her implies yes. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

29 October 2012 (F) - Am I over reacting or what? My boyfriend has an older lady friend who stays at our house quite frequently, helps us out a lot. They've been friends longer than I've been around and she's like 20 years older than him so I never thought twice ab...

I'm planning on taking my 15 year old car on a 4 hour trip. What concerns should I have?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - This isnt a quetsion about sex or a relationship, its just a common worry. My car is a 98 ford, and im planning on taking it on a 4 hour trip, and im kind of antsy. ive never taken it more then 20 miles, but i dont have any problems with it. I ta...

Help!!! I'm so unhappy with myself... how can I pull myself out of this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - I'm so unhappy with myself. I'm a terrible person and have lost all the people from my life because of it. i had a best friend from 13 years who did a lot for me and gave me eveything i wanted. i betrayed him and asked him to leave when he ...

Waiting for her email.... or taking action?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4395 days ago

28 October 2012 (M) - I had an amazing 3 month relationship with a girl. After 2 months she started pulling away, avoiding sex. After 2 weeks of that we had a confrontation about it and she said she still wanted to be together. She lives in another city so after 2 ...

Is it normal to get on so well with a mother in law?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - I am getting married in six months to my boyfriend of 4 years. I have known my fiancé since we were toddlers, and know his parents for almost as long. His parents like me a lot, and mine like him. I get on really we with my (soon to be) mother i...

My husband sides with his sister not me. How do I end this argurment and not feel aggrieved?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - I really need some help here as I am going round in circles. I have had a massive falling out with my sister in law and we have had nothing to do with each other for about 18 months. My husband sided with her in the argument so naturally things h...

Man with little response...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - I have been spending time with a man who became a widower 18 months ago. I didn't want to be involved in a rebound situation and he admitted he felt vulnerable so we literally are just friends. The problem is, now I have been spending time with him ...

Help!!! How can you be in love with someone you have never seen???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - Hi I really need some advice. I have been talkin to a guy over the phone for 4 months. I know him since over a year since we used to Facebook chat regularly. I'm 18 and he is 25. Our families know each other very well and are practically fami...

I do love him... but do I love him enough to be with him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - I'm so depressed and have no zest for living anymore. I just feel so alone and stupid.... I'm 22 years old, and i recently broke up with my bf (28) after 2 and half years. My bf/ex was working in the states alone for the whole of our relationshi...

Is being called sweet a major red flag and are relationships worth relocating for?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

27 October 2012 (M) - Alright everyone, I know I should know the answers to these questions as a 24 year old man but I have not been in the appropriate environments for me as of ywr so please bear with my questions. I am about to date this one lady who is just two years ...

Has my boyfriend really changed?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - I have had a rocky 8 months to say the least, with my first ever boyfriend and now i'm just wondering has he really changed? I first met my boyfriend when i went back to school after missing a year, i was sent to learning support ...

My due date is soon. I'm really scared. So how can I get this fear under control?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - When my mum had my youngest sister 6 years ago she had really bad complications in pregnancy (eclampsia) She ended up really sick and to be honest it frightend me to bits as being 18 at the time, the memory is very fresh. I'm now expecting my...

Hubby won't get healthy for his own sake!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - My husband used to be in very great shape (he was in the military.) But for the past several years, he's pretty much doubled his size (he's now 350 lbs.) He was working full-time until a couple of months ago, but now all he does is sleep all day - ...

She belittles me in public. Should I stay friends with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

26 October 2012 (M) - My girl friend is from a richer home than me. i'm broke she can't assist me financially. When ever we are out for an outing and we happen to get into one dissagreement or the other,she tends to talk too recklessly and shout at me on the top of he...

Why would an almost stranger go through my bag in these circumstances?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

26 October 2012 (F) - This is a very little matter indeed, but I come to you to find out (or confirm) if it is weird. I'm working with a family - a Father and daughter... they have asked me to adapt their daughter's book that she wrote when she was 6 into a play. Alr...

Internet Online Dating and serious relationships - isn't it just truly a waste of time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

26 October 2012 (F) - Hi everyone, I am so disillusioned with internet dating. Over the past few years I have joined a few dating websites hoping that at some point I will meet a man, who I get along with, have similar interests/humour, share the same values in life,...

Twelve years together. But now his porn addiction has taken a nasty turn for the worse. Should I dump him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - My man friend (been together 12 years) has a porn addiction. In the last 6 months..he's given out his phone number so these nasty ladies can contact him by text. He say's it's just a game. The other day I looked at his history and discover...

Attracted to another man who is married. Problem is I'm married too!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - It has taken me guts to get my ideas in writing here as this is the first time I openly admit what I am feeling. I have recently struggled through a lot of issues with my husband. On the one hand, he is a good father, loyal, sensitive and devoted. ...

How do I get my confidence back after all these years of harsh treatment from others?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4414 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - Where to start...I'm 24-years-old, and have no friends. The reason is being I'm not confident enough in myself to talk to anyone other than basic small talk. My background: I was bullied very badly in high school. It started sophomore year (9 ye...

I'm at my wits end. Help! what should I do. The Laptop gets more attention than me in this relationship.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4414 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - Hi everybody, well my problem is this.... For the last two years since ive been with my bf he has been constantly working on his laptop to make a computer game (not so much in the first few months) It's his dream to make it big and i support hi...

I'm scared for my best friend. How can I stop her boy friend from pressuring her to have sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4414 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - My best friend is being convinced by her boyfriend to have sex. I have cried every day trying to convince her the consequences. Her boyfriend says he knows what he is doing but he is only 13. I really need help to try to convince her boyfriend no...

Why do I want the people I love to hate me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - My first love was with a girl who hated me. She cheated on me, made me feel like shit about myself and generally crippled me emotionally, but I was so dependant on her that I didn't want to leave. The issue I'm running into now is I meet these per...

Should I wait around for him... or move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - I am 23 years old and I have two children. A son 3 and a daughter 1. My son's biological father died when he was six months old and my daughter's father has raised him ever since he was little. So that's his Daddy. We had been together for almost f...

Should I tell my wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4414 days ago

24 October 2012 (M) - Should I tell my Wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises? I was doing them a few years ago and stopped at her request. I finally decided that this is something I want, even if she doesn't want me to. I am small down there and she has had ...

I've fallen for my female ex-teacher, but I've never had a relationship with a woman before!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - Im 21years old now when i was 14 at primary i had a crush on my female teacher it was deep and strong,then i went to high school eventualy i forgot all about her and enjoyed my high school life and had a boyfriend we dated for over 7 years. but ...

Should I let my boyfriend carpool with a female co-worker?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2998 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together 4months ago, and things have been going pretty good so far. He started a new job about a week ago and while in the process of meeting the coworkers in his ...

Should I call to get this ex-player back in my life? I love him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - Yes he talks to other girls while we were dating... Yes I know he was cutting them off one by one as he did not like his behavior but I broke it off before he could cut the last one off so he continues to talk to her. Now it's been eight months, I...

Is he worth my time? Can I believe him or is he stringing me along? he says he loves me, that he would like to marry me one day.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - first of all I’m just looking for advice not for people to judge me. Well I am 18 years old and there is one guy that is about 15 years older than me. He would always flirt with me and he would say stuff to my sister so she could tell me. Ab...

My older brother physically abuses me and my mom is fine with it. What rights do I have in this? What power do I have to stop him from doing this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - Hi. So, my older brother hits me. He doesn't do it very often but when he does, he hits me bad. He abuses me verbally constantly calling me names and insulting me in every possible way. He's always been like this to me since we were kids, he's ...

Why do I keep on wanting what I can't have, namely: married men? Is there something wrong with me? What can I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - Why do I go for married men? Even though I know it never works! I really like this guy, who is quite a lot older than I am; and married! He confessed he had fallen for me, I tried to convince him he hadn't because he was married, but I knew that ...

IPhone addict? Sending a picture of himself in some of my clothing? What can I do about his addiction to his phone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - My husband has recently become obsessed, and I mean obsessed with his iPhone. The iPhone isn't new, he's had it since January, so it's not like a kid with a new toy at Christmas, but he spends hours on social networking sites with it, and spends m...

Am I allowed to play the field in this situation? I don't want to break hearts.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

23 October 2012 (M) - ok so I haven't had a full-on relationship for about almost 3 years now, all I have been doing is going out weekends having one night stands and having fwb. Now however I have 3 girls that I can really have a proper strong relationship with. A...

I can't sleep when he's not there

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) - I'm struggling to sleep when my boyfriend isn't with me. We've been together 3 years and we are completely in love. Recently I've not been able to sleep when he isn't in bed with me. We live separately at our parents house and I work part time and ...

Applying for a job with rotating night shifts and would like advice from someone with experience.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

22 October 2012 (F) - I need some advice. I currently work at a part time job where I get 25 hours a week maximum. I've been here for almost 4 years. The latest I work is 7pm and the earliest is 9am. I am giving this background because I have applied and am going through ...

Can I stay close to my BF's family if we finish our affair? Life with my husband is not good. And My BF now has a new GF.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

22 October 2012 (F) - I am married without children and i have a lover. we have been seeing each other for 4 years now and for the the first year we were only friends. I am not happy with my husband but i dont want to leave him as he is a handsome guy and it ends ther...

Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4417 days ago

22 October 2012 (F) - Dear Cupid Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women who come into their life like collegues etc, while masterburating. I am not talking about movie stars or rock stars, just the normal women whom we see almost everyday...

I try my hardest to be both mum and dad for my son but I'm finding it so hard, and I feel so guilty that his dad isn't there for him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4417 days ago

22 October 2012 (F) - Hi everyone I need some advice regarding my son. He is 6 and he's very bright. His dad has never been present in his life, he's never met him. He decided when I was pregnant that he had no interest and has remained the same, despite all m...

As the song goes - "I'm so hot for her and she's so cold..."

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4417 days ago

21 October 2012 (M) - Ok so ive been married for almost 9 years now. My wife and I were best friends before but we never had sex until after we tied the knot. I had only been with 2 other girls before her but she was practically a sputa. I don't hold this against her ...

When a girl sits on your lap, are you being dominated by her?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

21 October 2012 (M) - Hi. I have a general question involving this type of behavior. Imagine this: A girl (In your age group) choosing to sit on you instead of any of the empty seats around her. Also, she does this very frequently. I think any woman doing that is be...

How do I contain the jealousy I feel towards others?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

21 October 2012 (F) - I really envy some of my cousins. One is a spoilt brat who gets everything she wants. My other cousins had kids before they got engaged and their parents always baby sit them. But If I had kids out wedlock my parents would call me nasty names. ...

Is this too much to ask? I just want to meet, love, enjoy that one guy who'll change my life for the better

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

21 October 2012 (M) - When will it be my turn to find love? Am I really that undesirable? I mean I know I'm only 17 but it's so sad and depressing being alone. It's already hard enough being gay, but having to hide who you really are with absolutely no one to confide ...

She was the ONE. Her family did not like me. Losing her has destroyed me. So now, why can't I get another girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4417 days ago

21 October 2012 (M) - Why can't I get another girl? In high school pretty girls liked me but let me stress that I was not very good at talking to them like I'm okay but not great. I relied on sports and my looks and once I knew a girl liked me I would go talk to her. ...

What is the simplest way to get a legal separation in Scotland?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

20 October 2012 (F) - Hi can anyone advise please what is the simplest way to get legal separation in Scotland. I have seen some sites but confused as some day best for both partners to go meet a solicitor while some advise its a form D8 that needs to be filled with a ...

I worry about how my boyfriend will cope when I am no longer around

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

20 October 2012 (F) - Hi everybody, I have been dating a guy for 6 years and 3 months now,my first boyfriend,my first kiss,my first in many ways..we understand each other,there are at times where I don't have to say anything as to why I'm upset and he would just hug me a...

Am I paranoid or confused for thinking she is still in love with her ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

20 October 2012 (M) - My girlfriend and I dated 2 years back,we broke up,she got married and is now divorced. We did get back together recently and have decided to get married. After seeing her her ex husband not too long ago(never made convo),I've noticed a change...