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writes:I am getting married in six months to my boyfriend of 4 years. I have known my fiancé since we were toddlers, and know his parents for almost as long. His parents like me a lot, and mine like him. I get on really we with my (soon to be) mother in law. I pop in for a cup of tea with her anytime, I have a key to their house and can let myself in if they're not home and they don't mind me being there when they get home, we go on shopping trips together. Her and my parents get along (unsurprisingly as theyve been friends a long time), and sometimes she and my mum meet me in my lunch hour to get a coffee and sandwich.I really don't mind to be so friendly with her. In fact, it puts me at ease because I used to fret when I was younger about my mother in law hating me. I like her a lot and am so grateful they've welcomed me into their familyI just want to know if this is normal? I know some people really get on with their parents in law, but my bestfriend doesn't get along with hers, is this normal? Reply to this Question
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reader, Beatriceandjohn +, writes (29 October 2012):
My ex husbands mum was-is- a great woman she took me in as a daughter and took care after me. She was one in a million! We used to get along great I regarded her as a very good friend... She let me pick her clothes, do her hair... I remember telling her I loved her that many times...! I still miss her now! My now partners mum and I just don't like each other at all so I'd say enjoy while it lasts!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): Thankyou everyone for the answers. What I was worried about was what Wet Pain brought up, us ganging up on him, but I assure you that wont happen, so thanks everyone!
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 My 2nd husband's mother was the sweetest woman I had ever met. She was the mother I wish I could have been lucky enough to have. She already had 2 daughter of her own, but took me in just like I was her daughter. She was a woman that I could look up to and learn from, and more than anything, she was a friend. She truly was an angel and when she passed away last year at 88 years old..I mourned her just as much as if she had been my own mother.
Be happy that you have such a great relationship! You're one of the lucky ones! Good for you!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 October 2012):
 Announced on CBS Sunday Morning just today It's MOTHER IN LAW day here in the states... who knew..
fully 50% of those polled said they liked their mother in law a lot..
my last MIL was a very good friend of mine... I used to go shopping with her and hang our with her...
sounds lovely and normal to me....
and if you didn't get along with her it would still be normal.
after all according to the news it's split half way!
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (28 October 2012):
 I don't think it is the most usual as there is normally a bit of jealousy and squabbling but if you are both happy and like each other then good for you. It will ensure a harmonious marriage and life with your husband going forward. I have been married three times, hated 2 of the MIL's and liked one so probably there is no defined rule.
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reader, Wet Pain +, writes (28 October 2012):
Here's a bit of advice: stop caring about what's 'normal', at least to the extent that other people will let you get away with not caring---in this case, I doubt anyone is going to give you grief over this, and if so no-one seriously enough to risk what appears to be a good thing in your life over it.
The only problem I can see from this would be if your boyfriend/fiancé/husband should see the two of you as ganging up against him...all I can say is 'Don't do that, and fear not.'
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 October 2012):
Sure it's normal. Why not? This is normal, or what we would like to think of as normal. It would be a nicer world if in law relationships were more like this. So I say carry on meeting her, carry on getting on with her, and enjoy your life!
Trust me, you're in a better position that most!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 " Normal " as in usual, ...I'd say no. Not all people fight with their in laws of course, and not all the in laws are heinous or interfering , but in general the MIL / DIL relationship is not the warmest , fondest you can see around.
But... what's the problem ? If it ain't broke, don't fix it. You got lucky- enjoy your luck and the added bonus that having a great relationship with your MIL will bring to your marriage.
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