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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is my guy seeing someone else??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1360 days ago

28 February 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been with my guy for some years now but I sometimes get the feeling he has started loosing interest in me. Whenever I ask him he always deny it. He's the first guy I've slept with and I really love him so much. He came to spend some time with me at my place. We had a ... (369 words)

My guy sees me suffering financially but he ignores it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1356 days ago

28 February 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been dating this guy for 2 years. Things have been cool between us but recently he has started changing. I'm the type who feel shy to ask her guy for financial assistance when the need arises; because I don't want to be a burden to him but I think he has started taking a... (231 words)

I'm questioning my whole lifestyle and don't know how to cope with the revelation about my husband

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1359 days ago

28 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My cousin sent me an email with a link to a Facebook group the other day. She often does this, so I thought nothing of it (she lives in the U.S., I live here in Canada; she's an expat; I just moved provinces). It was the content of the Facebook group that was upsettin... (1138 words)

Why doesn't my boyfriend share pictures of me on social media?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1357 days ago

27 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I’ve been with my boyfriend since summer 19 And he is the greatest thing that ever happened to me he’s always there for me emotionally shows me love and affection, spoils me, and is my best friend. I lost my mom to cancer in October and he has never left my side and he always ... (199 words)

Why would a colleague send me this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1358 days ago

27 February 2021 (?) age - I am a married man. A married female colleague of mine, whom I adore, has sent me a fresh pantyliner, what does she mean by that?... (26 words)

My boyfriend left me during lockdown for his fling in a tropical paradise. Now he said he made a mistake

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1358 days ago

27 February 2021 (F) age 41-50 - My long time boyfriend left me to have a fling with a woman he met last November while visiting his parents who live in another country. It is a developing country and she is a poor native who speaks English but not very well. I saw their exchanges on WhatsApp. It looks like it ... (806 words)

Nothing is ever good enough for my overbearing family

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1363 days ago

26 February 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I used to struggle with my weight when I was younger. I was made fun of by my siblings when we were teenagers living at home, and I was told the family at large was wondering why I had gained so much weight. I don't know what the exact reasons were for the weight gain but ... (952 words)

I suspect my fiance is bored with me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1361 days ago

26 February 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - So my fiancé said something to me the other day that I can’t stop thinking about. I was just checking in to see if he was happy in our relationship because he doesn’t seem as into me (we have been together almost 2 years) and spends a lot of time on his phone, he’s open about ... (349 words)

My dad plans to leave my mom but doesn't want me to tell her

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1361 days ago

26 February 2021 (F)

age 18-21 - A week ago, my dad said he needed me to come and help him with going the supermarket and shopping. I thought nothing of it, was only trying to be a good daughter. But it later turned out he wanted me to meet his girlfriend, Rachael (not her real name), who's only 10 years ... (652 words)

Is my boyfriend's threeseom wish common?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1360 days ago

26 February 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, my boyfriend told me that if I am the only girl he can sleep with in his lifetime he is the luckiest man on earth. But like a month ago I asked him if he - like my other male friends - would agree on having a threesome, he said: If you and I both were fine I would ... (127 words)

I have let people walk all over me my entire life

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1359 days ago

25 February 2021 (F) age 36-40 - Hi...sorry for this long post but I really need some advice. I have been feeling a great void in my heart. I find I let people walk all over me. And maybe it's because how I was grown. My parents tried to control every aspect of my life, be it my career, my spouse and my choice ... (1625 words)

Is there anything wrong with never coming out as gay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1362 days ago

25 February 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I am a 36 years old man who is single. I have known since I was about 13 years old that I was gay. I have never been in a relationship with anyone (male or female) and I never came out of the closet. I always hear of people coming out of the closet. Is there any thing wrong ... (70 words)

I feel drained by partner with ADHD and abusive parents

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1362 days ago

25 February 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I feel very stuck in a strange situation. I have tried over and again to get out of it, but never managed it. I really apologise for the long post. I've spent 26 years on and off in a very strange relationship with this person who I now know has ADHD and possibly is on t... (1535 words)

My married friend has hit on me. I want to stay friends but don't want to be involved

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1363 days ago

24 February 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - I have a close relationship with a work colleague, who I have known for 15 years. Over the last few years we started running together. She would mention the negatives alit about her marriage and would flirt with me. She told me that her husband had been meeting ex girlfriends ... (122 words)

My husband doesn't have the attitude of belongs being ours. Its either yours or mine

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1363 days ago

24 February 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - There are two questions I would like answers to please. My first one is about marriage. I normally buy stuff for the house including, ornaments pictures, plants etc and also and garden lights and ornaments. if a light should not work outside my husband will say, Your lights a... (508 words)

I think my partner is controlling. Is he?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1364 days ago

24 February 2021 (F)

age - Morning folks I would like your opinion on my relationship. I live with my partner who is ten years younger than me. we live on boat and I know space is limited, I am quite a religious person all I am allowed is one small crucifix he says he doesnot like anything religiious it ... (231 words)

Does this sound like herpes symptoms?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1364 days ago

24 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I went to the ER twice because i was having a burning sensation around what felt like my clitoris area. It was worse when i urinated,i had a frequent urge to urinate even when i didn't have to. I even didnt make it to the toilet once. Now im incontinent. The first time/ doctor ... (194 words)

I feel so lost and I'm not quite sure why

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1364 days ago

23 February 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel very alone and lonely. I feel like no one cares. I have learnt to love myself and keep myself occupied. However i have been going through tough times with my gf. I’m sure we will be okay, but I feel disconnected with her, we did break up although we speak daily, and ... (279 words)

I'm confused about how I feel about both men and women

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1363 days ago

23 February 2021 (M)

age 18-21 - hi im a 17 year old (almost 18) guy and im rily confused about my sexuality. i've never had sex i've never had a girlfriend (or boy friend for that mater) but i've been atracted to men and women for a long time. when i was younger (10-13) and was first having sexual feeling i ... (349 words)

Partner left with no reason and I have no friends around me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1361 days ago

23 February 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - My partner has recently left me, no explanation or answers so I'm left just trying to accept and get on with things. I live in a town where I'm not from and I notice that women all have their circle if friends. On social media they post pictures of their friend groups an... (187 words)

The woman I'm dating spends time with her ex/son's father but lies to me about it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1363 days ago

22 February 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - I started seeing this girl back in 2018, lets call her A. I knew that she was not long out of an 8 year relationship, and had a son who was only 2. We started getting to know each other, taking things really slow. She got her flat and was starting again. When we used to see ... (974 words)

I unknowingly got involved with a married cop now she doesn't want to end things

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1364 days ago

22 February 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Despite the country, English is my first language. I've been dating this woman, Katrina (not her real name), 41, for the past 18 months and we met at a singles' night. I only found out recently that she's married and has a husband and 13-year-old twins, Ava and Sara ... (557 words)

I find the relationship between my boyfriend and his mother very strange

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1364 days ago

22 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Am I crazy or is this not normal. A while back I wrote about my partner and his moms relationship. They hit each other on the butts and laugh about then they make joke sexual ones my partner is the one that says them to his mom. His mom made the comment that she has no... (190 words)

My Male Friend Likes Me, But I'm Not High Maintenance And His Type

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1367 days ago

22 February 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I've had a male friend for about a year and we've always been really close and clicked. I kind of find him attractive (he is good looking), but he's a ladies' guy who even dated off Tinder during lockdown, so I like him more as a friend. He's always been very nice to me (our ... (336 words)

My husband has 6 personalities. I need help for ME to deal with all of this

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1365 days ago

22 February 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm an American expat, been living across the border in Canada since 2016 and have a 7-year-old daughter. Recently (via Zoom) my husband was diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder, which explains why he'd been wanting sex with me while he wore a black bikini and insis... (559 words)

I feel like I was just a rebound till she decided if she still wanted her bf

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1366 days ago

22 February 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey there. So I met this girl at a New Years Eve party. We hit it off and started texting all day every day and some calls here and there. The thing is she had a boyfriend of a year whenever we met. A week after our initial meeting she broke it off with him and told me it ... (289 words)

My brother doesn't consider my daughter's feelings. How do I handle this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1364 days ago

22 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all this is about my brother. So me and my brother are not close my live nearby . He is extremely rude but better nowadays. Very very selfish self centred person but I just wan to be nice and get along. We both have daughters . Mine is 2 and his is 5yrs old my daughter ... (196 words)

I don't want to end the marriage but the trust is gone

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1362 days ago

22 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been married to A for 8 years and we have 2 children together. A few years ago we went through a bit of a rough patch where A felt that I was being distant and too busy for him. I admit that this was the case, but having a newborn and a potty training toddler left me with ... (297 words)

Swinging has turned into more for me I've been sneaking around behind my husband's back

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1338 days ago

21 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - A little over a year ago my husband and I went on Tinder looking for another couple to have some fun with. We found a couple , texted back and forth in a group text and after a few weeks we finally met. We ended up switching partners and having sex in separate rooms. That ... (205 words)

I don't want to not stand by a man cos of how much he earns.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1367 days ago

21 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Aunts, Both my partner and i have been speaking a lot about marriage and having kids. I'm ready for both but he is not. He is still living at home with his parents and brother. They have a 3 bedroom house. He has asked me who I would feel about moving in with them. I tol... (494 words)

My wife wants us to run a TikTok channel discussing financial issues but I think we'll be in over our heads

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1367 days ago

20 February 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - My wife suggested to me a new project we should take on as a couple; I've nothing against "new project for couples" as a goal, but this specific one I have worries about. Me and my wife have always been into financial matters; we're no Scrooges, but we do read the financi... (505 words)

Whats wrong with being attracted to a married man?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1365 days ago

20 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I’m attracted to a married man. I think he likes me too. I think one can’t help or change ones attraction that just happens and sometimes they happen to be married. Divorce happens too and maybe he’s already thinking of that so why is it so bad to flirt and possibly be ... (106 words)

Former male virgin still has no clue

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1368 days ago

19 February 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello I just recently lost my virginity by paying an escort. I am a nerdy guy, very awkward, love various things like horror movies, comics, etc. I love to draw. I am not very handsome, overweight, short, bald and not well endowed. It felt like a thousand pound weight was... (136 words)

Why he really wants me to parent our daughter the way people did things in 2003

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1367 days ago

19 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my husband (we've only been married since Aug. 2019) have had one of the biggest arguments since we got together in 2012. We last saw each other in November 2002 when I was 18, but lost touch until April 2012. We have a 4-year-old daughter, Kate, and my husband has s... (429 words)

How to keep things interesting in a long distance relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1368 days ago

18 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I am wondering how to keep things interesting in a long distance relationship. I made a great connection with a man who has shared interests which started out as us just following each other to eventually realising we had a lot in common to talking every day and planning to ... (166 words)

Would you block someone for being strange even if you knew them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1369 days ago

18 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Years ago now I had communication with a guy who asked basically to have sex and/or hang out. We stopped talking and i forgot why until finding the old messages more recently but i messaged him a while ago and he ended up blocking me on facebook messenger. I probably sounded ... (125 words)

28 and still confused

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1368 days ago

18 February 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 28 and still dont know what I am, so my question is when does the big relation happen where I'm like "nope I'm straight" or "bi" or "definitely gay" how long will I stay confused? A started having fantasies about men when i was young, always felt like I was interested. ... (424 words)

Co-workers conspiracy theories on zoom chats are driving me crazy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1371 days ago

17 February 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I've had to work from home and do Zoom meetings. However, there's a problem with our Zoom meeting... one employee is constantly behaving pompously and disrupting meetings with conspiracy theories, but he hasn't been fired yet. He's caused upset to everyone else and peopl... (567 words)

Is my boyfriend a sex addict?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1370 days ago

17 February 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hiiii :) So I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and things are really going great, I love him so much and vice versa. We did move in pretty quickly together because we couldn't face being apart during the first lockdown in the UK but it's actually worked ... (340 words)

Why does my ex girlfriend still have a profile picture of both of us on Facebook?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1372 days ago

16 February 2021 (M) age - Hi. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago. I have looked at her Facebook account recently and noticed that she still has several profile pictures up of both of us as a couple and friends commenting what a nice couple we are and how happy she looked and so on. I am wond... (113 words)

How can I let her know she has my permission to see other men and that I find it a real turn on?...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1367 days ago

16 February 2021 (M)

age - A stranger asked my wife for a date. When she told me about it I was aroused. How can I let her know she has my permission to see other men and that I find it a real turn on?... (40 words)

Am I being unreasonable and over protective in following the guidance of the midwives and my own desires.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1372 days ago

16 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I am pregnant with my first child and due to give birth in the next couple of months. I have decided that due to covid and the guidelines based around it ATM I do not want my newborn to have any visitors or meet anyone from the outside for the first 2/ 3 months. It ... (271 words)

My future in laws don't want to follow the guidelines for Covid-19 and I am extremely vulnerable healthwise

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1373 days ago

15 February 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I’m really stressed about my father in law to be. He has been breaking the lockdown rules with his two daughters and their partners the whole way through this third lockdown. However, me and my fiancé have been sticking to the rules, I’ve been classed as clinically extre... (289 words)

I want to break no contact and get in touch with my ex even though I know I shouldnt

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1371 days ago

15 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like I’m going insane. My ex and I broke up a month ago and he has already, by the looks of it, moved on with someone else. I know you’re supposed to not look at your exes social media pages after a breakup but one day I cracked out of curiosity... and well this girl she ... (261 words)

How can I get my husband to masturbatein front of me

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1373 days ago

15 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I get my husband to masterbate in front of me. Hes gotten more comfortable with the idea and will now do it for a like 30 seconds then he stops and we have sex...but I want him to do it untill he finishes so I can see him climax and his cum come out :D and I want to... (129 words)

I get angry and depressed sometimes because I didnt date when I was younger

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1372 days ago

15 February 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I didn't really start dating until near the end of my 20s, i'm in my early 30s now, i'm dating someone new, while of course i am happy and glad to have met her, i do have these thoughts. I wonder if it is a common mindset or thought for people, that were late bloomers in dati... (232 words)

There were many fights over the years. I'm wondering if we are supposed to be together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1373 days ago

14 February 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - We have been together for 8.5 years. Engaged for 1.5. We were young when we got together. The first few years of our relationship were constant arguments through my own insecurities and, honestly, I think I enjoyed the drama of it. My mental health then took a hit after we ... (286 words)

My husband and dad have moved in together and are acting very strangely

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1372 days ago

14 February 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband moved out and I later found out via Twitter he'd moved in with my dad (and my mom isn't happy at the amount of time they're spending together at all). He keeps posting to social media videos of them dancing to disco music in their underwear or wrestling one an... (273 words)

My boyfriend thinks that flirting with and kissing other women isn't cheating

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1360 days ago

14 February 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend believes that him flirting with and kissing other women is not cheating. I’ve tried talking to him but he gets reactive and angry. I feel it is cheating so I refrain from engaging with other men, but his perspective has me in knots. I’m not sure that I can deal ... (72 words)

I have dreams that my friend gets my wife pregnant

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1373 days ago

14 February 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I dreamt my wife being impregnated by my friend and it Hurst me very bad on that dream. What does this mean? ... (22 words)