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writes:How can I get my husband to masterbate in front of me. Hes gotten more comfortable with the idea and will now do it for a like 30 seconds then he stops and we have sex...but I want him to do it untill he finishes so I can see him climax and his cum come out :D and I want to masterbate with him. It just looks so hot to me...couple of problems tho...he is shy about it and he has only ever masterbabted to porn! So not sure if he can do it without it and I don't want him to watch porn in order to do it in front of me. What can I do to get him to masterbate intill he cums?
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reader, liddel  +, writes (16 February 2021):
Tell him you want to do it together. It can be very exciting for the both of you. If you are interesting enough in your part of this partnership, he will have an orgasm and so too can you.
I do not see anything at all wrong with you asking for this from your husband. That is very low on the list of strange things that married couples might ask of each other, sexually that is.
Please ignore the uptight fuddy duddies that would tell you otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2021): Its a very private thing for most men and your imagination simply doesn't reflect reality since he is clearly uncomfortable with the idea. We all have fantasies and desires but if the partner doesn't feel it's what they want to do you simply let it drop. And you state you don't want him to watch porn in front of you to masturbate to so you want it under your terms, not very fair really.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (16 February 2021):
 You know, if a man asked this question about his girlfriend, we would call it sexual harassment.
I agree, leave him be. He's not going to get over being shy about it, so get over this unhealthy obsession and stick to what you already enjoy.
You don't have to push the envelope when it comes to sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2021): Give him a hand job and right near the end stop. I bet he finishes himself off. I used to do that with my BJ Learners Permit. They finish themselves off. "see him climax and his cum come out" -- I get that. --
He only can do it to porn? Nope!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2021): He only will do it in front of porn.Well the answer is easy then.Get some high heels doll your self up and be his personal porn star.Easy.
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reader, Greeneyebird +, writes (16 February 2021):
By the way I'm not hounding him at all, we are trying out new things. He has me doing stuff im not fully comfortable with yet but I'm getting there and I just want the same enthusiasm from him.
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reader, Greeneyebird +, writes (16 February 2021):
Yes, I've already let him know what I'll wait untill he's ready. At the moment we are trying out new things for eachover. I have done it in front of him a few times and I masterbate during sex aswell. Him masterbating just seems like such a mystery lol but I know it will be hot and I've shared that with him. I just want to know if there's any way I can make him feel less shy or embarrassed about it? How can I make him relax more? He says he feels too self aware of what he is doing, that's why when he does it in private he has to watch porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2021): Yes, I've already him know that I'll wait for when he's ready. Where basically trying new things out for eachover. I have done it in frount of him a few times and I masturbate during sex aswell. Him masterbaing just seems like such a mystery but I know it will be hot when I picture it in my head. What I want to know is there any way I can make him feel less shy or embarrassed about it, its a natural act after all.
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reader, EmmyApple +, writes (16 February 2021):
You can’t expect him to do it on command - that just creates pressure and performance anxiety. But if he is relaxed and totally comfortable with you it will happen naturally. My husband has a huge sex drive that I can’t possibly satisfy even tho we have sex every night. We don’t let each other watch porn, but my husband will watch countless bikini and lingerie videos on YouTube. He doesn’t even try to hide it anymore. I often catch him touching himself while staring at all those bodies. At night when he’s lying in bed next to me, after he thinks I’ve fallen asleep, he will rub himself while scrolling through endless pictures of hot, mostly naked women on Instagram. I used to be offended but I now understand that this is normal male behavior. He just wants to feel pleasure or get a release. So I’m fine with him enjoying those videos as long as it’s not porn. Make your boyfriend comfortable and he will also start doing it around you, maybe without even realizing it at first.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 February 2021):
 Stop pushing him.
Just let him know that you would love to watch him do it, since you think HE the hottest thing since sliced bread. But that you are WILLING to wait for him to be ready to do this FOR you.
He isn't your personal porn actor.
Also, have YOU masturbated in front of him? If not? Maybe suggest a trade off?
But STOP hounding him. You say he is shy and then you want him to PERFORM something that is VERY personal and private for some? Like a circus act?
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