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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

She cheated on me to lose her virginity. Am I making a big deal out of it?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1587 days ago

31 July 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I got engaged in February this year(2020), we had been together officially since June 23, 2017. She is a flawless woman with a wonderful soul to match. I came to know her in December, 2016 on a church outing, and I was taken by her character and humility and ... (450 words)

How can I stay in love with my partner? I'm worried of my love turning into hate

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1604 days ago

29 July 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - My god help me, im losing trust to anyone already. Im so scared, so much.. my partner and me are together for 5 years now. I used to love and trust him. But i dont know exactly what is going on with me. I have an extreme bad experienced from the father of my two children, ... (657 words)

Am I asking for too much? Should I just settle down with her? How do I know she's the one?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1603 days ago

29 July 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - I (38 M) dated this girl (26) a few years back. I was infatuated with her at the beginning. As time progressed, our cultural and age difference began to emerge (I'm originally from Asia but lived in the west for 12 years; while she is a native Asian, but we don't really have ... (385 words)

I wasn't snooping but seen on boyfriend phone where he messaged a girl. How do I talk about this with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1603 days ago

29 July 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - ive been with my boyfriend for two years and i love him so much but lately my mental health has been really shit and ive been feeling really low about myself. the other day while my boyfriend was in the shower his phone vibrated but nothing came up on the screen so i just ... (187 words)

How do I end a lifelong friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1603 days ago

29 July 2020 (F) age 41-50 - How do I break of a life-long “friendship”? You know how they say that you do not choose your family? In my case it works just as well for a friend. Well, let’s call her Anne, is definitely not someone I would have chosen as my friend as an adult. I don’t want to bore you... (1071 words)

I'm pregnant and my b/f went to see his sister who tested positive for covid. Is it wrong of me to feel upset?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1600 days ago

29 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiancé went around his sister who has tested positive for covid. It makes me upset that he went around her te help her when she was having an anxiety attack I’ve never had one so I don’t personally know how they are but the fact that he went in her room hugged her for hours ... (149 words)

He got a text from someone on a gay site do I bring it up? Or just ghost him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1604 days ago

29 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - So I went on a date today having chatted to this guy for over a year. He had told me he’d meet up several times but he was very busy so it kept being put off. I was really surprised when at the weekend he asked “ so ok when we doing drinks?” Anyway fast forward to the date ... (291 words)

How do I stop going after unavailable partners?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1605 days ago

28 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a continual habit of pursuing unavailable men. I just broke up with my boyfriend, who fit the unavailable mold. We were friends for 2 years. I told him I had feelings for him twice, to which he rejected me twice but wanted to stay friends. I became obsessed with th... (802 words)

Two men in my life I don't wish to lose either

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1605 days ago

27 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I'll get right into it. My story is a little convoluted and long, and I don't expect many agony aunts to manage it all. I'm 26 years old, and a very inexperienced dater (grew up in a Mormon denomination - I am now an atheist). Up until 2 months ago, I had a grand total of a... (1508 words)

My husband fell for a woman and although he says nothing happened 2 years later I still don't trust him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1605 days ago

27 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been married to my husband for 8 years, we have 2 children together. When our eldest started school he became friends with a boy in his class and it turned out that the boy's mum is a former workmate of my husband. Very soon after we discovered this there was a massive ... (470 words)

Friends With Benefits Ghosting Me After We Had Sex The For The First Time

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1604 days ago

27 July 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Met a guy who mutually agreed to be friends with benefits with me. Long story short, we hung out at his place the past weekend (our second meeting) and had a great time, it feels. Good sex, good conversation. We really get along. Only problem I think was my side... I was a li... (202 words)

How can I help my long distance boyfriend with his self esteem & self body shaming?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1606 days ago

27 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I are both 27. He is the most wonderful man I have ever met. He is so loving, empathetic, humorous, caring, and interesting. He is my best friend. I am extremely attracted to him. However, he has low self esteem when it comes to his appearance and I want to be ... (884 words)

I don't whether to fight for it or to move on from this relationship

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1606 days ago

27 July 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello everyone, my ex-gf of 10 years have recently just broken up with me. To be exact she broke up with me July 15th. i will try to make this long story as short as i can. Everything started when she moved down to Oklahoma with her parents in February. I am currently in ... (378 words)

My sister's boyfriend doesn't like me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1607 days ago

26 July 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - My sister has been dating her boyfriend for almost four years but I still barely know him. Since I know she's going to marry him, I want to establish a good relationship but his behavior has made that difficult. In conversation, he does not engage. My sister and I also call ... (245 words)

Is it just a fling? Or is it more?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1606 days ago

26 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been in a long term relationship for 9 years now - with all its ups and downs. We've bought a house together (not married, no children). I was a pretty straight edge person, until i met this other guy. Also in a 10-yr long relationship, the attraction was instant. We ... (286 words)

Do I expose a cheater?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1605 days ago

26 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - As i write this down i realise how stupid it all sounds and how much of a massive idiot i’ve been. Just over a year ago i went to a 20 year school reunion, i don’t live in the town anymore but i have a lot of friends there and my parents still live there so i still have li... (616 words)

My husband shuts me out and thinks his behavior is ok

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1608 days ago

26 July 2020 (F) age 36-40 - My husband and I come from two totally different backgrounds. I came from an upbringing of great morals and values, whilst my husband's family has none. Maybe I was blinded by love that I didn't notice. We used to communicate pretty well before we got married. We spoke everyday ... (323 words)

Wife and I fight about chores! She says I don't do enough, but I do the same or more!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1607 days ago

26 July 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife and I constantly fight about household chores. She says she is "Tired of doing everything!" My response to her is to point about all the things that I do. In our division of chores, she cooks, I do the dishes, I change the cat litter, we each do our own laundry,... (464 words)

I just feel like I'm not as important to him as his drinking buddies and alcohol nights out

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1608 days ago

25 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend is rude to me when he is drunk. Last night he came home at 3am and lay down on the bed fully clothed, lying across my arm and woke me up. I asked him to please move over and he got angry and had a go at me. I had to be up early to go to work this morning, so I was ... (533 words)

Will someone still want me? I lied about my sexual experience and people think I'm a slut

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1599 days ago

25 July 2020 (F) age 18-21 - well, here we go. english isnt my first language, so please ignore my grammar mistakes :) 2 years ago, i really loved a guy. I was 13-14. i loved him, really. but he didn’t love me and i was so stupid, so i let him do everything to me. to be with him, i had to tell a lot of l... (347 words)

How do I change being judgemental?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1609 days ago

25 July 2020 (F) age 41-50 - I discovered that I’m judgmental. Maybe not in all situations, bit as it turned out in this one, I am. How do I change this? I find it really hard to change the opinion I have. I’m 43 years old and so is my best friend whom I’ve known since kindergarten. Long story short, s... (569 words)

Is my husband and his ex still an item?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1598 days ago

24 July 2020 (F) age 30-35 - Hello and thanks in advance. So I'm married now for 3 years. Just before we were married he had two girlfriends I had no idea but found out two years into our marriage. He acted like it wasn't a big deal. To me it certainly was. I felt betrayed and my trust level went... (215 words)

Why is he mad that I moved on?? When he did not want me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1608 days ago

24 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex fiancé left me for someone else two years ago. He always said he wanted to be friends. Recently, him and I connected over Facebook and began a friendship for the past three months. He was nice at first but when I told him out I had a boyfriend. He became... (199 words)

I feel like I’m about to be stuck in the middle of a civil war

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1602 days ago

24 July 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear aunts, I feel like I’m about to be stuck in the middle of a civil war and I need your help! Here’s the background: My grandfather is 96 years old and financially comfortable. My aunt moved to the east 30 years ago when she married her husband and they have a goo... (414 words)

I've never had a girlfriend should I just give up?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1600 days ago

24 July 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend or date before should i just give up?... (15 words)

Why all the pictures but less intimacy, I don’t understand?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1605 days ago

24 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey there, I am having an issue with my boyfriend for quite some time, he likes to see women in bikinis and watch bikini contests, we honestly don’t have much sex like at the beginning of our relationship we have almost 3 years, I am a good looking girl 17 years younger than ... (170 words)

Would you forgive parents who made your life so miserable?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1609 days ago

22 July 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I've been raised in a really abusive family. Both my parents are mentally and physically abusive. I have deep hatred towards both of them. Although I have a more closer relationship with my mom, yet she's abusive and manipulative as heck. We argue a lot, she always wants ... (432 words)

Do you think his jokes are actually jokes or is he testing me to see how I respond before asking me out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1611 days ago

21 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Aunts and Uncles!! I have a guy friend that I have known for many years. I haven’t seen him for 1 year due to him working away. Although now that he’s back, I need help deciphering if he likes me as more than a friend or not. We have always had chemistry and got on ... (528 words)

Are women equally as shallow as men?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1449 days ago

21 July 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Shallow men only go after attractive women. Would it be fair to say that shallow women only go after bad boys? I notice that bad boys tend to have more "alpha" personalities and therefore higher status in society. Perhaps men are wired to seek fertile reproductive women and ... (375 words)

When things didn't go the way he wanted with the bank he stopped contact. Was he just using me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1585 days ago

21 July 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello. I am separated for 13 yrs now and I am in a relationship with a man who is 15 yrs older than me. He was my teenage crush, I was 16 yrs old and we kissed once. He is known in our city as a womanizer. We become closer through email (long-distance relationship) beg... (449 words)

How do women maintain their self worth as they age when everything is about looks?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1609 days ago

21 July 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Scrolling through my general forum I see many interesting topics but every few posts there’s young women’s pictures posted in bikinis or even just in normal clothes with comments on their attractiveness ( or not ) I don’t see any such images of men . All the images of men are ... (223 words)

I feel I ruined a friendship due to my behaviour

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1614 days ago

20 July 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I met a guy online dating over a year ago he said he wasnt ready for a relationship. He had been single for a couple of month and realised he was just trying to fill a gap left by his ex.He was only on the site for a month but deleted his account after we had met. We agreed to ... (292 words)

I'm horny all the time. Am I a nymphomanic?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1612 days ago

20 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - In recent years I've been finding myself almost constantly "in the mood" for no reason and without a proper cause. I've woken up horny and went to bed horny, and I've tried every solution I can think of, masturbation of various kinds, having sex with my girlfriend, even... (70 words)

I know I need to end things and kick my boyfriend out but I don't do it

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1610 days ago

19 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I'm just looking for some relationship advice. I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years. We're both 32. Here is just some background info - 2 and a half years ago, my wonderful grandparents moved into a bungalow as they were in their late 80's and t... (1378 words)

My wife lost weight is dressing sexy and I'm worried she might stray

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1606 days ago

19 July 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - During the covid epidemic, my wife started working out hard and has lost the last bit of weight she wanted to. She looks fantastic now, my issue is she has ordered some very short dresses and skirts and now that most of the stores have reopened, she is wearing this skimpy ... (90 words)

My husband admitted his affair, said it's over but why is he still contacting his mistress?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1612 days ago

19 July 2020 (F) age 41-50 - My husband just admitted to a long term affair. His mistress put a post on Facebook telling everyone about the affair because they had a spat. So my husband decided hearing it from him would be best. I am devastated by this. And I'm struggling to forgive him. But we agreed to ... (300 words)

Should I let my mate's daughter to come to our wedding? I know she will cause trouble

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1612 days ago

19 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there.. please give me your opinion.. so me and my partner have been together 2 yrs and due to get married in October we have a child each who lives with us (his childrens mother past away) he also has 3 other older children that were took in to care many years ago due to ... (288 words)

What is this man up to?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1611 days ago

19 July 2020 (M)

age - I'd be interested on others views and opinions on this, please. A man living in a neighbourhood for two decades starts to look at a single, female neighbour who has lived there for the same time. They do not know each other but are of a similar age, although the female looks ... (163 words)

He has my number but he hasn't texted me yet?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1615 days ago

18 July 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I met a guy online and we hit it off pretty well (in my opinion). I was teasing him by calling him Mr. John, then he started to call me Rossie as a way of teasing me back. He started asking me questions about myself, like where I was from and would ask me about what was ... (378 words)

Would it be a good idea to give this relationship another chance, or am I just the rebound girl?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1615 days ago

18 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I dated a guy for 1 year. During that time, we never had sex because I was unsure about his intentions, even though he told me that he loved me, so I do realize that some of this is my problem! Towards the end of our year, he began showing interest in another woman. I initiated ... (196 words)

How do I talk to women?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1609 days ago

17 July 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I was hoping to get some advice on how to talk to girls. I'm a 28 year old man, unfortunately I've been single all my life. This is probably due to the fact that I have Aspergers. Although it's only 'mild' Aspergers, I've always struggled socially with both men and wom... (325 words)

How can I live my life the way I want and still have my parents happy about me, and not keep lying to them all the time?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1615 days ago

16 July 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - HI guys, I'm a 22 year old girl. I come from a conservative household, and my parents are very very protective of me. My parents grew up in a conservative house. So they don't believe in dating, no boys allowed, no girl can have guy friends... Since I'm very differen... (262 words)

How do I stop talking so much?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1615 days ago

16 July 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - I talk to much. It is a habit I always had. Any advice on how to break this habit?... (22 words)

Does Covid stops men having intimacy with you and especially if you(Men) tested positive before?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1618 days ago

16 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend who had virus at the end of march, and he had it for a month, doesn’t seem like he wants to have a sex. After 28 days quarantine, we started to see each other and giving peck while wearing mask. Then I asked him when the second phase will be. Then we started giving ... (144 words)

Is it normal for a guy not fully hard to ejaculate quickly because he's nervous?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1617 days ago

16 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I am divorced and recently had sex, I guess, with a guy I had been talking to for awhile but just met for the first time. He would go in shortly while not fully hard and when, I asked him what was wrong he said he was really nervous and afraid he'd get off too quickly. I said ... (126 words)

I think we might break up. How do I cancel on boyfriend's birthday

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1618 days ago

15 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, I need advice! How should I cancel on my boyfriend. His birthday is on Friday. He is divorced and moved back in with his parents he has a son with his ex. She text him last week saying she wanted to get back with him! Since then he’s been distant a tad bit. He ... (155 words)

He's shy should I wait for him to ask me out? Or ask him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1618 days ago

15 July 2020 (?) age 36-40 - Hi guys. This may come across quite silly and people will probably laugh at a 32 year old asking these sort of questions. I have been single for almost 2 years now after a really bad situation with my ex. I gave myself time to heal and haven't felt the urge to date until no... (189 words)

My partner's parents live 5 minutes from us. They promised to be there for us but they never are

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1616 days ago

15 July 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey y'all. I dont know how im to put this without sounding like a hag. When i met my fiancé i had 2 kids in tow. We had one of our own a few years later. During the pregnancy his mom was pretty supportive she reassured me that she would be a constant help and in the baby's life ... (560 words)

Dating a straight guy who regrets it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1616 days ago

15 July 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - So I’ve been sort of seeing this guy and his straight well bi but in denial And everytime we get in the deep at the end he says it’s wrong and it shouldn’t happen. His single but had loads of girlfriends. We have great chemistry and both just want a casual thing but someti... (88 words)

He's 8 years younger than me and his grandmother told me to tell him to go away

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1616 days ago

14 July 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - hello my name is Ashley and I really need your help. I am 29 years old with 2 kids and single mom. I met a guy two weeks ago and he is 21. I met him when I went to drop off my kids so his grama can watch them for me and she is the manager to the place I live. The day i went to ... (237 words)