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writes:My boyfriend who had virus at the end of march, and he had it for a month, doesn’t seem like he wants to have a sex. After 28 days quarantine, we started to see each other and giving peck while wearing mask. Then I asked him when the second phase will be. Then we started giving a peck only. It has been 4 months, we haven’t have intimacy. I go to his place but he doesn’t attempt it. One day, he said he needs to look out for everyone. Because I live with my mother who is over 65z Do you think he has no interest anymore? One day i gave him a long kiss. He was suprised. I don’t know what to do. As a guy, don’t you wanna have an intimacy but you guys are not living together. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2020): Many people who have recovered from the virus still have lingering-effects like fuzzy thoughts, forgetfulness, they feel tired, weakness, and perhaps a loss in sex-drive comes from being tired.
If your boyfriend is still recuperating from a disease that killed a lot of people; I think you should allow him to social distance, until he feels more himself; and stop making this about you. What about your mother?
Your mother is in a high-risk group due to her age. If she has any underlying-illnesses, diabetes, high blood-pressure, an immunodeficiency-disease, or an upper-respiratory disease; the complications of the disease could put her on a respirator...or worse!
I suggest you keep your mother safe and healthy, just as she has done for you as you grew-up. Our parents sacrifice a lot to keep us safe and healthy; and we owe them the same. It infuriates me seeing people refusing to wear masks talking about some unofficial right they have. Who has a right to infect others and/or put another person's life at risk??? I have a right to live! Elderly-people and people not so old also have a right to live, and want to live as much as anybody else!
Stupid politicians are even attacking the credibility of one of our utmost expects in epidemic-science, over god-forsaken politics!!! This disease can be lethal!!! Some have the gall to call this a HOAX!!! It's unbelievable how stupid and selfish people can be!
For now, don't jump to conclusions about your boyfriend. He may still be in stages of recovery. It is a known-fact, there are lingering-effects that are yet to be studied; and doctors and pandemic-specialists are still learning about the full-effects and changing-characteristics of the Covid-19 virus. It affects people differently, but we have to protect the ones we love as well as ourselves. Viruses mutate, what they were weeks ago could be different only weeks later. Be patient, don't pressure your boyfriend while he's still getting over the virus. Keep your mother safe!
God bless and protect all of you!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 July 2020):
 And has he actually tested negative after his quarantine ? Here, at least, to be declared Covid-free you have to come up negative at two ( in some areas, three ) subsequent swabs performed a few days from one another, and some people unluckily still results technically infected , even in absence of symptoms and feeling great, because the first swab is negative but the second is still positive, and so on and so forth, one unlucky girl had to stay quarantined for almost 5 months , of course it's very unusual but not impossible.
If he is totally healed, an explanation of his lack of interest for sex could be shock/ depression. Covid 19 brings to the foregront very suddenly and unexpectedly the idea of your own mortality; it's scary stuff, and no it does not really matter if he was at home with just a mild case of sniffles, because you still know and hear of lots of people that shared your condition and could not make it, and because this is a strange disease where one can have a turn for the worse out of the blue, suddenly . I suppose it is more than enough , for some people, to let them feeling unsettled and not much into sex.
Other than that, no, sexual inappetence is not a known consequence of Covid, and as for his reason to avoid intimacy, it's quite lame, if he is really concerned about spreading the disease or catching it again, he should not even kiss you or peck you or hug you or anything, he ( and you !) should observe social distancing and wear a mask if you are closer than 6 feet....
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