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Archived questions from: November, 2019 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I sent an email to a whole group instead of just the teacher.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

30 November 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi Helping people. My issue is with school. A few weeks ago I asked to move a class a little earlier than usual as weren't going to have anything else on. I and some others wanted to finish early that day. 5 classmates thought we were going to have class at the new arranged... (236 words)

I'm in a messy relationship with no romance.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1815 days ago

30 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my bf for 4 years. We have one child together and he is 5. Around the time I got pregnant, we were having issues and broke up. Shortly after, he got a new gf and they were together for about about a year and a half, all thru my pregnancy and our sons first ye... (563 words)

Married in haste, husband wont work or take care of family.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

30 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been married for a little over a year. I feel like my marriage was a mistake because I my husband and I dated for two months because we married. We now have a baby together and things have just gotten worse for me. I have children from a previous relationship and so does ... (308 words)

I think this girl was just using me!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

29 November 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - at work, a female joined and she seem quite friendly and we got to know each other. she wasn’t with the company for long as she was going back to college. when I messaged her to ask what course she was doing and if she might come back to work in the summer. got no reply from ... (76 words)

I don't want my MIL in the delivery room!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1813 days ago

29 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my husband for over a decade, we've been married for 7 years and have one child so far and one on the way. Over the years, my mother in law has made several disrespectful comments about my mom and some of my other family members. She basically hates my mother and ... (344 words)

I cant stand up to my wife when it comes to money.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1816 days ago

29 November 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - I don't know how to stand up to my wife when it comes to money. She literally spends a fortune on things and activities we just don't need to do and no matter how much I try to put money away for a rainy day, we always end up with nothing at the end of each month. Every tim... (445 words)

I've discovered my husband of 12 years has a fuck buddy in another state. I'm at a loss on how to deal with this.

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

28 November 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I just found out my husband has a fuck buddy in another state. Once every six months he is there for work. I saw a text from her while he was sleeping and he later confessed when I confronted him. I am in a state of shock and utter despair at the moment. I am shocked that ... (327 words)

What do I do to get people to stop trying to ruin the new life I'm trying to build?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1815 days ago

28 November 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 40 years old and just got out of prison after 10 years almost two years ago. I went straight into a halfway house where I followed the rules, went to AA (my drug of choice is alcohol although I've done other things before prison), got a job a year in at The Salvation Army ... (862 words)

I have a crush on my boyfriend's uncle

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

28 November 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a crush on my boyfriends uncle. Is that normal?. When he comes to our house I start to stare at him. When his uncle smiles at me I feel like kissing him. I can't control my feelings for him. ... (43 words)

I need help with online dating..

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1816 days ago

27 November 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone, I am 38 years old female and I want to try online dating . I was Married before. I want to meet people to find the right match ( but I don’t want sex before marriage, I don’t mind kissing , hugging, holding hands . Could someone help me how I could mention on m... (151 words)

Does he think we're official?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

26 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Been seeing this guy for a couple of months and uses “we” alot and even said the other day “ we make a good couple dont we?” Would you take this as him hinting or assuming we official? Or do you think I should wait for him to ask directly? I know I could bring it up and just ... (67 words)

What do you do with an acquaintance who is just plain cheap and also invites herself?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1812 days ago

26 November 2019 (F) age 26-29 - What do you do with an acquaintance who is just plain cheap and also invites herself? She and I see each other all the time because we're in the same homeschool group where our children go on field trips to the same places. Also, our children are in youth orchestra and attend ... (428 words)

Does anybody have any advice for handling negativity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

26 November 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Does anybody have any advice for handling negativity? I have lost a lot of achieved last few years which has led me to become a little quiet. I am trying to build myself up however I cannot accept negativity anymore. If anybody criticises me I cannot take it. I feel upset an... (270 words)

Does a woman just have to suck it up when their husbands refuse to grow?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1639 days ago

26 November 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been married for twenty years and at the time of marrying my husband he was never one to express his feelings much. At the time I had a couple of young children and we also went on to have more . Life was extremely busy and this met both our needs . As we have gotten ... (337 words)

My boyfriend seemed understanding that I developed two crushes, and that I want closure from one of them.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

26 November 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - This summer I had a full-time internship that took up most of my time during the week and I had long, early hours. My boyfriend of 5 years and I couldn't see each other as often as we wanted since I lived at a dorm, he lived pretty far away, and I had to go to sleep early every ... (562 words)

My ex sent me a fb friend request, I do think about her a lot, and how I could have treated her better.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

25 November 2019 (M) age 30-35 - 1 year ago my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me 3 months after she moved far away for school. The main reasons she broke up with me, I think, were A) she decided she wanted to stay permanently and didn't want to take me away from my family, B) we disagreed on whether to ... (469 words)

My boyfriend keeps making comments that make me feel bad about myself.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

25 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been dating a man for the last 3 months that has never been in a relationship before. He's 27 and has dated but never committed. We met through mutual friends and had a bit of a rough start in some areas but he was always receptive to listening to me and we worked on our ... (377 words)

Older guy us making a move on me but wants to keep it quiet.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

25 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a friend (he's 20 years older). A couple of years ago, we had a talk about our feelings. He told me that he was interested in me but couldn't be with me because he had a girlfriend. We stayed in touch (close friends but nothing more) until recently when he started ... (285 words)

My GF is not a virgin but want have sex with me until we marry.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

25 November 2019 (M)

age 51-59 - I am dating a girl who is 40 years old , it’s almost two months . We have great chemistry but I have one issue. She don’t want to have sex until we marry. She is not virgin ( someone raped her ) I don’t think she has to refuse sex If she is not virgin . What’s your opinio... (69 words)

My wife wont wear a bra when people are over.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1303 days ago

24 November 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Not sure how I should feel about my wife and her feeling nudity is only a problem if your looking at it sexually .. I find it disrespectful if someone is over and she doesn’t have a bra on or is t fully clothed .. am I over reacting?... (49 words)

I can't tell if its love or lust.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

24 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a 25-year-old young pretty and successful female, for the last five years I can wholeheartedly say I think I’m in love with one of my friends. It all started one night at a mutual friends birthday party we got really drunk and made out. Ever since that night the rest was ... (483 words)

Rebound sex, should I go for it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

23 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm struggling to clearly explain this so for context here is a brief timeline 2008 - met my husband 2013 - married husband 2015 - started new training scheme - met load of people who became good friends and vague friends incl Alex 2018 - went for promotion while pr... (288 words)

My life isnt going the way I'd like it to!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

23 November 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello. I thought I would put my problems on here, hopefully to give me some perspective. This year has been the hardest year of my life. I am struggling so much at the moment but trying so hard to keep positive. Firstly, I was in hospital with a problem with my fertility... (335 words)

Our friendship has got to the point I don't want to be her Maid of Honour.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

23 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - So I’ve been friends with this girl all my life. We lived quite close when we was younger so we spent all of our childhood together. We was inseparable best friends, however as time went on we drifted. We still spoke and still do now, just not as much. Whenever I see her thou... (267 words)

How do I get over this co-worker?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

23 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I’m married (unhappily) and to cut a long story short I slept with someone I work in a team with. We had sex 4 times over the space of a year, last year. He is now my manager!! Before we had sex, we were very friendly. Now we barely speak. There are so many social occasions ... (260 words)

My wife's workouts are getting out of control

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

23 November 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - My wife wanted to lose some weight for upcoming vacation so I encouraged her to get a trainer. A friend of hers recommend a 'gay' guy (Joe) she knew that worked out of his house at nights. Once I found out he was gay, I begged her to wear her shiny tights and leotards I had bo... (194 words)

How can I convince my fiance to stop lying?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

22 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello and thank you So I’m dealing with lies from my fiancé. I have confronted him and told him I don’t appreciate when he lies to me and it makes me not trust him. For example I’ll ask him so how was your night, what did you do? He will say “nothing babe I stayed at... (166 words)

How do I not offend people who are trying to help me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

22 November 2019 (F) age 41-50 - How do I not offend people who would like to help me? I will lose my job in two months – end of January. The firm I work for will go bankrupt due to some bad decisions my bosses have made, by their own admission. I will get a very small severance package – about my three... (745 words)

I've left my dishonourable husband but my parents don't trust the new man

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

22 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello.. i have asked questions before this and this is my life update. Im currently still legally married with my husband but i went back to my parents home last month. I keep ranting about my husband before and everybody here told me just divorce him. My husband lies, ch... (806 words)

Is it childish of me to tell my mother about our arguments?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

22 November 2019 (F) age 26-29 - Hello agony aunts. I'm in my first serious relationship with a man. I've only dated a few guys before but it wasn't that serious and more like short term relationships. Since I'm taking things serious with this man and planning to get engaged, whenever we have a heated a... (243 words)

I'm tired of my 'bad boy' charade

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

22 November 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - I used to be a bloke with low self confidence. I remember celebrating my 21st birthday still a virgin. Not been in a real relationship either. I had many close female friends, though I somehow friend zoned all of them. They kept telling me that I am a nice guy who will find my ... (663 words)

My wife doesn't want to reconcile so why does she care if I'm drinking or not?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

22 November 2019 (M)

age - My wife has moved out of our home because I drink alcohol. Since she moved, she had several times if I am drinking. She, does not want to reconcile. So, why does she keep asking if I am drinking when we talk by phone? Thank you for your answers.... (52 words)

I'm in shock my boyfriend lied about sending private messages to my friend.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

21 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf basically sent a message to someone he didn’t know was my friend saying “I think you’re beautiful and I think you should know lol” She sent me the screenshot. I called him very calm and said Hey, do you message girls on insta? He said no, sometimes i do comment under ... (360 words)

I want to take things slow but he thinks I am just stringing him along.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

21 November 2019 (F) age 26-29 - I've been dating this guy for 6 months, at first everything seemed great and he seemed like a gentleman, now I'm just having a hard time understanding his intentions. I'm not the type of girl who goes and sleeps around with any guy I date. I like to take things slow, be comfo... (631 words)

I'm having weird sexual dreams about my inlaws.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

21 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m 30 married for 9 years to a great husband with a good family. My father died when I was 2 and went thru an extremely traumatizing, sexually and physically abusive child hood. Now that I really trust my in laws and am pretty happy, I find myself having weird sexual ... (75 words)

The guy I am interested in lives with a homeless woman who does drugs and they used to have sex.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

20 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently made contact with a guy from my high school from years ago. We talked for about a week, mostly through text, and made plans to meet up over the holidays, when he dropped a bombshell, and I need help sorting through it. Basically, he told me that last year, a homeless ... (263 words)

I've been married three months and I am totally miserable!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

20 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Firstly, thanks for taking the time to read and respond.. I’m miserable, totally. Been married 3 months although we dated for 8 years. My husband sleeps on the floor when we fight. At first he claimed to have a bad back and generally preferred the flat and hard surface of ... (269 words)

We have such an attraction to each other but things don't seem to go anywhere

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

20 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - It's not actually a problem, so much as it is a little confusion. I have a guy that I've known for years. We dated for a while but it never really went anywhere since we were young and I was in school. However, we've always had a strong attraction to each other. We are stuc... (203 words)

My boyfriend of 15 years slept with another man and is now telling me it was just a mistake

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

20 November 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend of 15 years slept with a guy he’d been messaging online, while I was working. He says it was a terrible mistake and he was just curious. As it turns out he’s been in gay sites for years but never did anything physical about it, till now. He says he’s not into men ... (117 words)

Is it ok to have secret savings?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

19 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I have some savings that my partner doesn’t know about. It was money that I saved up over many years and that I have set aside as an emergency fund, in case one of us loses our job, or gets sick, or we break up (I’m not planning to break up, but who knows what could happen in ... (160 words)

Can please someone tell me if I'm being manipulated or am I just controlling and delusional.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

19 November 2019 (F) age 26-29 - (Please read my previous post) So I wrote this post a little while ago: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-trust-my-boyfriend-around-his-female.html After blocking that girl, he promised me that he wouldn't talk to her again, and that he will ignore her completely, a... (426 words)

S somebody who has suffered from major depression four times still entitled to hope for love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1775 days ago

19 November 2019 (M)

age 51-59 - Well, the subject says it all ... that's basically the question I have. But I'll briefly give you some background. I'm willing to answer any questions and hoping for some dialogue, I don't expect any answers based on the short summary I give here. It all started when I w... (757 words)

How do I stop thinking about a fling?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

18 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - How can I get over / stop constantly thinking about a fling? I came out of a 10 year relationship almost 18 months ago, Over summer I joined an online dating site and met somebody who was absolutely amazing. We talked online for quite a while before meeting and he initially... (357 words)

If I got back with an ex I don't want his friend around

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

18 November 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have just found out some shocking news about an exs friend. Me and my ex grew apart but he recently got back in touch i said we could chat and see if theres anything still there, he suddenly went quiet and now i have found out why . his friend has been arrested for messaging ... (131 words)

Why does my boyfriend seem obsessed with a woman he hasn't seen for a few years?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 1666 days ago

18 November 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, so I have been working with my boyfriend on and off helping him out in some of his work projects and he pays me, so he gave me his work laptop, not personal and I was working from there, so I remember I needed to search for a word meaning on google so I opened up mozilla ... (567 words)

I'm considering a threesome with two male friends.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

17 November 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - This is a bit embarrassing but I have two male friends who I've been friends with for a long time and we spend a lot of time together. Sometimes I sleep over at either of their houses when we can't be bothered going to our own houses. They're both amazing friends. We even share ... (203 words)

My teenage son is hitting on my wife.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

17 November 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Afternoon all.. so I remarried 15 years ago and my older son is now 19 and I think he’s been hitting on my wife and I’m not sure what to say ... (31 words)

Roommate took in a person who is way overstaying her welcome

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

17 November 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - I moved out of the dorms last year because of shitty roommates and in with a gay guy I thought was a friend. E and I work full-time and attend school part-time. Other than him quitting jobs suddenly (he at least gets another one) and refusing to do dishes or take out garbage ... (812 words)

I'm not sure if I should trust this girl, or not!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

17 November 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey Aunts. I have recent gone on a few dates with someone who I met online. I was wondering when to remove my profile from the site, but she got there first and told me she had done so. Great I thought - best go and do the same quick. But as I was going so, her messages to ... (84 words)

I get wet very easily when I am with my boyfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

16 November 2019 (F) age 26-29 - Hello, Ive been having a problem with being turned on and getting wet really easily, so basically I would be with my boyfriend just cuddling and I would get wet for some reason. It can be really awkward sometimes when I'm out in public with him. We would be on a date and I ... (138 words)