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writes:I have a crush on my boyfriends uncle. Is that normal?. When he comes to our house I start to stare at him. When his uncle smiles at me I feel like kissing him. I can't control my feelings for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2019): Did you click on the wrong age group? How can you not control or think logically at your age, regardless you are not that into your boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2019): Having a crush on someone is a temptation. Temptation in itself is NOT a sin, as long as you do not nurture the temptation and foolishly act upon it. If you choose to dwell on the temptation and nurse that into lustful fantasies, that lead you to act upon that temptation physically, then that IS sin! Crushes do happen, but it should warn you that you are not totally committed to your own partner. Rather than foolishly acting on this crush, go out of your way to show your partner, thru your actions, how much you Love Him, and verbalize to Him, just how much He means, to You, and how You are Dedicated to Him, and only Him! Trust me friend, if you starve the crush, and feed your Love For your One and Only, that crush will die! As adults we learn to reason and this seperates us, from our juvenile mistakes of the past! This reasoning is also how GOD set mankind above the animal kingdom so that we can/Will remain faithful to our Own mate! Many couples remain faithful thru 50, 75 yrs of marriage, so you are can too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2019): You can have all the crushes you like. You don't have to act on them. You're a grown-woman; and you are responsible for your actions, and the decisions you make. If you go out of your way to make the crush known; then you deserve to lose your boyfriend. Hopefully his uncle will inform his nephew; if you misbehave, or make a pass.
You may not be able to control what goes through your mind; but you can control what you do with your body. Any attempt to seduce or relay your feelings to his uncle, will blow-up in your face. You said it's only a crush; so you CAN control it. If you can't control it, it's an obsession. Then you need mental-healthcare; because you can't control yourself.
Feelings for people who are unaware of them, or aren't reciprocated, are meaningless. It's not love, it's a sense of entitlement; wanting what isn't yours to have. The four-letter word for it is "lust!" They fade when you hide and repress them. You will, if you really do love your boyfriend. If you don't, let him go! If you do, remain faithful! Keep the crush to yourself!
Crushes are for kids or adolescents! Grown-ups in committed-relationships, that are real, learn how to check their/our feelings. You know better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2019): Most crushes are normal. But as a grown woman you should know by now that just because you have a crush doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. It's just a crush. you'll get over it.
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