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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My girlfriend went behind my back and told my parents about our future plans. Am I right to be hurt?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

31 December 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years, the majority of this has been long distance (10 hour flight). We've been trying to find ways to close the distance and one way is to get married so i can sponsor her. I felt this was too fast to get ma... (347 words)

I feel like the laughing stock because I want boundaries

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

31 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm wondering if this situation is worth breaking up over. Right now we're on the brinks because I'm mad about it. The guy I've been seeing for almost a year now is a hippie, I'm not, though i like to party with hippies sometimes. We had a brief split and worked through it. ... (828 words)

Should I ask an 18 year old out or is she too young for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2149 days ago

31 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m a single mum with a toddler and after over two years of being single i decided last week to put myself back out there. I’m bisexual and while on a dating site I started talking to a girl who I like. My problem is that I’m nervous about getting too involved if things aren’t ... (216 words)

He wont have sex with me and prefers porn.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2142 days ago

31 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - We have had a rough relationship. 2 years+. Hes cheated, and always put me in competition. Now we have a baby and he loves him so much, but he cheated on me when i was pregnant. Its been an abusive relationship ever since the 5th month. He expresses his love verbally to me ... (92 words)

Before her pregnancy she would flirt all the time... now Nothing.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2119 days ago

31 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - Recently i changed job and got close to a girl here. She used to behave with me like she is my girlfriend. She is married but she even asked me to be her "Boyfriend" forever. We did heavy flirting and she also told me she'd kiss me when we go for trip outside whenever i buy my ... (235 words)

My husband is abusive and I wonder what I'm doing wrong to provoke him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2148 days ago

31 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I have been married to my husband for 5 years. We have been together for 12 years. We have a 11 year old together. I so have 3 older kids. But he normally only tells people he has one child. He has always had a temper but it has gotten worse. I made dinner the other day ... (119 words)

I've met a nice guy but my cheating daddy wants me back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

30 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Please help me I am in such a dilemma a few months ago me and my baby daddy split up due to a lot of issues in which one of them was him cheating I am not sure if it was physical but I know for sure girls were calling him and texting him and he was probably seeing some girls ... (244 words)

Should I take note of our horoscopes? The Chinese one says we are incompatible!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

30 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - This probably seems silly but I have been reading Chinese horoscopes and compatability with my boyfriend and they say we are not suited. It says his soul mate Chinese animal was a horse and his ex wife was one, yet my animal is the least compatible with his. This is really... (94 words)

Is it ok to ask for a second date immediately? And when to tell about a chronic illness?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

30 December 2018 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi all, a quick couple of questions. I went on an date set up from an online site last night. I have been on 2 dates over the last few months and had sworn off it as I didn’t enjoy the process but she contacted me and I thought well why not, let’s give it a shot. I actuall... (462 words)

Accused of being antisocial for turning down a guy?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2148 days ago

30 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - My dad loves to accuse me of being anti social and saying "that's why you have no friends". We were at a friends place and there is a single guy there who I see a couple times a year. We aren't friends (acquaintances) and we do not share interests. That night he invited me out ... (186 words)

How do I stop crushing on jerks?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

30 December 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - I always crush on a guy who is kind of a jerk, but the type of guy parents love because he totally sucks up to them and looks really good on paper — smart, ambitious, handsome — but deep down, he is not the nicest person. He usually has a controlling streak that is sneaky and ... (167 words)

Does he like me more than a FWB?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

30 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - 2 Months ago, a man and I arranged to "Hook up" after matching on Tinder, things went well. Afterwards, I carried on as usual, assuming It was just a "One night stand". 2 weeks after our "Hook up" He had asked me to become his Friends With Benefits, I was unsure at first as I ... (246 words)

Is his reaction to these comments a red flag?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

29 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys! Hope everyone is well :) I recently entered into a new relationship. We've been "dating" for the last 2 months, and official for the last month. We have also already entered the "I Love You" phase. Everything moved very quickly, but it just kind of felt right. A... (549 words)

Should I cut off my mom from my life without giving her an explanation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

29 December 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - Guys... this new year I’m going to cut off my mom from my life. I have written a question regarding our relationship before and things have been going downhill from there. She has been mean to me and my family all year long. I have a sister who is in her late 30s, me and ... (929 words)

I know I deserve better, so why am I so sad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

29 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm angry and sad. 5 days before I'm supposed to move into an apartment with my boyfriend he gets cold feet and tells me he doesn't think it's a good idea and says he wants to end the relationship. He confesses to me that he couldn't be himself around me and that there's... (250 words)

How do I change my patterns?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

29 December 2018 (F)

age 51-59 - I have come out of a very long term relationship where my partner 'parentified' me. I've read a lot about how there can be a passive / active dynamic (or divide) between partners, where one acts like the kid and the other is positioned as parent, and I want to learn how to ... (513 words)

Is ‘bird’ just slang for ‘woman’ or ‘girl’?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

29 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - When a guy calls you a bird is it just slang for woman/girl. I text a guy friend to rearrange meeting up as he wasn't feeling well and joked that it was nurses orders for him to get better and that I couldn't find a nurse in uniform emoji to end my text with. I then fo... (116 words)

My new job demands much more of my time! Any advice?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

28 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Three weeks ago I started a job in my career path that I’ve been praying for for a long time now. Great location for me, benefits, union, pay is good, the whole nine yards. I feel so overwhelming blessed for me and my family. The only downside to this all is I feel like its a ... (193 words)

Should I stay friends with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2149 days ago

28 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - My close friend really confuses me sometimes. When we get too close she pushes me away...when i go far, she pulls me close. Intially we used to talk a lot over phone chats etc. Now she says she doesnt like it. She used to get jealous of other people when i got close to them but ... (227 words)

He constantly needs reassuring and I am being turned off by it!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

28 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi so I started seeing a guy about a month ago, he is lovely but lives like 400 miles away! I really fell for him, and him me, but he seems borderline obsessed with me, he got me presents for Xmas very sweet I thought, but he is very insecure and always needs reassurance, if ... (175 words)

I think this guy is holding back from me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

27 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - got into online dating. Had a couple of dates with a fab guy. i could see him as the one. maybe early but theres something so different in a fantastic way we have also taken it slow we chatted for 2 month before meeting. we have both deleted our profiles a month ago. His best ... (123 words)

My step children's mother is creating problems

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

27 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Aunts and Uncles I need some advice please. Not sure where to go from here. I have 2 beautiful step children. They have just got back from a once in a lifetime holiday with their Mum. We didn’t know about this holiday at all as their Mum didn’t tell us. We alr... (311 words)

Does he still like me? Am I over thinking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

27 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I ve been seeing this lad for a couple of months. We spend hours talking and he always asks about my life. On nights out he will.stay with me all night in the club rather than his friends. When people ask us what we are sometimes he says I m his mrs other times he will say sort ... (309 words)

How can I ask my family to back off from my pregnant girlfriend?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

27 December 2018 (M)

age 26-29 - I’ve been dating my gf for 6 months. My family met her for the first time over the holidays and they weren’t very welcoming. When we met she had just found out she was pregnant. She also has a two year daughter. She left her ex because he was cheating on her, when she confront... (326 words)

Older man wont leave his girlfriend for me.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2134 days ago

27 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - I started an emotional and physical affair with a man I work with around this time last year. He started seeing someone about 3/4 months before me and him started talking. He's 15 years older than me,I'm 32 he's 47. We connected on a level I never knew existed,he opened up to ... (719 words)

My abusive father has turned the family against us. Does anyone have any words of support/similar stories?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2150 days ago

27 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, Im just seeking stories of others if anyone has gone through something similar. It would be comforting to hear, as I know there is little to be done about my current family situation. Last year I decided to cut contact with my father due to him being violent and psyc... (372 words)

My ex saw my hairy nipples! Is that enough to end years of great sex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

27 December 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - The other night I ran into my ex while drunk and went home with him. It was spontaneous and so I didn’t have time to “prepare” myself for him.. I didn’t sleep with him that night (although he tried, persistently) but everything seemed as it was when we were in love and I le... (166 words)

I can't forget the guy I cheated with.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2152 days ago

25 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - About 6 months ago, I cheated on my boyfriend with a male friend. I won't go into details, but my boyfriend and I worked through it and I cut contact with the other guy. Today he sent me an email to wish me happy Christmas and said he misses me. I told my boyfriend about it (I ... (528 words)

Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

25 December 2018 (F)

age - My boyfriend of five years ordered an unborn pedigree puppy for a female friend. She walks his dog when he is at work. During the time he sought out, and checked out breeders, I told him that I found this to be a highly inappropriate gift. During the three weeks of searching, I ... (181 words)

She sent me a text saying "lets break up" but I didn't even know we were in a relationship???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

25 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - My close friend keeps refering to our friendship as "Relationship". Recently we had a fight and she texted me saying "Lets Break Up".Does that mean we are into a relationship?... (30 words)

Should I even try to remain friends with her after the way she acted?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

25 December 2018 (F) age 30-35 - The other day I went to dinner with my friend who I actually considered one of my best friend so we were having dinner and it w and We ordered our food and both of ours took a long time to come but hers came before mine and she ate hers and she was almost done that’s when I ... (529 words)

Male friend wants to discuss sexual fantasies ....he has a girlfriend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

25 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - No, I am not looking to make him my boyfriend Just want to know if its normal for men with girlfriends to want to talk to their female friends about their sexual fantasies? he even asked if i had a boyfriend and when i asked why he said because "you seem like the type ... (93 words)

Boyfriend lied about moving overseas to keep sleeping with me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

25 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - My Boyfriend and I broke up I'm very depressed this Christmas we had been together for a year with a 2 month breakup in between because he refused to tell anyone about me... He claims to be private I took him back because I don't believe he was seeing women behind my back and I ... (1018 words)

My boyfriend regifted a present he had given to his ex

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2151 days ago

24 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - My new bf gave me a regifted present! A mutual friend sent me a pic of his ex wearing this exact bracelet i received. Im so hurt and offended. I thought this person loved me. Who does such a thing? I am gutted. ... (43 words)

Is my roommate pleasuring himself with my clothes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

24 December 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - I have three roommates. Two of them, a man and a woman, are married. He doesn't give me the creeps or weird rape-y looks, and my gut feelings have always been spot-on in the past. However, this time, I think I have physical proof of sexual harassment, but no gut feeling. Over... (399 words)

My close relationship with my friends has changed ever since they had a baby

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

24 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - Not sure what to do with my friends. We've been friends for a few years and we got on really well always having dinner together and drinks. Celebrating birthdays, Christmas's and new years together. We were really close. Then they announced they were having a baby and up until ... (285 words)

My friend has gotten himself involved with a bad girl and I want to help him but unsure what to do

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2133 days ago

24 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm worried about a guy friend as he's got himself involved with a girl who is bad news. Hes started distancing himself from everyone who's warning him and is distancing himself from close friends She's a complete bitch sorry to say - take a money from him, insults him. The... (122 words)

We had a fight my children's present are at my boyfriend's house and he won't let me get them

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

23 December 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend ruins every Christmas and I don't know what to do. We went last minute shopping today which was his idea. In a supermarket he said he needed the toilet so I decided to cash in a scratch card while I was waiting. The till is right by the side of the toilets. ... (219 words)

Should I give her a Christmas present for her son.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2156 days ago

23 December 2018 (M)

- Over the past couple of months i have been getting to know a really nice woman that i have met locally to where i live, she is 37, and im 42. We are taking things really slow at the moment as we both have a lot going on at present. Things are progressing really well, we text ... (212 words)

I'm really sad and discouraged with my life

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

23 December 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Anyone have any advice for someone in late 20’s. I have studied to high level, but don’t have job anymore. It’s been half a year, and I simply cannot afford anything. Friends kindly ask why I don’t have work yet,l. I guess that’s their way of helping by asking. Some friends ... (530 words)

Is collateral damage a side effect of online dating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

23 December 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - I’ve been trying online dating for a little while with the goal of eventually finding a committed relationship. I haven’t actually met anyone in person (yet) but I have chatted with a fair number of people. Most of those conversations fissled out but others have gone pretty ... (157 words)

Is it possible to love 2 women the same way at the same time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

23 December 2018 (M)

age 26-29 - When i was 13 i dated this girl, who we will call girl "A". After half a year she broke up with me. 3 years later i started dating one of her close cousin, which we will call girl "B". we ended up talking online and eventually getting together. Yes it is extremely weird, but we ... (367 words)

He wants to spend the rest of his life with me but without marriage.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2155 days ago

22 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have a child together. We are both divorced. We both have children from the marriages. We are in a serous relationship. He has talked about us getting a home together. He has said more than once that "we will spend the ... (99 words)

I love him but since his massive weight gain don't find him attractive enough for sex

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2157 days ago

21 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, okay so I really hope I don’t come across as been an absolute bitch here but I could really use some help!! So. My partner has put on a lot of weight. A good 4/5 stone! He was around 12 stone when we met. He’s 6ft3 so was really slim, I’ve always been around 12/13 stone br... (359 words)

The gossip has taken all the good that I do and turned me into nothing.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2100 days ago

21 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey Cupids, My questions are about moving on after divorce/separation. I met my beautiful lover earlier this year when he was in an unhappy marriage. We started seeing each other but feelings were serious enough that he left his wife after 7 weeks because he didn’t want to c... (346 words)

Is it possible to be a semi-reclusive artist and still contribute something of value to the local town? Please share similar experiences!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2143 days ago

21 December 2018 (F)

age 51-59 - Has anyone here got any experience of settling in a new country where you don't speak the language and are not sure how to fit in? I am thinking of buying a 2nd home - which I will spend about 6 months of the year in. I know that sounds extravagant but it's more like the op... (998 words)

I just can’t stop thinking I’m betraying her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2123 days ago

21 December 2018 (M)

age 18-21 - About a year and a half back I went to a online school. Now I meet one girl in one of my classes and we started taking usually for 1 or 2 hours a day, however soon it grew to like 9 hours per day sometimes more, in the one year time period I got to know her really well we meet ... (223 words)

Why did my husband lie to me that he picked up a female coworker?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2161 days ago

21 December 2018 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been married 25 years, recently his work hired a female, he had mentioned to me he was asked by his boss to pick her up for work. One morning he dropped me off and my friend called me saying she just seen my husband and a female in his truck, I told her it was a girl ... (119 words)

My ex took out credit cards in my name without my knowledge is there anything I can do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2161 days ago

20 December 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I broke up with my ex about 2 years ago and it was not an amicable break up. It was tough. And very difficult. During the break up he told me he had taken out 3 credit cards in my name totalling about £4/5k of debt. He also told me that he had also put a loan in my name for ... (507 words)

My friend has been asking why she can't get a partner. Should I tell her what I think?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2153 days ago

20 December 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello Aunts and Uncles! My friend recently started asking me seriously (up until now it was purely rhetorical) why she can't find a partner. Should I tell her what I think? It's just an opinion, I'm not a shrink. I'm afraid that she might be hurt by what I have to say on... (373 words)