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writes:2 Months ago, a man and I arranged to "Hook up" after matching on Tinder, things went well. Afterwards, I carried on as usual, assuming It was just a "One night stand". 2 weeks after our "Hook up" He had asked me to become his Friends With Benefits, I was unsure at first as I didn't want to lose my freedom.I eventually agreed and we were both happy. Since, we have seen each other regularly 3 times per week. We communicate every single day, morning until evening, having deep and meaningful conversations about anything and everything. Lately, I feel things have changed. It used to be all about "Sex" doing it multiple times during the evening. Now, when we spend time together, It is more romantic and about intimacy than pleasure. Cuddles, tender kisses, holding hands and watching our favourite shows or movies. We now only have sex once or twice every hangout as we could rather be comfortable holding one another.He has let it be known that I am the only girl he has been seeing and that he has deleted his Tinder, so have I. He surprisingly agreed to take photos with me and allow me to post them on social media. Does he likes me more than a Friends With Benefits?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 December 2018):
 He was asking for friends with benefits. His criteria for FWBs is that he gets to have romantic times with you and can show you off on social media. Partners in FWBs do not have to be invisible, but they lack the promise for the future, the trust and the financial sharing in a restrictive long term relationship. These kinds of arrangements go on for as long as you allow them. Once the excitement wears off, there is no need to continue unless you are just hanging in there so no one else could move on due to jealousy and possessiveness, which happens often.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (30 December 2018):
 I do wonder why you would not ask HIM the question? What are you afraid of?
To ME it is obvious you two are far MORE than FWB but you both sound afraid to discuss your relationship, which is strange given that you "have deep and meaningful conversations about anything and everything".
While I often fail to see the point in putting labels on things such as relationships, YOU are obviously wanting to know how he sees your relationship. HE is the only one who can answer that. WE could only speculate based on what YOU (one party in the relationship) have told us.
Go on, be brave. Raise the topic in conversation. I suspect you will be pleasantly surprised.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (30 December 2018):
 Ask. You could still be friends *with benefits*, rather than the casual hook up you expected. Either way, you need to be on the same page, so you need to ask before any more sex.
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