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writes:I have been married 25 years, recently his work hired a female, he had mentioned to me he was asked by his boss to pick her up for work. One morning he dropped me off and my friend called me saying she just seen my husband and a female in his truck, I told her it was a girl from his work, when I saw him I ask who had been in the truck, thinking he'd tell me no big deal, but instead he lied, made a huge deal out of it, called my friend screaming at her , it took 2 days before he told the truth. Why did he lie and then scream at my friend Reply to this Question
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (21 December 2018):
Lying screaming and a two day hissy fit? Why do you think he lied? It really doesn’t take a genius to figure that one out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2018): Well, why would his boss ask him to pick her up for work? That's weird. Could she not take a taxi and the company pays? You are right OP to be concerned here! Your husband could very well have had a woman in his truck and it could have been this woman from work. But what happened between them is what you need to find out. Ask his boss. The reason he's angry at your friend is because she's about to spoil his FUN!!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 December 2018):
 You know him better than ANY stranger on the Internet. So you might know WHY he lied, why he got pissed off etc.
If you don't... how well DO you know him after 25+ years?
And why simply not ASK him, why he felt the need to lie about it?
It seems like you have a lot of drama in your marriage if THIS is what happens when giving a female coworker a ride.
I can't imagine calling a friend, to let them know I saw a woman with their husband in the car. It's really NONE of her business. She might have thought you "should know"... IF he has cheated before or done "questionable" things in the past. Or she just likes to stir the pot or other people's marriage.
As for him calling at yelling at the friend. Well, in a way I get him. I'd be pissed if I had given someone a lift (quite innocently) and people "reported" back to my husband. Of course I would have NO reason to lie or try and hide it. Though IF I was OFTEN accused of things I had NEVER done (like cheating) I'd probably not even bring it up. To avoid drama.
YOU ALREADY KNEW who had been in his truck. There was no need to "question" your husband. IMHO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2018): I guess a lot of factors determine the answer to your question. Does he have a history of being secretive? Has he cheated on you in the past? Are you a jealous or reactionary kind of person? Why would a friend be so quick to call you and tell you she saw a woman in your husband's truck? If you knew his boss asked him to pick the woman up for work, why did you ask him about it?
Now you figure out an answer. Your friend created a schism in your marriage. You knew why he had a woman in his truck. Why did you ask what you already knew? He called and yelled at your friend; because she was a spy, and called herself ratting him out.
He directed his anger at the right person. He already told you once. Why did he have to tell you again?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (21 December 2018):
 Did you question him for 2 days until he caved in, or did he just suddenly volunteer the information after 2 days? Do you normally have trust issues with him?
We could only guess why he lied in the firs place. That is something only HE knows. You two need to discuss it if it is such a big deal to you.
As for yelling at your friend, I would imagine he was annoyed with her for phoning you and trying to stir things. I was annoyed about it and I only read your post so I can only imagine how he felt! Perhaps you need to question what sort of a "friend" this is.
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