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Should I take note of our horoscopes? The Chinese one says we are incompatible!

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Question - (30 December 2018) 8 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2019)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

This probably seems silly but I have been reading Chinese horoscopes and compatability with my boyfriend and they say we are not suited. It says his soul mate Chinese animal was a horse and his ex wife was one, yet my animal is the least compatible with his.

This is really playing on my mind that even though we have been together nearly two years the chinese horoscope say we are not suited long term

Does anyone think they are accurate and I should take notice of them?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2019):

OP here,

He got divorced over ten years ago, he said they were incompatible and he was not happy with her. He says he loves me and wants to spend his life with me but he won't commit to even moving in.

Yes i do look for comparisons with his ex wife and yes i took the animal compatibility thing a bit too seriously, silly i know.

Yes we get on and when we do there is a lot of love and affection but i feel i want more than he is willing to give and i can't see a compromise. The one thing that causes friction is i make comparisons to how he met and married his wife and i feel he was willing to do that for her but holds back with me

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (31 December 2018):

Honeypie agony auntYou are making this about his ex-wife... why?

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntHoroscopes are good for a laugh, not for life advice. Think about how many people there are on the planet. Do you really think horoscopes are accurate? It's by chance that things are sometimes correct. If you want to believe it, you will find a way to convince yourself it's real.

Please give us details of your relationship:

When did you meet?

When did he get divorced?

How often do you spend time together in person?

What are the good things about him?

What are the bad things about him?

Do not rely on what horoscopes say.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2018):

He married her on her birthday, tries to lead me to believe she meant little to him but he never commits to say he will move in with me let alone get married.

The Chinese animals I felt were fairly accurate in their description of personalities, I wouldn't be fooled by scammers abroad no

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2018):

N91 agony auntAbsolute garbage.

The same people who believe in horoscopes are the people who reply to emails from Nigerian princes with their bank details in hopes of being sent billions of dollars.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2018):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntEven if you believe in all that nonsense, does THIS not tell you anything? "his soul mate Chinese animal was a horse and his ex wife was one". She is now his EX wife.

So, on the most basic level, you believe you are compatible with a 12th of the world's population? That's approximately 642,000,000 people!

I don't know what else to say to make it obvious how ridiculous this is.

Sweetheart, concentrate on REALITY. Concentrate on shared goals and beliefs. Concentrate on how you get on together. Concentrate on how he makes you feel about yourself.

Bin the horoscope rubbish. It is for entertainment and vulnerable people clutching at straws.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (31 December 2018):

Honeypie agony auntAre you looking for a way out of the relationship?

Is this why you are looking at Chinese horoscopes?

How well do you two get on in PERSON? In life?

How long have you been together?

Do you share the same values, morals, ideals, faith, religion, temperament?

I have been married for 20+ years and I have NO idea what "animal" is my "soul-mate". Because I don't BELIEVE in soul mates. I believe in GOOD fits and NOT GOOD fits when it comes to partners. My husband is a GOOD fit, for me. He probably wouldn't BE for someone else. He surely wasn't for HIS ex-wife.... I just looked it up and apparently we are both Roosters and shouldn't really work all that well together... so much for having made a marriage work for 20+ years.........

You Bf got divorced for a reason. My guess is, him and his ex-wife were a NOT GOOD fit. Do you have ANY idea how many other people who COULD be a good fit with your husband or "soul-mate" according to Chinese horoscopes?

THOUSANDS!

If you have doubt about the relationship do not make this about the Zodiac, look at what is bothering you and consider if those issues are workable or deal breakers.

No amount of "the right "animal" will make a relationship or or NOT work, let's be realistic. If it did, he would still be with his wife and BE happy.

Use a little logic here, a smidgen of common sense.

So tell us, what is your REAL issue with your relationship?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2018):

My dear, seriously?!! Your successful relationship is proven evidence that hokey astrological nonsense is NOT REAL!!!

That stuff is just nonsense printed-up for entertainment purposes. By law this disclaimer is required to protect people who have mental-disorders or serious mental-health problems from obsessing or centering their lives around fact-less and unsubstantiated predictions! Made-up by ordinary-people who do this stuff for fun and scams.

Even the people who consider themselves astrologists by profession; contradict each other, and debunk each other as phonies and scam-artists. They take people's money and they make-up this stuff off the tops of their heads.

You have living-proof they are inaccurate and total BS! Are you going to give-up your relationship based on a fortune cookie, or some ridiculous prediction made by some unknown source?

Live your life one day at a time; and love your man based on the reality you see before your very eyes!

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