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writes:The other night I ran into my ex while drunk and went home with him. It was spontaneous and so I didn’t have time to “prepare” myself for him.. I didn’t sleep with him that night (although he tried, persistently) but everything seemed as it was when we were in love and I left happy. Although we didn’t sleep together I did get dressed in front of him. It was only after I got home that I realized that I had not tried to hide my hairy nipples while getting dressed. He has never seen my nipples with hair (we’ve been seeing each other for 3 years) and certainly not that bad (I’ve been out of action for a while) he has not contacted me since and I can’t stop worrying that him seeing my hairy nipples has ruined our relationship forever. What should I do? Am I right? Is that enough to end years of great sex?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 December 2018):
 How hairy is hairy? Do you resemble a grizzly bear? Or is there just a hair here and there?
Look, if he couldn't feel your hairy nipples while you snuggled (not sex, but you were naked together?), then he probably couldn't see/wouldn't be bothered by it.
And in either case, if he wanted a trimmed and shaved and groomed woman in bed, he should get a girlfriend, not a booty call. He has no rights to complain or have high standards, lol. He gets what he gets.
And why do you care anyway? Really? Ask yourself why you think it matters. He will not fall in love with you if you have smooth nipples, if that's what you think. Its not like he was about to fall for you, then saw your hairy nipples and thought "oh no, better restrain those feelings and move on"!
He doesn't care either way. And neither should you.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (27 December 2018):
 Um.... you’re not in it for the sex. You said it felt like when you were in love, but he’s not any more and you are. Forget it and move on before you get hurt. There’s no relationship left. I’m sorry it’s blunt, but it’s true :/
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 December 2018):
 I have to go with Code Warrior, JUST how hairy are they that you think it could be a GOOD reason for a guy to not wanting anything to do with you?
If they ARE very hairy and YOU don't feel comfortable with the hair, wax them. Talk to your doctor if it's HEAVY with hair.
And like FA mentioned DO NOT make decisions (such as going home with a guy - when drunk) even if he is an ex.
And like Code Warrior said, this guy is a EX for a reason, maybe you should consider not using him as some kind of entertainment or a rebound/FWB? You DIDN'T HAVE a "relationship" to ruin as you were broken up. REGARDLESS of hairy nipples or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2018): Who cares??? Is he some perfect specimen of a man? Do his balls sag? Are his teeth perfectly straight? Does his butt crack smell? Until he is perfect, then let him refrain from judging you or anyone else!
No, hairy nipples should not be a turn off. TO THE RIGHT PERSON! You are out of action so you didn't bother. That is understandable. He caught you by surprise. No, your hairy nipples had nothing to do with it. Maybe the fact you did not sleep with him had everything to do with it. Trust me, girl, if you had opened your legs wide, he would have overlooked those hairy nipples in a NY minute!!!!
Ps. My cousin used to have hairy nipples. Didn't stop her from getting dates!!! LOL
Your ex was looking for a good time. He didn't find it so he isn't bothering anymore. Do yourself a big favour. Leave him in the rear view where he belongs!!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (27 December 2018):
 Big LOL at Code Warrior! Spot on! Nothing more I can add.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2018): The whole situation was a mess and totally wrong. Why would you let yourself be vulnerable to men when you're drunk! How can you make a good decision and protect yourself under the influence of a drug or alcohol?
Hairy nipples is the least of your worries. Drunk-sex is when people make serious mistakes. They forget to use a condom! You might change your mind, and fall asleep; and you could be raped while you're unconscious. Without protection! You have no inhibitions or judgement while you're intoxicated; so you won't stop to consider your actions before it's too late. He is an ex for a reason!
He has not contacted you since; because he doesn't want you back, he only wanted sex at that particular opportunity. He say you in a state of drunkenness; maybe that was more off-putting than your nipples!
Wise-up! He's not a fool, he knows some women use sex as bait! He's not going to be suckered into drama; because he let hormones and alcohol cloud his better judgement.
Hairy nipples aren't that bad anyway. I would speculate he just wasn't going to find himself back in another situation with you he knows wouldn't workout.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2018): We all have hairy bits and bobs so no it need not affect your love life, you got caught out because it was an unexpected meeting. I am going to guess the same as Code Warrior, you're an ex and he was after a booty call and didn't get what he wanted, you was no doubt more self conscious than he was
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 December 2018):
 This is what happens when you mix relationships with alcohol. Exposed nipples, sans depilation. Never make important decisions under the influence.
About that hairy problem. This is a permanent part of you. any long term relationship is going to know and accept it. You should accept it yourself.
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