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writes:Over the past couple of months i have been getting to know a really nice woman that i have met locally to where i live, she is 37, and im 42. We are taking things really slow at the moment as we both have a lot going on at present. Things are progressing really well, we text and call each other all the time, and we kissed and held hands on our last date a few nights back. As its Christmas i told her i have brought her a present, and i told her to swing by my house on her way home from work on Christmas eve to pick it up. She has got a son who is 2, and i have not met him yet, which also she has not met my son either. today as i was out shopping i picked up a little toy tractor which lights up and makes various sounds. Does anyone think its too soon to give her a present for her son?. i thought i might seem mean if i just give her a present and not acknowledge her son. Will just tell her to put it under the tree and pretend its from Santa or something. Any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (26 December 2018):
 All the best to you as well. Thank you for the feed-back. Good to know your thoughtfulness was appreciated.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 December 2018):
 Glad to hear it worked out so well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all very much guys. I gave her the presents last night. She text this morning to say she loves her present, and her son absolutely loves his tractor, and said thank you for thinking of her son, so i'm really happy.
Thank you all, and have a great Christmas.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (24 December 2018):
 I think its a very sweet and caring gesture. Absolutely nothing wrong with giving a small gift. I love the idea of it being from Santa. The little boy may not know the difference but trust me..mama does. As a once single parent believe me, I took notice when a man I was dating was kind and showed an interest in my daughter, not just me. Good luck with everything!
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (24 December 2018):
As long as the present isn’t expensive or elaborate it can’t hurt. The only downside is she could feel bad if she has not bought anything for your son. But that is a minor blip.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 December 2018):
I think it's OK to give him a present. I like the Idea that you put from Santa on it. He is 2, doesn't know you but will probably love the tractor regardless of who it is from.
Putting "from Santa" makes it a light a nice gesture.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (24 December 2018):
I think that's a lovely thought.
At 2 years of age, the little boy still thinks ALL presents come from Santa, so I don't think there will be any problem on that score. Actually saying to his mum "Just a little present for [name] from Santa" keeps it light.
Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2018): Personally I see no harm, especially with your intention on how to word it, it shows you acknowledge he is part of her life.
Nothing too extravagant just a token present and it shows you're a kind man
All the best I hope it all goes well for you
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