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writes:got into online dating. Had a couple of dates with a fab guy. i could see him as the one. maybe early but theres something so different in a fantastic way we have also taken it slow we chatted for 2 month before meeting. we have both deleted our profiles a month ago. His best mate has met me and he even classes me as his best mates girlfriend even tho we havent agreed to this yet. My heart really melts for this guy. I think he holds back and wants approval from someone to say yes shes good . does him introducing me to his best mate of 25 years really mean something or am i just looking at things wrong ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2019): OP here again, hes now told me his ex had contacted him and it made him feel really low. We had a chat and hes just not sure what he wants right now he doesnt want his ex but doesnt want to commit to another relationship yet. We did spend new years eve together just us 2 at mine. Surly thats a good thing ?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 December 2018):
 Yikes, then CUT all contact OP
He isn't worth your time if he can date you a while and then go I don't want a relationship... so what he wanted was a FWB? If so, don't settle for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2018): im the op. he was straight to the point and said he doesnt want a relationship with me. I think him knowing i liked him so much just boosted his ego
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2018): You indicated in your post you've deleted your profiles. You also indicated that you are taking it slow.
Here's the hard part for women to understand about men. We aren't driven as hard by our emotions as women are. We feel everything you do, and with the same intensity; yet we may not be as obvious in the way we express our emotions.
You've got some pretty good evidence coming your way. You get along great, he has introduced you to his best mate, and he's making sure his feelings about you aren't blinding him. He needs others to like you; so he took you to meet the guy who knows him best, and whose opinion he holds most valuable. That's great!
You bet it means something, sweetheart!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 December 2018):
I think you read it right. I think he introduced you to his best friend to get HIS opinion of you as well. Maybe he doesn't entirely trust his own judgement when it comes to women? Could be he has dated some women in his past that turned in to very ill-fitted partners.
Just keep going slow. You have the approval of the best friend, I think that IS a good sign. But what REALLY matters is that you and HE (not the BFF) are a good fit and you can only find that out by spending time together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2018): Sometimes people do want the opinion from a trustworthy person to make sure they get it right. I think him introducing you to his long time friend does mean something because if you do become an official couple you will also spend time with his best friend and he wants to make sure you both get on with each other.
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