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30-35,
*hining_brighteyess
writes:This girl and I have been best friends for nearly seven years. We met in elementary school, and have since then called each other best friends. We've been through so much together, know each other so well, hung out too many times to count...you get the jist. I had to move away to another state for highs chool, and it was so hard partly because I had to leave her. Throughout the 4 years of highschool I've only been able to see her on longer breaks like Christmas and summer, but we've still kept in touch via phone and facebook etc. And I still have called her when I need advice.This school year has been weird though. We hung out a lot this summer and still called each other best friends etc. Then once I had to go back to school in late August, we haven't talked since. I've called her a few times but she hasn't called back. She's mentioned on fb about calling me when she gets the chance but she hasn't. I know that is really busy getting her applications for college in and stuff, but I can't help but wonder if I can call her my best friend if she can't make even a little time to call me. I know that she's kind of like this with a lot of people, as she's quiet a lot. Now it's December and we haven't talked since August. I even went home for Thanksgiving but didn't call her because I felt too lazy and feared she would just end up not calling back.I have other friends I can talk to and stuff but I can't tell them the stuff I could tell her. I called her my best friend for a reason. So many things remind me of her and I almost feel like this is a bad breakup or something. I don't know if I should ask if we're even best friends anymore (afraid that will offend her) or if I should ask if something else is up, or just ignore it. I've talked to other people and they said she is probably just really busy seeing as we hung out a lot this summer. I know best friends naturally drift apart, but it's just really saddening to me. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): I wouldn't consider her my best friend any more, if I were you. She obviously doesn't have time for you which can only mean that you are not important to her. A good friend, not to mention best friend, is someone you can lean on anytime, someone who is always there for you. This girl is obviously not such a friend. I had a best friend since childhood, and now after 25 years I am starting not to like her anymore. These things happen, you can always find a new best friend.
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reader, HondaTohru  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Well you don't have to ask her directly if you're still best friends, but you should talk to her. Just show her your true feelings, tell her you miss her and feel hurt and insecure when she stays silent for so long, or something along those lines. Honesty is the key in relationships! :)
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 best friends forgive each other no matter what they do.
best friends dont have to see each other for a while.
best friends understand when the other friend dosnt ring for ages.
but when they do meet up its like they just met yesterday.
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