Why does he treat me like a last priority?
Q. Its been two year i am dating my boyfriend. Last year when my birthday came,i thought he will plan something special for me. I went to his home and when i asked him " where is my birthday gift" . He said i don't have any, i am always like this and i ...
A. 5 March 2016: Very selfish of you to play games with him, one minute you say you want chocolates, the next you say no? How very confusing of you! To even expect something? i never expect and have never even asked my husband for anything. I just am grateful he is ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get over my anxiety about tattoos? My girlfriend has two!
Q. I have a problem with tattoos on women and don't know what it is, after a girlfriend got her second one I lost it and flipped out and my anxiety level goes up around her and everyone in her family has tattoos and that bothers me more, Is there an...
A. 5 March 2016: first of all, you should question WHAT bothers yiuabout tattoos first. Then ask yourself why. once you can idnetify the why's and whats, you can better understand how to deal with this. Tattoos are in itself, nothing to be bothered by. Unless you ... (read in full...)
She's acting a bit distant and I'm afraid she's losing interest, how do I handle the distance?
Q. I met a girl in early December and we get on great. She lives in my city, but had to go back to her hometown a week ago and she'll be there for at least a month and a half. Our text messages are already getting repetitive and boring and the phone ...
A. 21 January 2014: hello i am canadian my bf of almost 2 yrs lives in the states.. we obviously have a LDR.. we met on xboxlive as gamers, were friends for 3 yrs, besties, and then i asked him to be my bf, of which he is 13 yrs younger then me, i am 36. i am in ... (read in full...)
No birthday gift from him! I'm feeling hurt!
Q. Hi, I recently had my birthday and I received nothing from my boyfriend and it really hurt my feelings. A while back he asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said that I really don't want him to spend his money on me. he said that he wou...
A. 21 January 2014: most agreed.. what you should of said maybe, was surprise me baby, if you couldnt think of anything in particular.. either way, what you said to him was exactly the way he interpreted it.. and another thing, you should keep in mind,. MEN, HATE and ... (read in full...)
I slept with a married man thinking he was single and now he won't explain himself!
Q. I slept with a married man he acted single but now I fell for him a he is ignoring me he doesn't email, text or anything not even to apologize to me. How do I get closure? I feel so low and guilty about this plus I like him all @ the same time. I ...
A. 6 March 2012: one thing is for sure. he is TERRIFIED his wife will find out and therefore is avoiding you at all costs. sadly, in most cases lkike urs, the men never will give an answer because they have none. it should be obvious that he wanted sex. he got his ... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for my husband to grow up
Q. I've been married for seven years have have two children with my husband. He recently told me that he's been thinking about separating. I never believe in divorce unless there was abuse or infidelity involved. We have had a hard marriage. Lot's of ...
A. 30 October 2010: a friend of mine is going thru similiar... her bf and her have 3 kids, and hes on parental leave etc, while he does not go to and hang out with buddies, he is a good man, he does not clean up after himself and they argue over this, shes a stay at ... (read in full...)
Depression and its Effects on Relationships
Q. I am just wondering how many relationship that have broken up due to one partner's depression. Who broke up with whom, and when when the others depression was better did you end up getting back together? Can a relationship be fixed if one partner ...
A. 21 October 2010: a partner can for a time, be patient and understanding and sympathetic,but, only for a time... a lot of people cannot handle the emotional rolloercoaster that comes with depression, its very hard and especially if the other partner is an extremly ... (read in full...)
Husband texts other women
Q. Hi, I need some opinions on how you feel about your husband texting/talking on the phone with other women. We have been married for about a year and I trusted him that he is a good husband and will never cheat on me, but now im not so sure. He...
A. 21 October 2010: usually as they say, ur first gut feeling is usually the right one!! and it sounds as if he is indeed lying. if he had nothing to hide, hed be outright forth honest. i have found that out personally, one time my ex started chatting with me on fb, ... (read in full...)
How can I break through with my partner's kids?
Q. How can I break through and become friends with my partners kids who basicly hate me. They are polite but very very stand offish. is there anyway I can reassure them being my friend doesnt equate to replacing their real parent. I just wish we could ...
A. 15 October 2010: is ur partner divorced or widowed. if hes divorced, they might blame you for it, or feel threatened by ur presence, if hes widopwed they would feel very angry because naturally they dont want another woman in their life next to their mom....so while ... (read in full...)
Question about cheating in a marriage..all answers welcome!
Q. What is the main reason a man would cheat o his wife or girlfriend? Especially married men! :) and What would be the main reason for a woman to cheat on her husband or boyfriend? Especially married woman! :)...
A. 3 October 2010: there are many reasons to cheating, one could go onn forever on all the reasons why people cheat!! however, the most common reasons are boredom,lack of sex or wanting a spicier sex life and spouse does not provide the flair it once had,one of the ... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 12 March 2010: here is a story that happened to me, and i will share it with you because truly speaking, it actually happened and it will explain to many male and female readers the affect of porn on women. my bf of 5 yrs in his early 30s now was all his life one ... (read in full...)
I cant take it anymore but I don't know how to leave!
Q. I have two boys in a relationship before this one. When I met my current boyfriend he was so nice to them and had a great job, and for once I felt like I didn't have to be in charge of EVERYTHING. Now, two years later we have a daughter together, ...
A. 12 March 2010: the problem is, its not that u do not know how to leave more than the fact you have a son together and this is the anchor. if you two had not had a child together, then it would not be as hard, although breaking emotional ties in general is ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my muslim boyfriend and try to make it work?
Q. I just broke up with my muslim boyfriend we were together over 3 years... we were good for the first year but then I couldn't deal with me being a secret anymore all we would do is get into aruements about it but all he would do is ignore the ...
A. 17 February 2010: this may come across as prejudiced. but believe me honey when i tell you this. dating a muslim male almost never bodes well. how religious is his family? if he told you he could only be with you if you converted to islam, would you do it? religion ... (read in full...)
How do I tackle this problem of watching too much porn?
Q. hi cupid, am a young guy of 22. i have a serious issue that disturbed my life sometimes and trying to stop this but it's just like pouring water on the stone. I have sexual feelings whenever I see a woman naked or watch a porn movie not only that, ...
A. 20 November 2009: most men wake up with erections, this is perfectly normal. a lot of praise is due towards any man who understands he has a sexual addiction to porn, or sees porn as not the right outlet for himself. as it is porn is a real huge problem with our men ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a little too friendly with her brother?
Q. I was just out with my girlfriend and her brother the other day. Her brother is homeschooled and a pretty physically friendly guy, but the other day when we were walking around, he had his arm around her a good part of the day, even when I had my ...
A. 13 October 2009: my friend dated this chick, who was overely friendly with her brother. he thought the same thing as u. but, his spider senses were tingling. he suspected a little more. he found out 5 yrs later into dating her she had sex with her brother a few ... (read in full...)
Was what he did during oral sex wrong?
Q. ok so my boyfriend always wants me to swallow after giving him oral sex. he says its sexy and it feels better for him. so i dont have a problem with doing this, but just last night, right when he was about to cum, he PUSHED my head down and held me ...
A. 13 October 2009: i agree. i think ur guy did something no man should ever do without discussing this beforehand. too bad, guys watch porn which objectify women rather then teach men what sex is all about. love and emotional connection between two consenting adults. ... (read in full...)
What do women want in a man? Women are so complicated!
Q. 12 October 2009: What woman wants in a man? when i was with my girlfriend, i used to love her like hell ....sometimes i used to struggle to find out that what would make her happy being with me. sometimes my wacky sense of humor would leave her ...
A. 12 October 2009: EVERY woman is different. indeed, unique by nature.we might all be women, but, like a box of fine chocalates, u never know what u will get. however, women desire men with mental stability, job security, most women dont want to rob ur wallet, we ... (read in full...)
He's mad at me...should I make first contact or let him do it?
Q. When your guy is really mad at you .... Do you think the no contact thing is the best way to go? is it best to wait for him to call even when you were at fault? (and you know he is angry) Or do you think you should call and push for resolut...
A. 7 October 2009: its a tough call, because guys can be just as complicated as girls. a lot of men want the room to breathe, a little "space" to cool off. on the other hand, some guys will expet you to come to them with an apology, if you were in the wrong. so ... (read in full...)
Was this rape? He's acting like nothing happened....
Q. Last night me and my bf were having sex he was behind me when he stuck his finger in my anus. He has done it b4 which i dont mind as it doesnt hurt me. B4 i continue weve always had this joke bout doing it up the bum. I always said i would never do ...
A. 3 October 2009: i think u should put a strap-on on, and pierce is anal cavity, when he screams in pain, and says no, stop, tell him, oh, i thought u were joking, i thought this was fun! even if u were joking, his first instinct should of been to pull out, and ask ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to want more from my wife sexually?
Q. Dear All, My wife and I have been married for 20 years have a great family, work hard. I love my wife very much, bu I have been very depressed and want more from our sex life. When it comes to iniating sex, I am the one to do it, and when I d...
A. 13 September 2009: It's not wrong to want your wife to initiate sexual foreplay etc, but it is expecting TOO MUCH if you're asking her to swallow or bust in her mouth. yecch! dude, have you ever had a guy bust in your mouth? obviously not, but it's a disgusting ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to not want my wife to see naked men?
Q. My wife went to school for massage therapy. She was in childcare, but not certified, so not making much money,, and wasn't happy. She's now working in a massage place. Not a seedy place with oriental showers and the such you might think of, ...
A. 26 August 2009: if its not a rub and tug, who cares dude? shes a professional masage therapist. a masseusse is different. they give the happy endings. so why r u being so anal about it? do u go to strip bars? do u fancy looking at naked women? do u look at porn? ... (read in full...)
Had sex with her, but she lied about her age - shes underage but now wants it every time we meet. What should I do?
Q. I'm 18 and she's 15 ... i really like her but she's fairly sexually aggressive and it's illegal ... what should i do? i mean she's not only in it for sex but she loves it ... she had told me she was 16 at the beginning and i apparently did something ...
A. 26 August 2009: too young for the big bulls. why mess with the calves when u have heifers in the pasture waiting to be serviced? she lied. okay. not ur fault. now shes turned into a horny nympho. uh. RUN!! with all ur might. she will grow and meet a guy her age. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I yearn for the single life and the thrill of a first kiss
Q. I am in a committed relationship, but at times I still want to see other girls, I still want to be in single life, and have that thrill of the first kiss. Sometimes I feel like my current girlfriend doesn't even appreciate me. What do I do?...
A. 26 August 2009: u miss the thrill of the hunt. but u need to ask urself, what would u be giving up, to have all that? thats the question posed to u. and if ur not happy with ur gf, then communicate to her and both of u make a conscious effort to make things better! ... (read in full...)
Does this supplement have any bad side effects?
Q. Hey guys! You have helped me with different things for quite sometime=]. I have a new question for you all. I have been trying to get big mucles. I dropped by GNC one today and they introduced me to a TEST BOOSTER that is 100% Natural, it...
A. 21 August 2009: why dont u just workout naturally as ur body releases testosterone naturally on its own. a lot of males get into the hype of BIGGER IS BETTER" all around. lets face it. if we gals wanted rock hard wed cuddle a log. its the quicker but, lazier way of ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair just to get sex?
Q. I need some help. My husband and I have been together for 7 years (married for 2). My husband doesn't want to have sex. I always try but he is never interested. I rarely have the courage to talk to him but when I do he either says he doesn't ...
A. 17 July 2009: i knew a guy who suddenly as well lost interest in sex, but that was because hed had an affair and contracted a venereal disease and did not want the wife to find out so he simply avoide her sexually. check him out.... (read in full...)
I'm 16, she's just 14 and I'm falling hard!
Q. Hey i just turned 16. i went to a party a few nights ago and met a very nice girl. very mature acting just being part of the crowd. little did i know she is only 13 and turning 14. she suprised everyone at the bonfire with her age, i mean nobody ...
A. 4 July 2009: too young in my opinion, u should date a gal at least ur age...but if uwere 20 and she was 18 then it would not be soo bad. but no matter how mature she seems, 13 yr old girls still go thru the things that girls there age do. she is also
going thru... (read in full...)
Can homosexuals practice tantric sex?
Q. Is tantric sex only for heterosexuals? can lesbians/gays practise tantric sex? any guidance? i dont wish to buy any books or videos.......
A. 4 July 2009: of course!! its all about connecting passionately and intimately with ur lover, be it man or woman. so go ahead, get some head, and "connect"!... (read in full...)
He cheats and lies and stays at her house all the time... how can I get him to be nicer?
Q. Last summer my 22 yr old fiance cheated on me with a 28 yr old whore i say that because she screwed him on a couch with a 4 yr old watching. my fiance and i have a 2 yr old and 5 days after i found out he was cheating i found out i was pregnant ...
A. 7 June 2009: sorry dear. i think u know what needs to be done here. he will reoffend sooner than later, if not with other girls. u can stay and be miserable, for the sake of the kids or break free and make ur family of kids and u happy once more, full of ... (read in full...)
I want a threesome and my wife feels it too
Q. I am a normal guy, with a good professional career in Banglore. I fantasize a lot about sharing my wife with other men in a threesome fashion, and also about watching her have sex with other men. It has become such a strong part of my sexual life ...
A. 4 June 2009: dude, people have MANY varieties of fantasies, but, we NEVER will know the true outcome of how we will feel after its been done, until, well, the deeds been done. i know many couples who experimented because they had such fetishes, and, sadly ... (read in full...)
What do you think is the common things you have to think about before losing your Virginity?
Q. What do you think is the common things you have to think about before losing your Virginity? Ive heard that most people really regret it. all my friends lost theres on a one-night stand and they all agree that they would love to go back in time,...
A. 1 June 2009: i was 16 married off to a man who was 22 i lost my virginity to this man. i hated him, never loved him, felt like i had been raped. he was murdered in 1997 in new york, long island with a friend of his and now, at 32 yrs old, having found my ... (read in full...)
How do I know he won't cheat again?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 4 yrs broken up for some short times but we always manage to work it out.i love him and he wants to get married how do i know hes for real and he has cheated before but i got thru it, one of my good freinds says ...
A. 29 May 2009: once hes cheated, either u place blind trust in his word, or always question him. as the saying goes, once a cheater always one, and trick me once shame on u, trick me twice shame on me! so..ultimately, the choice is urs. in my belief, once u ... (read in full...)
He tells me he cares, but he doesn't think there is any future for us, what is the problem, I am confused?
Q. Hiya!! Could someone please help me as I feel so confused! I am 45 and my boyfriend is 50 we have been together for about 3 months now. but have know eachother for about 2 years, We went on holiday for a week and had a great time, Since we got back ...
A. 29 May 2009: what hes trying to say is, in male language that is soft to the touch and wont hurt u as much is, he feels he does not have what he feels u need, he wants to offer more to u, but in his mind he feels u deserve better. i know this because i went thru ... (read in full...)
Is it okay too have sex with a girl you don't really like, when you like someone else?
Q. is it okay too have sex with a girl you dont really like when you like someone else ?...
A. 28 May 2009: ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! unless u both have agreed that u are friends with benefits, what u are doing is going to scar this girls heart for life, so quit while ur ahead and go for the girl u think u like. ... (read in full...)
He's 16 and I'm 13, we have never met...
Q. Here's the thing, I was dating this guy, who is 3 years older than me via the internet and we had arranged to meet and that, it just never happened. Is this too dangerous for me to be doing? I really like him, and he says he loves me, like properly ...
A. 28 May 2009: even if u two had met, and gotten along and all, im afraid that there is a large enough age gap between u two, if u were older, like 19 and he was still 5 yrs older, itd probably be ok, as u would have matured enough in growth etc to take on such a ... (read in full...)
Hurt, my husband has left. Was it the porn or his family?
Q. I feel so hurt because my husband stopped loving me. And what hurts the most is that we have children together. I told him it was his porn or us meaning his family. And I want to know was I wrong to make him decide porn or us?he is using me and I ...
A. 27 May 2009: Assuming he might of had an addiction, in my opinion, if a man jerks to porn and knows it grieves his partner, then he should stop. As it only does more harm in the relationship. However, that being said, most women need to realize a lot of men jerk ... (read in full...)
Opinions please. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. I am in love with a girl who was once divorced. I am single..i love her so much that i can't stay without her. I hid this fact from my family that she had an ex. I am planning to get married to her. But i feel sometimes that she gets sad when she ...
A. 27 May 2009: does she know u want to marry her? perhaps she feels sorrow and longing for something she desires. or she herself has a "fairytale" fantasy of what she wishes in a relationship. perhaps u might be misinterpreting that she just wants to have sex over ... (read in full...)
He's gone home to his wife and isn't talking to me. Why?
Q. I have a boyfriend right now that I live with him already for 8 months, at the beginning he already told me that he had a cold-heart, he don't give a dump to the feeling of others, but I love this guy so I did my best to have a good relationship ...
A. 25 May 2009: sweety, bluntly put, when he was in ur country, he had needs, basic primal carnal needs, and u were there to fulfill them.as he has no "wedding vows" to u, he has no obligations so to speak, with u. although he has cheated with his wife, he will go ... (read in full...)
My husband has assured me he didnt have an affair, but I am still worried.
Q. I came to know from my relative that my hubby is having affair with a young lady, after that we had discussion, He promised me that it was not true he has been blamed, He even promised he well never that young lady. He said how can a young girl like ...
A. 25 May 2009: need more info, but, its wel known age does not necessarily have to play a factor, while she may be young and all, would that stop a man from having sex with her? unless shes incredibly young or underage, itd would not stop a lot of men from doing ... (read in full...)
I don't want to, but I keep snooping around in his personal things. How do I stop?
Q. He's honest and great, but how should i stop being so clingy with my boyfriend and snooping around his phone as well as e-mails? I know this is a big turn off for guys, what should i just know or keep in mind so that i don't have the urge to do ...
A. 25 May 2009: as soon as i met my bf 4 yrs ago, he and i hit it off so well, immediatly he was passing me his cellphone passwords, his email passwords, etc, because he felt he had nothing to hide from me. feeling out of sorts with this, i would tell him i was ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is chivalry really dead or do gentlemen still exits?
Q. I am a big fan of classic period dramas and books such as Pride and Prejudice and North and South. I love how women are treated in this era and how men are respectable gentlemen. I know i am not alone in this thought and that many women love ...
A. 25 May 2009: women are the ones to blame mostly for the lack of chivalry in todays world, or our society. feminism, has attacked men for years, with women moaning and groaning about their "rights" and that their just as able bodied as men. so men backed off and ... (read in full...)
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