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writes:Me and my girlfriend are celebrating our anniversary, and I make it noted to everyone. Write it in my facebook status and im proud of her and i for coming this far. She drops the "so my friend told me he likes me" bomb and i dont know how to deal with it, and what to think. she did not acknowledge our anniversary and she told me its because she doesn't want to rub it in his face because he's her "friend". She knows that i love her alot and she told me she loves me alot, as well so not to worry but how can I just forget the fact that this guy likes her? Its a weird feeling. He supposidly is going to back off because he knows he shouldn't be feeling this way, but is this another scape for him to act like hes a great guy etc.? I really need direction on how to feel. A few of my buddies have told me to make sure she doesn't talk to him, but thats out of my nature to tell her who she can and can't talk to, as i dont want that for our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): "so my friend told me he likes me"
" she did not acknowledge our anniversary and she told me its because she doesn't want to rub it in his face because he's her "friend""
Well, someone who doesn't acknowledge their relationship because of another friend, isn't committed to that relationship, and has feelings for that other friend that supersede the relationship feelings at some level.
That would be like me not wearing my wedding ring....
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 November 2010):
 How can you forget the fact that this guy likes her?
Unfortunately you can't. You can do your best to put your mind at ease though. I'm assuming she told this friend that she didn't feel the same way or she wouldn't have told you. If she did feel the same, she'd be having an affair or would have broke it off with you.
Is he doing this to look like a great guy?
Maybe. Then again, he may be a very nice guy so it's not just an act. I hope for both of your sakes he backs off. That will be best for everyone involved, himself included.
Ultimatums in relationships typically don't work, so I wouldn't go there. Do your best to show her how much you love her and hopefully she will respond in kind. Do your best to get over this because there will always be people who find her attractive or may make a pass at her. Just because it came from a friend this time doesn't make it that much different. The only difference is that he'll likely be around from time to time in her life. That's where you have to trust her until she gives you a reason not to.
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 i think shes looking for a ring on her finger.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 No your right dont tell her who she can and cannot speak to as you will just push her away from you, you just need to trust her. He is her friend therefore she probably doesnt want to hurt him. Maybe advise her though to put a little bit of distance between her and her friend, just tell her it might be better in the long run for him to get over his feelings. But i guess you just need to allow her to do what she feels is right, she was honest with you and told you about it so at least she was up front about it to you. So i think you can trust her here. Just remember its you she is with so be proud to have her.
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