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writes:I am new to this site so please don't laugh at what I am about to say. Almost 8yrs ago I met and got involved with a woman who is 10yrs older than me. Everything was going well until like the fool I am I cheated on her with a woman 8yrs older than me. She caught me and forgave me. I ended up meeting another woman who is 5yrs older than me. I started seeing this woman for a year and eventually got caught again because like the idiot I am, these 2 women only live 5 blocks away from each other. Each of them wanted me to choose them. The problem is that I have fallen so very deeply in love with both of them. I ended up loosing both of them six months ago and fell into a deep depression. Now they both have recently started contacting me again. The problem is that I am still so very much in love with them both. I would love for the 3 of us to be in a 3way relationship. However, neither of them is bisexual. How can I get the 2 of them to agree to this? Reply to this Question
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reader, shelly5 +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!wow,please update us on your "issue". The best part of all of this is you are serious!let me share some insight, you are not smart enough to pull this off & even if you were most women would laugh at you especially if they think you were their one & only. I honestly hope you never get your fantasy 3 way ever! Oh yeah, heads up the age of women you are dating will most likely always be 2 steps ahead of you meaning in your words you will aways be a fool lol. Good luck fool
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 November 2010):
 You seem to struggle with maintaining a monogamous relationship..so what makes you think you can share yourself equally 3 ways?
Now unless these women are all Mormons, then they're not going to agree to a polygamous relationship with you. Pick one or the other..
In this situation, sharing is not caring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Either choose just one or forget it. Unless your religion is one where you can marry more than one person
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Unless the women are into plural relationships there is nothing you can do or say for them both to stay with you.
Sorry, I seriously doubt you are that much of a price that they would be willing to share.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): It would be cruel to make these women feel like the only way to have you is to have to have a 3 way relationship.
Tell them both that they need to move on and don't keep them hanging around. Its not fair keeping them both interested in the hope they'll agree to share you. Let them go and find someone who can respect them and love them and not cheat on them.
You should concentrate on working towards being committed to someone or perhaps, if having more than one girlfriend is what you desire then don't get a girlfriend-just be single and then you can sleep with whoever you like without anyone getting hurt.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Why on earth do you think anyone would laugh at what you posted? It's not the slightest bit funny.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 You cant.
This is your punishment for cheating on them both.
Do them a favour and dump them both so they can find a man worthy of their affection!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Hi. If you really loved the first woman, you wouldnt have cheated on her with someone else. With respect, i think you need to rethink the whole 'in love' mantra. Because it sounds as if you are just spinning a line, so you can have a threesome.
Thats certainly not most peoples idea of love. Lust maybe but not love. It would be kinder of you to leave them be. And join websites that cater for people who enjoy 3way relationships.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (5 November 2010):
 You can't, period. Neither one wanted to share you before, what makes you think they'd want to now?
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 well i wont laugh at you. but you really should read your own question and see how stupid it is.
neither of these woman deserve you. they should be thankful you are out of their lives for good.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 You can't ! Not only because you can't turn them into bisexuals- but because if they both dumped you over this, it was very clearly because neither one wanted to share you !
If now that they started contacted you again, as first thing you bring up again your incapality to make a choice and to commit to either one, ... you'll make them run for the hills immediately, and this time for good.
Pick one. Or pick neither and let them be happy with somoene who can be faithful. But don't try to involve them in your " the more the merrier " fantasy, it's selfish and
disrespectful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): You can't get them to agree to that as they obviously have morals! You see these women as mere objects to fulfill your sexual desires. You don't seem at all concerned about the pain you caused with your infidelity. And this is not love you're feeling. You're selfishly using these women to fill some hole in your soul. You obviously have some deep rooted insecurity--probably over something involving your relationship with your mother. I think you need some counseling.
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