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writes:Is it possible for a promiscuous person to not enjoy sex? Why sleep around if there is no pleasure? Reply to this Question
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (28 October 2010):
 I'm one of those people that would probably be classified as promiscuous, I suppose. There have sometimes been men who just weren't fun in bed but apart from that I've never had an occassion when I didn't enjoy myself.
That's just me though - I suppose it's possible in general.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 There have been occassions when I have had sex (it's happened with men as well as women in my experience) when I did not derive as much pleasure as usual (though I would not so 'no' pleasure).
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 most people sleep around because its pleasurable for them but there are some that cant find much pleasure and keep trying to find some pleasure. does that make sense?.
sex is pleasurable if done right. it can be so pleasurable that it takes over some peoples lives. both partners have to do what gives the other person pleasure. if one person is not feeling the pleasure, they should let their partner know.
there is not enough time spent on sex education and you only have to read some of the questions asked on this site, to see how ignorant some folks are.
there must be some pleasure or why do it?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Yes.
It is not uncommon for promiscuous people, particularly those who don't understand why they are doing what they are doing, to have had histories of sexual abuse, neglect, abandonment, and sexual dysfunction at various levels (anorgasmia, etc.) as well as extreme guilt about sex.
They can have a thrill about the process of going into the sexual act, but they don't get much from the act itself, have trouble maintaining relationships (hence lots of short term relationships that never evolve to anything more).
Very complex psychological area.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (27 October 2010):
 No physical pleasure, then yes, it's quite possible. However, there is SOME type of enjoyment or pleasure being derived, whether it be attention, brain chemcial reaction, whatever. There may not be physical pleasure, but there's some need that is being met or trying to be met.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 There will presumably always be some passing physical pleasure, or a man wouldn't be aroused and wouldn't ejaculate.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Yup, completely possible.
Possible reasons: compulsion, dominance, the thrill of the hunt, to prove his manhood, to make others miserable, to try and feel normal.
I'm sure there are other reasons too.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (27 October 2010):
 The very definition of promiscuous is having multiple partners. At that point it would be logical they would only be doing that for enjoyment. So to answer your question, I'd say "no".
However, certain psychological disorders could lead someone to have multiple partners not for enjoyment but for other various reasons. (searching for the perfect mate yet never finding it, etc)
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