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writes:Hey Guys... ok me an my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now an i do love him very much, but he is always fighting with me over nothin im constantly cryin an am so over it! it always over stupid things like today i was doing his washin an i put the clothes into the dryer at the time i forgot i was not ment to use it, an he went feral at me an told me to f#%k off an get out of his face, i could not calm him down he told me not to come back an was quite rude,we have our good days tho but this happens most days im ovre this shit but love him an dont wont to leve any sugestions??? xox Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 You've had some very good advice here, so I will only suggest that you read this article. And think about how this might apply to this guy and your relationship.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html
You can't solve his anger problem, only he can, and only if he admits he has a problem.
Please don't allow yourself to be hurt.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Two words: Dump him.
Oh and listen to Smiles, she knows what she's talking about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Sounds like the kind of boyfriend you see on the evening news reports. There are better fish out there, but be careful. You don't want to be a victim.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Sweetie, time to face facts... this man sees you as his slave and is treating you like dirt!! Sounds like he has an abusive personality and the more abuse you take from him the more he will abuse you. If this is how he treats you after only 7 months together, how is he going to treat you after you have been together for a couple of years???
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Vow,stop crying!
Time to take stock!
What are you his cleaning lady? To treat you like this, to speak to you like this, to kick you out and tell you not to come back in those terms; that is harsh; I bet not even a cleaning lady will tolerate such behaviour.
No, you cannot allow this. WHere is your selfrespct, your dignity?
You cannot be in a relationship with any person that treats you like"dirt", it is obvious this guy has no respect for you.
What is a relationship without mutual respect?
Please you might "love" him, but I have to be very honest with you love alnioe cannot make a relationship work.
Quit this abusive relationship with this guy.
Get out there, meet other people, find somebody that can make you happy, value you, treat you with respect.
Stop being used and abused, buld up your self esteem and MOVE ON!
You are allowing this guy to hurt you, it will not get better.
Show him, that you are strong and that you are capable of being without him, he probably thinks you are weak and cannot cope without him.
Poof him wrong.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 The devil is in the details.
WHY were you not supposed to use the dryer? (for that matter why are you doing his laundry but that is a female thing so I won't bother to try to understand)
If the dryer was broken and in danger of catching fire I could understand him getting upset.
If not, then his reaction seems extreme even out of control.
Anger issues?
The topic is "we're always fighting" but in your post you say "HE is always fighting with me". That is two different things. Some couples fight but are happy together they are just strong personalities that clash but it all works out.
But if HE is the one constantly picking fights with you and you just feel miserable, then it starts to sound a lot like mental abuse.
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