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writes:My wife has sold her engagement ring and has left the state, she even had a change of address 3 weeks ago, then, this week I filed for divorce. Do I have any rights with regard to her selling the ring before divorce?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Legally you have no claim on the ring; so what she does with it is none of your business. Unfortuntely that is how the law works!
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reader, wildman +, writes (21 June 2008):
 I think it is her ring, you gave it to her. I won't go after that at this stage. just move on the sooner the better, another lesson in life learned
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 How long were you married? This is where divorce starts to get ugly. I'm assuming you don't have much cash left but is it really worth fighting over a ring? Jewelery is so overpriced that it is really worth much less than you paid for it. It's not worth the drama.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 It is classed as a gift so no you have no rights, unless it was your family's heirloom and the will states it has to remain in the family, then you might have had some rights but if she has already sold it I dont know what could be done x
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (21 June 2008):
 An engagement ring becomes hers on marriage. It's a gift you gave her, and like any gift you can't decide to ask for it back. It's not something like a house that might be considered joint property.
I wonder... if it was an eternity ring (like my husband gave me a few years ago) would it be his on divorce because the "conditions" of the gift had been broken? Not that I'm thinking of divorce.
Yet.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 The law says that a wedding ring is a conditional gift. It is given to the woman on the condition that she marry you and that the marriage is consummated.
If that happened, the ring is her private possession. The courts are very clear on this.
Shouldn't your lawyer be able to tell you this?
And geez, don't be so cheap mate. Imagine you get intrested in another woman and your ex tells this tale, what do you think her impression of you will be?
You GAVE her that ring so she would marry you, she did. End of story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): It depends on what state you live in, there are community property states where assets are to be divided 50/50 so I suppose you could claim your half of the ring.
But in all honesty and sense of decency it was a gift to her from you, if she did not want to keep the ring as a reminder of her failed marriage, then I think she can seel it if she wants to do so without your blessings.
By the way, I find it interesting that this was the part of your question that bothered you the most. Why was her selling the ring for money and leaving the state not your major concern?
It sounds to me this marriage is definately over, and you might just want to forget about the small stuff like rings and move on with your life, and chose better for yourself next time.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Im afraid you dont, sorry. She would be under no obligation to return it to you, putting it into a different context, its like if you bought a friend a present at christmas, and you had a falling out, there's no reason why they should return it to you. I know thats two different things all together really but thats just me tryin to simplify the way how things work lol all the best x
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reader, supermum +, writes (21 June 2008):
 i wouldn have thought so im afraid....but if you bought it, you could have asked for it back. unfortunately, whats done is done now.
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