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writes:I'm 20 and i have a house, which i'm renting, but i recently lost my job and i owe rent. I also owe money for other things. Someone i know has said they can get me a job as a prostitute, i don't know if i can do it, or if i'm that desparate. Does anyone know what it's really like and if it's dangerous?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): hi everyone i am 30 years of age i have had amjor struggle through my life well who doesn't i was a prostitute for 7 years. my parents were very very poor my mother used to cry every night. one day i left home telling my mom i got a part time job with a good friend of mind as a maid this time it was prostitution i was never really interest in what disease i get but when i would have sex i will thing of the money and wiping away my mother tears. God has protect me through this or deal and i have not contacted any diseases thank god. i think you should start very small my dear get a job, 2 jobs, 3 jobs but not prostitution please its a nasty business, keeping praying my mom used to say god wear PJ but he does sleep i have build a huge house 8 bedrooms, 10 bathrooms, 5 kitchens, etc for her and now i am a helipoter pilot and a captain as well hang in there have faith and pray it works beleive me...
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reader, sexy_mami_4_u  +, writes (18 January 2009):
I know what being a prostitute is like...of course you have to be careful!
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reader, BigSis +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Diovan, I like a girl who says what she really feels, so thumbs up to you my dear.
xXx
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Yes, it is dangerous, so you have to be clear-headed and not do anything stupid.
I once had a prostitute who said she could dispense with the condom if I paid extra. That was scary! How many other disease-ridden guys might be availing themselves of this special service?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 The greatest fear and scourge in this profession is AIDS or STD's and cancer.
Some clients may not want to use the condoms..
Too many sexual partners can run the higher risk of getting cervical cancer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): "All i can say is, their sluts who don't have a life"....
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And you dear miss, aged 13years old, have a few years growing to do, before you understand anything about sex and the adult world. How dare you judge your elders, and presume to give advice, when you are not even fully grown. Your words are offensive to me personally but your ignorance is I suppose, appropriate for your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): omg, wat is it like?
AUGH!!!
I remember about 2 years ago, when I was 11! I was with my friend and her parents and we drove down this road, there were prostitutes everywhere, standing at cars talking to guys, asking for money going a=inside with like 3 guys.
I tell ya I have never seen anything like it b4.
All i can say is, their sluts who don't have a life
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reader, oldfool +, writes (24 June 2008):
You should check out this thread:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-enjoy-being-a-prostitute-this-much.html
There is an aunt on that thread who has been working in the industry for 40 years. She has very good advice.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (24 June 2008):
Prostitution is like the bright lamp that attracts all those fly and insects to it. Like flys , they will not last long .
No one ventures into this profession if they had a choice .
It is only when they have no other alternatives or avenues .
Most of them do it for their own and the money it can buy .
No matter how you rationalize and justify this vocation ,
you are in a dehumanize, desensitize , exploitative and abusive industry.
You become like the coin vending machine and no more human.
When you are still doing it , you sing the praises but when you are too old for it, you will sing another tune.
"Working in the sex industry can be a wonderfully fulfilling and financially satisfying career."
I would like to agree with DiovanLestat, but then from what
I know , many of them died a lonely and sad figure.
Even their children too rejected them.
Life is not all about money or what riches can buy for you .
Riches does not guarantee you happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Thanks Ms anonymous for your wonderfull post.
Of course working in the sex industry can be a wonderfully fullfilling and financially satisfying career. As I said before I am willing to give advice on this issue, if I think it's appropriate. It's just that in my opinion, very few women have the clear sighted determination, strong self confidence and business sense to be able to practice at your level of the business. Further down another lady was kind enough to share her experiences, which are slightly different from yours, thus the calculations that Lazy guy has tried to offer.
The biggest worry that a lot of us share is further down the prostitution scale, what you have identified as the grim reality of the "street prostitute", who earns very little and quickly looses respect for herself due to the conditions in which she has to work. The question answer worried me with her innocence and her lack of knowledge about the prostitution world and therefore that is the cause of the advice I offered.
Thank you and the other Ms anonymous lady for your input, this is probably what the question asker was hoping for and alongside all the other information that has been given, I hope she can make a decision that is right and works for her.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (23 June 2008):
If you have no job and no money , you cannot pay your debts.
You can put your debts on hold temporarily till you have the money.
In the UK, you can apply for dole since you are unemployed.
This should tide you over until you get a job.
You don't have to sell your soul to the devil.
You can try and apply for a social escort post.
It is better than prostitution.
Though social escort is another euphemism for prostitution .
There are alot of lap dancing clubs mushrooming in the UK.
That is another front for prostitution .
It depends on how far you want to go .
For further readings on social escorts;-
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2007/12/24/accountant-by-day-social-escort-by-night/
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reader, BigSis +, writes (22 June 2008):
I agree with the Wiz, that previous post was very well put, and I admire you Miss Fem anon reader. You sound as though you have class, and if I were to venture into this 'industry' then I would be much more inclined to go about it the way you have.
You have balls {If you pardon the crude description}.
I would just like to add that this girl I knew all those years ago ~ was in no way going about her business the way you do, thus the roughness and desperateness you coud see in her eyes.
You take care and good luck to you.
I hope, question asker, you consider your thoughts about this idea and sincerely hope you make the right decision.
Once again, best of luck, to you too.
BigSis
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I have to say, I am a prostitute. I am 41 and have been an escort for five years. I charge £150 pounds an hour if the client comes to me. £200 an hour if I go to the client in a hotel. That is a fairly average rate. The "high class" escorts charge as much as twice what I do. And they get it.I have NEVER been raped, nor attacked by a client. Like some of my fellow working girls, we have measures in place which keep us safe, save for the odd guy that thinks he can get away without paying the agreed fee. I get on splendidly with the majority of my clients, and even have half of them on my Christmas card list and vice versa. This is the exception, though and not the norm ... most men want a prostitute to avoid the entanglements of a relationship.I do not drink, do not smoke and do not take drugs. I lead a fairly normal life in between and only tell people on a need to know basis. The few people that know I am a prostitute are pleasantly surprised to know that normal, balanced people can be prostitutes.Being a prostitute does not screw with my head. I went in to it knowing what I was doing and I stick to that. I would rather charge for sex than give some drunken stranger I met in a night club free sex. Of all the well meaning but judgemental people writing here in condemnation of ladies that voluntarily sell their intimacy, how many of you feel that indignant about the unprotected sex between drunken and coked-up-to-their-eye-ball strangers clocking up one night stands without a second thought?By choice I do not have a partner, but when I am ready, I shall be able to do so without any baggage and would prefer a man who understands the realities of the industry, rather than the media hype. There are many women (and men, judging from the demand for my services) who have never sold their body and cannot find a relationship. Relationships are hard work, prossie or not.Also spare a thought for disabled men and women whose only hope of experiencing sex is with a sex worker. I, and many of my fellow prostitute colleagues, are proud to be making a quality and memorable experience available to men and women with profound disabilities. And their family are also often grateful to us for taking the anguish out of this issue.Is prostitution dangerous? Potentially, you bet it is. So is dating, potentially; so is marriage, potentially. More women are murdered and or attacked by boyfriends and husbands in any one year than women on the game murdered or attacked by clients.Many prostitutes value their bodies as their principal source of income and do not expose themselves to diseases in the same way the average young free and single men and women do in this day and age. How many of you reading this have not taken a gamble with unprotected sex with someone you could not absolutely vouch for as being clean? You are more likely to get infected by an unfaithful boyfriend who picked it up in a night club than you are from a hooker, provided you choose your hooker with care.I have no experience of street prostitution and cannot speak for what happens there, although it sounds pretty grim to me. On my way home from bookings in five star hotels, I driven past street hookers standing shivering on street corners waiting to turn a cheap trick so they can buy their next drug fix. This saddens me profoundly. But I don't have the answers for tackling this problem and can only go about my own business in a way that does not present a problem for society. Can you do it? Only you really know the answer. But do not go into it lightly, that is all I can say. There are clients out there ready to mess about with your mind if you will allow them to.All the best!From a very happy London hooker who wishes she'd done it 15 years ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): just think could you sleep with a man that is probably old enough to be your grandfather??? i dont think that prostitution is the best way to go about things if you are really desperate to pay off those debts what about your parents or other family members and friends could they help? if not and this is the last resort i suggest that a lapdancing club would be the safest option and good money too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Wow, I can't believe this site sometimes. It's been refreshing to read a range of answers about the troubled issue of prostitution and working in the sex industry.
Caller, it's just not worth it....
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (21 June 2008):
Ok if you are comfy doing that then why not do something a little safer like be a stripper at a club. They make good money there is someone there to make sure no guy hurts you and you wont get an std unless you sleep with the customers. Why not work in fast food or why not look into doing bar tending when you turn 21. The last thing you want to do is be a prostitute. Money is not worth a STD or no man wanting to touch you and you cant spend the money if you get murdered. Please look into a different job stripping would even be a much better choice. But really look into bar tending I know a woman who brings home $300-400 a night in tips just for being a bar tender. Keep me posted in your decision!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 I do technical maintenance of servers for several charities, an umbrella organisation and a couple have to do with the illegal trade in humans (forced prostitution) and the recovery of women who have been in the trade.
Of course, all you hear is the horror stories then because the mythical Happy Hooker wouldn't need the aid of a charity would she?
One of the things that I learned is that the finance side of it. Well we got a response from a self-acclaimed real hooker (says a lot about the job that on an anonymous site she choose the most anonymous option) claiming a price per trick of 50 pounds.
That is not a lot. Oh it sounds decent enough compared to what you earn with the most basic jobs, but there are hidden costs.
If you work in a factory nobody cares how you are dressed or what state your underwear is in. You can wear your clothes until they fall apart and have holes in them, nobody cares, a real money saver in times of trouble. Same with hygience products and the hairdresser. Skip it and save some money while cleaning offices but for a hooker the body and how it is dressed are her means of making an income.
There is also something called taxes. You need to pay them and even in countries were prostitution is illegal the taxman still wants his share of your earnings when they send you to jail for having made those earnings. It might be legal in the UK but it is not entirely without legal risk. Oh and guess how you are going to pay any fine you do get, not with a real job because you just got yourself a criminal record.
What are you basic needs at the moment? How much have you GOT to earn to NOT just live on but to get out of debt?
Lets say it is 1000 pounds. Just to have a figure to work with. 50 pounds a trick. that is 20 tricks a month. Sounds reasonable. But that is a trick EVERY working day of the week. Do-able. After all you got to work every working day in other jobs as well don't you.
Yes, except YOU HAVE NO JOB SECURITY. You are self-employed even if you work via an escort agency you don't get a base salery. You earn ONLY when you got clients. how certain are you you can get a john EVERY DAY.
But wait, 20x50 is 1000. But where is tey money for taxes? Where is the cut of the escort agency/pimp? Lets be nice and say that they only want 50% combined. So to take home 1000 you need to actually EARN 2000. That just made it 40 customers. On average there are 22 working days in month, so that is 2 customers per day. You need your rest because being tired shows and how you look determines how much you can earn.
Oh and there are other costs as well. Who pays for the condoms? No it is not a major cost since you will be buying them in bulk but it adds up.
But 50 pounds, don't high class escorts make far more? Yes, but they can only remain high class because they invest a lot of time and money in themselves to attract a high price. And the market is very limited. Not many men want to pay top dollar for just sex, not when there are teenage girls doing it for a drink at every club.
What I am trying to get at is that in the end MANY girls working in the industry actually earn less then those who just work at the checkout at the local supermarket. With the big difference that the checkout girl isn't assured an STD, doesn't get a criminal record, gets paid even if nobody comes to the supermarket that day etc etc.
From what I learned talking to people at these charities is that your average hooker got to work really hard just to make a basic wage. If you got no choice, well so be it. If you do it on the side and have no troubles with the risks and what others will think of it, then go right ahead.
But as means out of money troubles... go ask for financial support and try and find a real job again.
The problems involved just aren't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): There is nothing wrong with prostitution, providing you are capable of dealing with the feelings that are going to accompany it. Some prostitutes just like doing what they are doing and if thats the case, all the power to them.
There are quite a few prostitutes who make good money, have great relationships (I applaud the bravery of their men, but laugh at their stupidity), but don;t think for a second that your children are going to respect you if they ever, ever find out that you slept around to support them.
So, prostitution is fine if you are single, have no maternal responsibilities or any form of relationship. But add one or more of these things to it and it gets more complicated.
Don't go into the sex industry out of depression or desperation, there are always other ways.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): i will admit that i have had to go into that line of work. if you are going to do it, go through an internet site like gumtree and arrange a time and place to met. it is not safe, but it is safer.
because you are not standing on street corners, oyu can charge a bit more. i charge no less than £50
and whatever you do, work for your self, not for a pimp.
i still dont think you should do it, but if you have your mind made up, htose are my tips
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reader, Death Valley +, writes (21 June 2008):
I do physicals for 4 legal brothels in Nevada. I've interviewed over a thousand ladies and have an extensive psych background. Prostitution is a dead end job. When the women are young and pretty they make very good money. As they get older things work less well. It also tends to mess with your head such that any true relationship becomes very difficult if not impossible later on. You pay a heavy emotional price for being "intimate" with many many men. You will not be seeing their best side and cynicism and callousness soon becomes the norm. Few are smart enough to save the money they earn and invest it well. There is a wide range as to how well you will be treated. There are a few who earn six figure incomes. The other end is you become a sex slave, in the truest sense of the word slave.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (21 June 2008):
Dovian Is absolutely right. Both times.
: )
I was once in a situation where I had my home repossessed, {long story} I also had two youg children, I was really desperate. In the space of 10 years, I moved 10 times, with my poor kids on tow, from one rented accommodation to another.
I was sick of sponging off the state and my family. Someone had suggested the same to me, 'Be a prozzy' she said. 'You'll make a fortune, and never look back', she said.
I thought at first she was joking, but she was deadly serious. Yes she made loads of money, but had no boyfriend to love or love her, couldn't get one, her family had alienated her and she only a couple of close friends, oh, and not forgetting, not an ounce of dignity or self respect whatsoever. Boy she looked rough.
I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but please consider this very carefully.
Now if you're willing to forfeit all that, then go ahead, but I'm sure if you try hard enough, and if you have any self respect and want to maintain your dignity, then I suggest you go out there and look for work. There are plenty of jobs out there waiting for you to snap them up.
I held two jobs, worked full time during the day, Monday to Friday on the books, and worked four evenings a week, cash in hand. With the help of my family looking after my children ~ I was able to do it, and got my head above water again. Saved enough to put a deposit on a flat, sold it four years later for double the price I paid, and now own {now I'm gonna be a show off} a 5 double bedroomed Victorian Semi on the coast.
If you're that worried about paying off your debts and you are willing to work hard, then you'll do it. If I could, with two children, I'm pretty sure you can.
So good luck hon, and please take care of you.
BigSis
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): You could end up with HIV Aids or be raped or killed! Don't be stupid you can get help in other ways surley you have government assistance or family that can help you! You don't want to end up in jail or worse dead! Please don't through your life away! God bless you and I hope you don't become a prostitute. What if you got pregnant and had Aids oh please wake up!
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reader, evas +, writes (21 June 2008):
If you want to end up with a disease, dead and/or basically in self submitted slavery sure. Wake up!!! There is nothing but death there. The money ain't worth it! YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN A COUPLE OF POUNDS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): You present as aged 10-12 (underage) currently living in the UK. You say that your 20 years old. At your age you should know that prostitution can be one of the most soul destroying, humilating and dangerous jobs in the world. You must have read the papers, you must have seen the news. Where was you last year when all the women were scared when a number of prostitutes ended up dead and left in swamp land.
I would have been willing to give advice on prostitution and the laws that cover it in the UK, but you first need to find out more about the world and get some common sense. Somebody can get you a job, go talk to them and find out what their experience of prostitution is like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): You present as aged 10-12 (underage) currently living in the UK. You say that your 20 years old. At your age you should know that prostitution can be one of the most soul destroying, humilating and dangerous jobs in the world. You must have read the papers, you must have seen the news. Where was you last year when all the women were scared when a number of prostitutes ended up dead and left in swamp land.
I would have been willing to give advice on prostitution and the laws that cover it in the UK, but you first need to find out more about the world and get some common sense. Somebody can get you a job, go talk to them and find out what their experience of prostitution is like.
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