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writes: Until fairly recently, you did not hear as much about men with erectile dysfunction. Can it be that it was just kept quiet? Today it is a common complaint. You often did hear men complaining that they did not have satisfactory sexual relationships, blaming the wives for lacking libido. Now it seems more and more women have to live with unsatisfactory sexual relationships due to partners not being able to perform.Just wondering, what can be the reason and how severe is the problem really?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Female... LOL... I should take my time to read things more carefully....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Diovan, I am a female.No I don't suffer with the problem. (lol)I have just noticed lately more and more people are complaining experiencing the problem. I was merely interested in getting your various opinions on it.
I am of the opinion that stress and other health symptoms such as high blood pressure, that are also stress related, have a major influence. (The porn aspect is something I have not considered).
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Sorry dear poster, but the first answer kinda set us off. Porn and those who like it or hate it is a controversial issue on this board, and as you've reminded us is just a small part of the problem with erectile disfunction. If you read between the lines you will realise that some of us have different suggestions for this problem which is hidden by the discussion over porn. I hope your not suffering yourself, and if you are please send us details of your problem so we can give you better advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the replies. I am surprised about all the comments regarding the influence of porn on Erectile Dysfunction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Hey, Diovan. Did you notice that the people on the board can't even say porn and masturbating. It is P and MB.
Q: "My main problem is with fantasizing and MB."
A: "You use MB as a drug. Maybe you would benefit from therapy. What would happen to you if you could not MB?"
A: "I admit this may be controversial. Stop fantasizing while Mb."
A: "Are you in any kind of a recovery program, 12 step, on line, therapist, etc?"
HE'S TALKING ABOUT WACKING OFF ONCE A WEEK FOR CRYING OUT LOUD.
It is truly sad what uninformed people can do to those who are normal and doing something that is healthy, both physically and mentally. There was a guy on healthboards.com that was considering castration because he could not cure his thinking about sex problem. Here it is:
http://www.healthboards.com/boards/showthread.php?t=605822&highlight=castration
Truly sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008)
"don't dismiss a very real problem that you know nothing about"
Well I did just what you said and took a look at that website for men with problems around porn "npsupport.net". Unfortunately the first case I found was a man in a hotel room, praying to God to get over his addiction to porn. He hadn't really had a problem with it untill his wife told him he had and directed him to relevant anti-porn websites to see the damage it caused.
I just couldn't get him out of my head, alone, guilty and sad. Stuff it, it was better before she interfered because at least he could go to sleep with a smile on his face instead of tears in his eyes. He didn't have a problem with porn his wife did and I think in the majority of cases this is the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Some people say that porn desensitizes men to real sex with an actual woman. I find it just the opposite. Now that my wife and I are both retired and no longer under the stress of work combined with daily life, I watch porn very little. Now that we have the time, energy and feelings that make us want to have sex daily, I find porn much less interesting and rarely watch it. It is not nearly as much of a turn-on as it was when we didn't have the time of energy to have sex as much. It just doesn't compete with what I have just lying in bed with my wife and cuddling and fondling each other, even without sex. If I watch it, it is usually with her occasionally. Sex with my attractive wife makes porn much less interesting then the years where I just had the time for a quick release of sexual energy.
So beware, you guys who like porn. Sex with a real woman on a daily basis will desensitize you to porn. Be careful of an addiction to sex with your wife or significant other.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 It is hardly new, maybe you never paid attention to it before?
One thing I do notice is that pre-mature ejaculation isn't often raised as a problem anymore or maybe this site just attracts an older crowd.
Maybe you have heard more about the problem because Viagra made the headlines.
There is also a long-term problem that men are getting less masculine because of an over-exposure to estrogen but that is affecting younger generations, not people your age.
I think you previously just didn't pay attention to it, not your problem. Why do I get the feeling that has changed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Porn does have something to do with it. It is not the cause for everyone, but definately for some. Don't believe it? Read from those who it definately did @ npsupport.net
Just as some people are able to use alcohol without it ruining their lives and others lives are destroyed by it, so it is with porn.
Count yourself lucky if you aren't affected by it but don't dismiss a very real problem that you know nothing about!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I think it's at least partly health-related.
Even carrying even a small amount more body fat will dump a lot more estrogen into your body compared to your testosterone. And we're not exactly getting skinnier as a population.
Being depressed or anxious or other mental heath issues will usually hurt your sex drive too.
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reader, Passthrough  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 Technically, ED is a "growing problem" by definition :-D
But seriously, it's just an excuse. Everybody has always had problems, this is just a fad to call it ED and blame porn and the intarwebs.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 June 2008):
 I think the only thing that's really changed is the size of the marketing budgets of the pharmaceutical companies who manufacture drugs that treat erectile dysfunction. In the past, these drugs did not exist, so there was no need to put ads in newspapers, on television discussing the condition, and thus there was no real community sense of awareness of it.
I think also that there has been an attitude shift, similar to how cancer was regarded not too long ago. Both were considered shameful, and somehow your own fault if you were diagnosed with the disease.
Again, this goes back, for me at least, to the pharmaceutical companies developing these drugs, then figuring out how to market them. That, and there's always been a need for treating erectile dysfunction for many men. It's just been underground, and there was no reason to talk about ED, as it would just make the man suffering it be regarded as pathetic or unfortunate but essentially not treatable, expect perhaps with an surgical implant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Men have been masturbating ever since the human race began. Monkeys do it all the time. Funny, I have never seen a monkey at a zoo watching porn. Perhaps the zookeepers let them watch after the zoo closes. There was no accessable porn when I was a teen and I sure did it enough. Men don't need porn to masturbate. Neither do women. I guess my use of porn for the past 40 years is the reason that my wife and I only have sex 5 to 7 times a week now that we are in our 60s. On the other hand, maybe porn isn't so bad. Since it has ruined our sexuality by some peoples thinking, she would probably now be unable to walk if I could have been able to have sex like normal 60 year olds, whcih I assumt would be 5 or 6 times a day if I had never used parn.Common people, ED is now talked about because the subject has now been opened up due to the discovery of Viagra, Cialis and Levitra. Men and woman are no longer afraid to talk about it and seek help for the problem. I remember a couple guys at work telling me when I was about 50 that I wasn't having any sex at my age when some guys would joke about sex. I just nodded and smiled, knowing that I could still do it 3 times a day.Porn does not cause ED. Being grossly overweight causes ED. Many years of smoking causes ED. Many new drugs have the side effect of ED. Diabetes causes ED. There is an increase of diabetes because of so many people being fat. Not just overweight, but obese. Perhaps we can blame obesity on porn. Why not, we wouldn't just want to admit that we are hogs.ED is like people being gay. There is no more of that now. It is just that gays have come out of the closet and are now not afraid to admit their lifestyle. Men are no longer afraid to ask their doctors for Viagra.Diovan is so correct. If it were not for porn and the internet, there are people who would blame ED on global warming, the price of oil, gays, people of a different race or whatever thing that they are against.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Porn has bugger all to do with it. Porn gives erections, not suppresses them.
High blood pressure and diabetes are two common causes. Todays man is under so much more stress at work, at home and financially than a generation ago, which are more causes of ED.
Maybe it wasn't spoken about before the advent of Viagra, but once that came on the scene all those men that had ED suddenly jumped and said "I'll have some of THAT!" and the world was a much happier place all of a sudden. Both for men AND their women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): When there's any type of problem in society, we always look for the easy answer, without looking at the bigger picture. Back in the middle ages the problem was witchcraft, in the 1960's it was black people, in the Victorian times it was women's sexuality, in the late 1930's it was Jews and now in the 21st century it's porn and computers.
Unfortuanately life and human beings are more complicated than this. Erectile disfunction is a growing problem, porn use is a growning problem, rejection of church is a growing problem, the breakdown in families is a growing problem, the economic situation is a growing problem, international competition is a growing problem, competion in the workspace is a growing problem, the amount of women in the workforce is a growing problem, the availability of divorce is a growing problem, the breakdown in families is a growing problem, the increase in mental health problems is a growing problem.
Penis won't come up, it's got to be a problem with porn. Well I say lets ban it, and then find another scapegoat to blame societies problems on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I fully believe that there is a correlation between the apparent increase in ED problems and the relatively new phenomenon of internet porn. Never before have we seen so many boys in their teens and 20s unable to get it up, etc; is it a coincidence that they are the first generation to grow up with the internet? With porn, which grows ever more extreme, on tap in the home 24/7, men are masturbating way more than is healthy, which equals performance problems in the bedroom. Duh, right? Hands and vaginas are very different ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): It's probably getting worse since there is so much really good easily accessible porn. When you have such a large selection of hot naked girls on the internet, it kinda makes reality more boring. I dunno, please don't make fun of my stupid response but I really think we are becoming desensitized by things on the internet.
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