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writes:I have an ex boyfriend who I see every now and again. He and I are very comfortable with each other, especially in a sexual sense, and have discussed the possibility getting back together in the future. Recently he's confessed that he wants to try out some kinky things with me. They weirded me out at first, but after reading different questions and posts on this site I find that they're not so weird after all. The problem I find is, is it weird that he has so many different fetishes? There are three specific ones, involving sex on my period, anal sex, and watching/touching me while I pee. Also, if I do them with him, will he only see me as the girl he got to play out his deepest, darkest fantasies on and nothing more?Thanks for your help!
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reader, sissybabysusie  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I have a strong urge to wear baby clothe very frilly ones such as pink satin panties covered in lace and matching dresses and baby-doll nighties.It may seem weird however it's harmless.Many folk have all kinds of kinks so perhaps try it you may enjoy it.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (20 June 2008):
you can only do things you are comfortable with...but at the same token some fantasies are better left fantasies... today its letting you go pee pee on his hand tomorrow he will want you to hop in a diaper & massage the dogs balls. there is no end with people like this... I had a friend that told me a story that involved this girl she knew...she said that the girls husband was into all kinds of freaky fetishes...such as peeing having her have sex with other men in front of him etc... the list goes on & on...& she was a highly sexual woman & she enjoyed pleasuring him... until the day that his sick fetishes turned into pedophilia & he raped her 10 year old son... I'm not saying that all ppl with fetishes are like this sicko... I'm just saying @ which point does it end?is there a limit? listen the fact that you even feel remotely funny about this indicates that you shouldn't even begin indulging in it... follow your gut instinct their never wrong...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Hey babes, please don't get the wrong idea from this site. There are a lot of unhappy people here and some of them like the more extreme sexual side of sex. Don't think that everybody is doing the things you read here.
As lazy guy says there are two options you have in your sex play - "I am okay with that" or "No way in hell". Don't feel pressured to do things because you think you have to, or because everybody else dose, keep an open mind and only do what's comfortable to you. I also wonder why "regular sex is not enough" at your age. I don't know why people get in such a hurry to explore all the variety of sexual activity, it's not a competition, sex aint going no where. Anyway not for me to judge. If you feel uncomfortable just say "no honey that's not for me".
PS: I'm really against sex on a period, I get horny, but it's just not for me, it's just too nasty.... see there are many views on the subject and whatever you decide to do should be ok for you.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I think it is all to do with what you are comfortable with. The only thing I would say was that I was with a guy that had a thing about my knickers and shoes. After a while, I knew they were going missing and he seemed more interested in the objects than me. That's my experience, I just found it started as fun but lead to things going a little bit too weird and secretive for my liking. All the best, H xx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I find the only problem with having too many weird sexual things is that it becomes very hard for one or more partner to enjoy regular sex anymore. Its ok when its just once in a blue moon but when it becomes a regular part of sex then often the partner iniitiating the new stuff also wants more and more sexual thrills, he could start asking for threesomes or a bit of S&M, who knows where it will lead.
However if you are personally comfortable with it then thats fine but make sure you are first.
As for sex on your period make sure you put a thick towel or something under you or else you WILL ruin the mattress! I find it a bit too messy and wet for my liking x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Strictly speaking ANYTHING sexual that is NOT for the purpose of reproduction is a fetish.
Breast play? Not needed, fetish. Kissing? Not needed, fetish. Female orgasm? Not needed, fetish.
Wam bam, thank you ma'am, that is proper sex. Anything else is kinky perverted and an abomination to god.
So forgot about the label "fetish" and just label the various sexual acts as "I am okay with that" and "No way in hell".
If you are okay with it, do it. If you are not, don't. Oh and you are allowed to think of things as well.
As for how he might see you. Your mother might have told you "if you give the milk for free nobody is going to buy the cow". This is true.
You are in your early twenties. Why isn't "regular" sex enough anymore? If you do everything now what is left? PACE yourself. While it is wrong, yes I do get the impression that some guys do see a girl who gives in too easily as nothing more then a sex-toy. It depends on the person in question, is he that kind of guy? That you even ask makes me think that you KNOW he is.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Sweetie, eventhough you are both comfortable with each other sexually, only you can decide if you are comfortable trying out these different ideas.... Sex during your period could be rather messy but not too much to worry about.. Having to pee while someone watches & touches... well.. I dont know, maybe youre okay with it, lots of other people find it distasteful. Anal sex is quite common nowdays however, once again it is only if you are comfortable doing it. Dont be forced to try things out if you dont want to do them.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
There are a few you mentioned there that I'd tell him to take a running jump, Sex on a period well thats ok in my eyes but its not what I would call a fetish its just I get horny while on my period full stop! As long as Im clean Im ok with that. Watching you pee golden showers some men like this they like there women to pee on them NO! thats not for me only if I was pissed off with them I may consider it. And anal well thats up to you I personally dont go for that as it bloody hurts to be honest and I get no pleasure what so ever...If you feel pressured into anything then dont do it if you dont feel comfortable dont do it and if it hurts dont do it love, Only do what you feel your happy with TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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