If a man is in a committed relationship, why would he take a ladies number?
Q. If a man is in a long-term committed relationship, and goes out to a bar with his friends, if he chats with a lady and she gives him her phone number, shouldn't he say "no thanks, I have a girlfriend" instead of putting the number in his pocket? ...
A. 6 May 2012: It's not okay and it's disrespectful to you! He knows how you feel....you've been through this before. So the bottom line is...he enjoys the attention and he is leading women on to assume he's available. This will on lead to disaster and more of ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating with me?...what's with the secrecy?
Q. I have been dating a man for 7 weeks. On paper we look great, same age, both solvent kids grown up, both working, similar interests and lots in common...there is just one problem...he hasn't let me see where he lives but has been to mine a few ...
A. 5 May 2012: I dated a guy for about 2 months and like you...he never invited me to his house. He would always come to my house or we would meet up somewhere. Well, one night after hanging out, I told him that I really liked him, but since he was so secretive ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my friends so that my life can be less stressful?
Q. hey everyone, here goes ( sorry its long) So ive been best friends with this girl ( lets call her A ) for about five years, soon we developed our own group, there were four of us. best mates, did everything together and shared it all. However ...
A. 5 May 2012: I think A maybe jealous! Misery loves company and just because your not complaining about everything and always in some drama...your a goody 2 shoes. Don't allow them to discourage you! Stay focused on school, continue helping your family and ... (read in full...)
My possessive boyfriend said I smelled like sex!
Q. I spent a couple hours getting ready before going over to my boyfriend's house. I showered, did my hair and make up, and put on perfume. After I got there, we sat in the living room and he said, "Can I say something kind of weird?" And I said of ...
A. 5 May 2012: Okay....you need to have a little conversation with him and it should go something like this:
Something is bothering me and I need to get it off my chest. The other day when you said I smelled like c** or like sex. I was in disbelief that you... (read in full...)
Now that it seems my husband and I are going to succeed his vile sister wants a piece of the action!
Q. Hello everyone, I am in need of advice about my husband's sister. (ugh I feel odd just typing that) My husband moved to my state from one up north to get into a college he wanted. Well of course life throws twist. He met me!(I am a mother as well...
A. 5 May 2012: You will have to handle this situation with kid gloves, but at the same time, hold your ground and be firm. His sister means you no good. She seems to try and control him, always trying to pull rank over you because she is his older sister and the ... (read in full...)
Going to senior prom with my friend: is this a proper 'date' or just a 'friend-date'?
Q. Yes, I'm having one of those teen-cliche-romance issues. Senior Prom: the word says it all. So I need to know, is this a "date" or a friend-date? And should my friend be mad at me? My guy friend, D, and I have known eachother since the learning...
A. 4 May 2012: Okay...it seems like K.....has a new found interest in D...because he had stopped paying her any attention and was showing interest in you. Even though, you discussed it with her and she gave the thumbs up to date him....a competitiveness has come ... (read in full...)
He spent the night and had sex with me. Now nothing! How should I act when I see him next?
Q. I'll try to be brief : he was very interested came on strong said all the right things / I made him wait / so now that we spent a night together and sex // haven't heard anything from him !! It hurts and I need to know how to get past it and how ...
A. 4 May 2012: He pursued you and then after spending the night and having sex, you have not heard from him??? Let me ask you....how long has it been since you two slept together? How long did he pursue you? And have you tried to contact him at all since your ... (read in full...)
41 and the get up and go is gone!
Q. im a 41 year old male and have lost most of my sex drive what is wrong with me?...
A. 4 May 2012: Sir....I suggest you take action now! You are far to young to give up on a good sex life. Don't be so selfish and lazy. Your wife or girlfriend need you to keep it popping in the bedroom! This is tough love dude! Okay....let's check medical...... (read in full...)
Would you find it hard to stay friends with your ex if he met someone else?
Q. Hi, When we met a year ago, my boyfriend was very close to an ex girlfriend (they had been broken up a few years but stayed good friends) They stayed in contact for the first few months we were together but then she stopped getting in touch...
A. 4 May 2012: I have had several ex's that tried to be friends after a relationship gone bad. Normally, 1 of the 2....still has feelings! The friendship is something that keeps them connected to each other. Once they find another partner....someone is ... (read in full...)
My life is perfect, so why am I so terribly sad?
Q. (This may be long.) Hi, I'm sorry this isn't a relationship question, I just really hope that somebody can help me in some way, shape or form. (Also, please don't let the fact that I'm a teenager bring a judgement that I'm some reckless good for ...
A. 3 May 2012: You are a very mature young lady and you have expressed yourself extremely well here. You need to start writing! Writing a book....about what? I don't know yet, but just start writing, your feeling, your highs, your lows, your memories. Being ... (read in full...)
Help me lie to my mom!
Q. i have planned an trip with my boyfriend for three days without my parents knowledge now how do i make them believe tat i am gonna go with girls .my mom is telling tat she wil come to the station to drop me but if she cums she wil know the truth tat ...
A. 2 May 2012: Sorry Sweetie, to many things can happen and somebody needs to know your whereabouts. I totally understand your situation, but most of us have been there and done that and it did not pan out well!
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She lied to me!
Q. I am in a relationship with the person I love and wanted to be with. We have been in a relationship for a year now and decided to get married as we both are 28 years old and ready to settle down. We were honest to each other and very loving bu...
A. 2 May 2012: Your feelings are accurate and yes she lied about being married at such a young age. I can see how this might be a bit embarrassing to tell people at first, but she did tell you BEFORE you got married. This should not be taken lightly by any ... (read in full...)
The power of pride or call?
Q. Hey, i have dated for 8 months and i've got along with him pretty well. The only thing that bothered me was that i had always call him or text him if we should meet. He always answered, but never called or texted me first. I asked him about that a...
A. 2 May 2012: I think that you are doing the right thing! Let him learn to call you. If you are always the one chasing...he will NEVER learn. In the long run....no he is probably not the right guy, but he needs to learn to be a man!
I say no, don't ca... (read in full...)
Why would he pursue our relationship and then end it the way he did?
Q. Hi everyone, just looking for a bit of advice, male perspective might be good on this one too! I'm really struggling to get over my ex. We broke up six months ago but were friends first and shared a flat before having a relationship, though we were ...
A. 2 May 2012: My heart goes out to you, but here is the reality. It does not sound like he was ready to be in a relationship with you. He hinted it many times, but you kinda insisted that he give it a go. He was unsure of a relationship with you because 1. He ... (read in full...)
My friends with benefits is jealous, what should I do?
Q. Hi I could really do with some good honest answers regarding this I have been sleeping with a man for a few months now we are not together as a couple I told him I would like us to be but he said he didn't want a relationship I went out at the ...
A. 2 May 2012: You don't have to share any information about your dating life with your FWB! I suggest you keep your personal life with him seperate & that way you don't continue to have his pouting. He didn't want to be in a relationship with you.....so stop ... (read in full...)
He cheated, prom is only a week away and the dress is paid for. What to do?
Q. Help! I just found out my my boyfriend of 7 months has cheated on me. He kissed another girl while he was wasted at a party....and Prom is a week away. We already have tickets and i bought a $500 dress. My family is super excired to see us go. Im ...
A. 1 May 2012: I agree with 786! The kiss...he'll never remember....your prom....you will remember FOREVER! Don't let some cheap, drunken kiss ruin your prom & the memories to come. Your better than that! I would have the best night of my life...with him. ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex bad mouthing me?
Q. My ex and i dated for about a year. He was the one who broke it off not really giving a reason. We have been broken up for about three months and i haven't spoken to him since February. My question is why is he bad mouthing me to others saying im ...
A. 30 April 2012: It sounds like he is using this tactic to "Cover Up" his actions and try to justify leaving the relationship. See, he has to form an aliance against you to make his cheating, lying whatever the reason for leaving.....to make you the bad guy and not ... (read in full...)
He sent dirty texts to my bestfriend,should I give him another chance?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 3 months split up 2days ago. The other day which was my 3yr old sisters bday my friend (used to be best friends but kinds drifted apart because shes been seeing married men). Was calling me sayin she has somthing to tell...
A. 29 April 2012: I know your hurting & rightfully so, but you really seem to have a good head on your shoulders & you will make it through this. Now, as for the boyfriend...the reason he did it....was because he thought she might be an easy score based on the ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before writing him off?
Q. Okay, so I have a question about Men and calling. First let me tell you the details: last weekend me and a bunch of coworkers all went out for drinks. During the night I stated talking to one of the guys (someone I had previously only known in ...
A. 29 April 2012: Okay....you've made it clear that your interested in hanging out AND the next move is on him. Some men are straight forward AND will call the next day AND some don't like to look to anxious AND wait a while. I would say don't stress ove... (read in full...)
Abusive ex boyfriend won't pay back money after our split, how do I deal with this?
Q. I desperately need advice as I have nowhere else to turn. I broke up with my boyfriend of over 2 1/2 years recently as he was very abusive both verbally and recently, physically. My friends noticed I had changed and was depressed and so they ...
A. 29 April 2012: Good for you for having the courage to get out of the relationship before it went on any further! This is going to take some time to heal from, but you are already on the right track. Okay, in a nut shell you can't tip toe around him & be afraid ... (read in full...)
We're due to marry in November but I'm stressed about these issues
Q. I am supposed to be getting married in november. Me and my fiance have been together for almost 2years. We have had our differeces about many things but I am afraid that she will give up on me one day. The reasons are that I don't approve of the way ...
A. 29 April 2012: MARRIAGE COUNSELING! The issues that you have raised are not dealbreakers, but can get pretty nasty if you go into a marriage without really addressing them with a game plan. Children from previous relationships AND discipline are ALWAYS touchy i... (read in full...)
Am I just being blinded by love?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and I do genuinely love her but a couple months ago she got really drunk on a night out with her friends and ending up dancing and kissing another guy AND they exchanged numbers. Realising what she had ...
A. 29 April 2012: You have these feelings for a reason! Most of my guy friends are not FRIENDS by choice. Its because, that's all I really wanted...but given the opportunity to sleep with me...they would!
Having guy friends is fine, but yes, she likes the atte... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a menstrual cycle?
Q. Hi this is a question for the women I am 25 I started my periods when I was 13 they have always been irregular but I was just wondering if this was normal the past two months I have had my period that lasted three or four days and then four days ...
A. 28 April 2012: I have had irregular periods all my life....so I am very familiar with your concern. I too, got my period at 13 in November & did not get another. Until march of the next year.
Okay....now....this really depends on what's going on in your lif... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the person you are dating to tell you that they will always love their ex?
Q. Is it normal for a guy you're seeing to tell you they'll always love their ex? This ex was actually his first real love, and I'm the first person he's dating after he's been with her. I'm wondering if it's normal because the last guy I da...
A. 28 April 2012: Is it Normal??? Yes & No....here it is....I have ASKED a few of my boyfriends about their past relationships. What happened & if he still loved any of them. Now, the only reason that I was privy to any of that information was because....I ASKED! ... (read in full...)
My friend is dating my ex. I want to hate her but I miss her!
Q. A couple of months back, one of my friends decided she wanted to be with my ex boyfriend as she had strong feelings for him (which i knew nothing about until it was too late) He and I had only just decided that we weren't going to stay in touch an...
A. 28 April 2012: For obvious reasons...this young lady is not the "Friend" you thought she was. I understand missing her friendship...but let me ask you....has she tried to contact you? To see how your coping with the end of your relationship!
I would not cont... (read in full...)
She said once we were married the sex would get better, but here I am a year later and she still does not want sex!
Q. I've been married for about a year, and my wife only wants to have sex about once a week (if that). She has had minimal interest in sex since we first started seeing each other about three years ago. She has said she's just not that interested ...
A. 27 April 2012: I really empathize with you & know this situation all to well. My ex-husband & I had the same problem, but he was the one with the low sex drive. I had the same feelings that maybe he just wasn't attracted to me although, I am very attractive & 13 ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on holiday with his ex wife and kids, should I just accept it or should I say something?
Q. Iv been dating a guy since January and he has just told me that at the end of may he will be going on holiday for a week to Tenerife with his ex wife and their two children. He says it's just to make the children happy but I still feel jealous and ...
A. 27 April 2012: I think...at some point....it should be addressed so at least he knows how you feel before this happens again. Now being that you have been dating for a few months, it sounds as if it was planned before you were serious & he may not have known ... (read in full...)
We are not struggling financially but he threatened to divorce me over spending $10!
Q. I've fallen ill lately, and I'm not just talking about the flu or something like that. I had a major surgery that came with the possibility of death. It's now been about a year, and I've been on bed rest for about 6 months after my surgery and now ...
A. 27 April 2012: I think this had nothing to do with the $10 lunch, but maybe he is feeling stressed or UNAPPRECIATED, since he has been the one supporting you both through this situation. Maybe he has needs....that have not been met since your illiness, but now he ... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a two-week old baby?
Q. i have a two week old little girl, and she sleeps all the time, she sleeps most of the night and most of the day and never really wakes up for her bottle we have to wake her up normally , she will drink her bottle, have her nappy changed and then...
A. 27 April 2012: Enjoy it while you can...lol! This is very normal for newborns. I own a daycare center with over 100 children & I have a 2 yr. Old & 3yr. Old. Trust me....she will need less sleep the older she gets...& you will need more sleep! Congradulations ... (read in full...)
Threesome gone wrong
Q. Hello everyone, I would really love some advice with my problem. You all have done greatly and I can not help but keep coming back here for more... So in advance thank you. Last week my husband and I came about to having a threesome. We both h...
A. 25 April 2012: I echo the comments of the aunts AND uncles....HOT MESS! Okay sweetie....you want to be a big girl....put your big girl pants on AND deal with the choices you both made. You AGREED to do a three some ....he didn't go behind your back....... (read in full...)
Is my fiance having a relationship with her cousin who is in prison?
Q. I was cleaning my fiancé’s car and notice while in the trunk there were a number of letters in a large bag. The letters were from someone in prison to my fiancé. Curiosity made me read a letter and in the letter it stated that he was going to take ...
A. 25 April 2012: Okay....let's get to the knitty gritty...THAT IS NOT HER COUSIN! I know we should give a person, "The Benefit of the Doubt", but it sounds like she is playing games! Listen to yourself..."She use to have a crush on him".....WHAT??? Your cousin??? ... (read in full...)
I saw a future with this guy but after our argument I feel abused and demoralised!
Q. I guess I already know the answer to my question, but need a little kick in the arse to make a move. I am mid 40's...so is my boyfriend. We've been together for more than a year. The relationship has been really great. Or HAD been until a huge ...
A. 25 April 2012: My question to you is...If nothing about him ever changed...would you still want to be in a relationship with him??? I understand all to well the opening doors & pulling out chairs...it is something that I am use to & I appreciate when a man has ... (read in full...)
My ex husband kept coming around my house but now claims he hates my guts! What is going on?
Q. My exhusband has been coming around the house, I do let him with hopes things were maybe going to work out.. but I noticed he never asked me out for coffee or anywhere....I am not ugly..I dont want to sound conceited but I dont have trouble getting ...
A. 25 April 2012: He is your EX-HUSBAND for a reason! Allowing him to come around is NO GOOD FOR YOU... AND it sends the signal to him, that "Yeah, she still wants me". Your watching movies, bbq....almost like dating, but your wooing him....he's not taking you ... (read in full...)
What difference does it make if two people are married or just live together?
Q. Hey! I'm getting married in few months... I'm uber excited of course, but I wonder what difference does it make if two people are married or just live together? We're not religious or anything, but when my bf proposed I of course said yes... it w...
A. 25 April 2012: In my opinion, Marriage should be the ulitmate expression of love AND committement to one another AND in making that committement, it comes with certain benefits. Yes, part of the reason to marry is to discourage seperation. To make people think ... (read in full...)
When I asked if my boyfriend would come to see me he said "thanks for the offer"! What is going on here?
Q. Hello, I am wondering if anyone of you have good insight to a mans mind... I recently had a conversation with my boyfriend that has left me confused! We were talking on the phone late in the evening the day before I was to leave to be at my moth...
A. 2 March 2012: Yes, it does sound like he was not in the mood to hang out....why? That's for you to discuss. I think you asked all the right questions, but he seems pretty evasive with his answers. Thanks for the offer? Is that how he normally responds to you? ... (read in full...)
He pushed me down. Its just not like him.
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together about a year and a half. We've known each other for nearly 7 years...it just took a while to make it official. Once official, things went fast. Within 2 months we were (practically) living together...within 6 ...
A. 16 February 2012: I understand this situation all to well....I use to be YOU!
I was very emotional & when I could not CONTROL the situation & my bf...I would lash out in a rage. My boyfriend at the time was not an abusive person at all, but 1 to many times 8 ... (read in full...)
He didn't give me any reason for breakup...
Q. Dear cupid My bf broke up with me yesterday. We had our share of ups and downs. I wanted to make the relationship work, but he doesn't want to. He did'nt give me any reason for breakup, he just said that he doesn't want to see my face or h...
A. 16 February 2012: My heart goes out to you.....& I fill your pain. I hope I can encourage you during this hurtful time.
He did tell you why he wanted to break up with you...& you have to accept it at face value. He's annoyed & no longer attracted. He wanted t... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend what his future plans are with me?
Q. So Im wondering how I ask my boyfriend if we are working towards having a future together or if this all we are goin to do. I don't want to feel like I do all the things I do for him like cleaning his place all the time when there is no future f...
A. 5 February 2012: Absolutely! Ask him what his long term goals for the next five years are for his life. How does he feel about marriage & does he want to get married anytime soon (year or 2).
Then...you tell him your goals.....career, condo, marriage... (read in full...)
Why does my cousin treat her boyfriend so badly?
Q. Why does my cousin treats her man this way? is so sad? My cousin treats her boyfriend really badly. She actually treats him like her slave. He's not allowed to talk to other girls. She's constantly arguing with him. She's dumped him a million ti...
A. 5 February 2012: MYOB...Mind your own business! I know you maybe concerned about him, but he is a grown man & when he gets good & tired of her treating him like crap...the world will know. He'll walk away...until then...pray for him & stop putting your cousin's ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend becoming so mean and bitter!
Q. Dear cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have a great relationship and i love him with all of my heart. I do NOT want to leave him ever. He is the man i am going to marry and i know it. Or at least i thought i knew it. He ...
A. 5 February 2012: Sunshine...."He's Not The one for You". I know you feel your in love & i'm sure you are...but you came to dear cupid because you had no one else to talk to. Now, it is up to you to take some of this really great "FREE" advice & use it. People pay ... (read in full...)
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