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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid,I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have a great relationship and i love him with all of my heart. I do NOT want to leave him ever. He is the man i am going to marry and i know it. Or at least i thought i knew it. He is becoming so mean and bitter like he doesnt even want me around him at all :( he also, belives im trapping him in and im being a bad girl friend because i asked him not to smoke ciggerettes. He got very mad at me and told me if i didnt like it...leave. so of corse i stayed with him. He has started blowing the smoke in my face... And today it made me so mad. I was just in a terrible mood. He also was very rude to me all day long... But the higlight of today was, he got mad at me in a movie... Because i wanted to hold his hand... He told me he left his stuff in the food court of the mall we were in and he was going to go get it...and then return to me. I was waiting for an hour.... He never came back...and after me cryying and waiting and serching for him... He told me he had left... And wouldnt talk to me... He told me i was a clingy bitch and that i was anoyying. I just need help getting through this ... I have no one i can talk to... PleaseThank you so much Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle_Unsparing +, writes (5 February 2012):
Listen to Latti. She speaks the truth. You can bank on everything she says coming true if you stay with this LOSER, LOSER, LOSER, LOSER, LOSER, LOSER.
Did she say HE'S A LOSER? Listen to Latti. She speaks the truth. HE'S A LOSER.
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reader, Latti +, writes (5 February 2012):
Sunshine...."He's Not The one for You". I know you feel your in love & i'm sure you are...but you came to dear cupid because you had no one else to talk to. Now, it is up to you to take some of this really great "FREE" advice & use it. People pay good money at a therapist for this same information.
This relationship has all the signs of verbal abuse & some physical that you maybe afraid to admitt. He does not respect you. He will use you as long as you let him. It is a joke to him the way he treats you. This will only get worse. He is going to continue dumping you & treating you like crap until someone more interesting comes along.
You are stronger than you think you are! Break up with him now!!! Get involved with a gym....workout, call some old friend or cousins to hang out with, work longer so that you are preoccupied & not so focused on him. Take some classes, if your not already in school. You are at a great age, where you will always find someone else. He's a LOSER!!! HE'S A LOSER!!! HE'S A LOSER!!!
Did I already say, HE'S A LOSER!!! Now don't you be one...move on, your worth it.
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reader, Uncle_Unsparing +, writes (5 February 2012):
"I have no one i can talk to"I'm so sorry you have to deal with this all alone. You must have had a very unhappy, unstable home life as a child to be desperately hanging on to a "boyfriend" who comes across by your own account as a selfish, rude, inconsiderate, verbally abusive punk at best. Apologize for the snark in previous post, but the fact that nobody else could even come up with a response based on the information you provided yourself should tell you there is absolutely nothing good that can come out of this "great relationship" you are so adament to hold on to at such great emotional cost. Please consider counselling. Seems like you have a lot of long-term traumas and stresses you need to sort out. You deserve a lot better than what you're willing to settle for.Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): "I just need help getting through this ... "
Just keep thinking of all those reasons why you "have a great relationship" and "love him with all of my heart" and "do NOT want to leave him ever" and why "He is the man i am going to marry and i know it" as you go out of your way to state in your post to balance out the grievances you go out of your way to state in your post, specifically:
Specific Grievance 1: becoming so mean and bitter like he doesnt even want me around him at all
Specific Grievance 2: belives im trapping him in and im being a bad girl friend
Specific Grievance 3: got very mad at me and told me if i didnt like it...leave
Specific Grievance 4: started blowing the smoke in my face
Specific Grievance 5: very rude to me all day long
Specific Grievance 6: he got mad at me in a movie... Because i wanted to hold his hand
Specific Grievance 7: I was waiting for an hour.... He never came back
Specific Grievance 8: He told me he had left... And wouldnt talk to me
Specific Grievance 9: He told me i was a clingy bitch and that i was anoyying.
Redeeming Quality 1 (specific reason why you have a great relationship):
Redeeming Quality 2 (specific reason why you love him with all your heart):
Redeeming Quality 3 (specific reason why you do NOT want to leave him ever):
Redeeming Quality 4 (specific reason why he is the man you are going to marry and you know it):
Oh, dear. You don't mention any specific reasons WHY he's your Prince Charming. I assume he has a functioning penis, not sure exactly what else he has going for him that so enthralls you and makes you so sure he's "the one" (kinda, anyway). Please elaborate.
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