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writes:Me and my boyfriend of 3 months split up 2days ago. The other day which was my 3yr old sisters bday my friend (used to be best friends but kinds drifted apart because shes been seeing married men). Was calling me sayin she has somthing to tell me i ignored her cause i couldnt really be bothered with her and it was my sisters day.So then the next day she went up to.my mums house with her son to give my sister a bday present. She then told my mum that she had been gettin prank calls for a while sometimes the guy sayin disgusting things she then said my boyfriend admitted it was him beggingg her not to say to me.So my mum told me i asked him he denied at first then admitted it i dont know why he would do this ???when id tell him how much she would annoy me at times. He said i gave him her number ? But he actually took it out my phone when i was asleep. So he said he done it because he thought i was cheating behind his back (we had issues with my ex before but i didnt cheat). So i told him never to speak to.me or her again etc we ended up arguing and he was being pretty nasty etc. Then yesterday.morning he emailed me saying sorry for what he did he didnt know why he done it he ruined it for both of us and didnt expect me to get bk with hom.but still loved me etc. Im angry at him and her because of her recent behaviour she wad probobally encouraging him. In no way am i making an excuse for what he did.I dont know what to do i miss him so much i thought we were happy i feel like an idiot thinking i had a great boyfriend. Im looking for advice or maybe just to get it all out i cant speak to my best friend about it shes loving the fact he fancied her not me. I cant speak to my mum she just gives me hassle about how men are know good.Im too embaresssed to tell any of my other friends the truth .When.im alone i iust get upset if i was someone elsw id tell me to get a grip i dunno if its because im embaressed or heartbtoken but i.miss him we spent every day together or we were texting all the time.I dont know why i wasnt good enough, why he done it or what i done wrong.I dont know wether to give him another chance?? my heart says yeah but my heart saying im in idiot for thinking it!! Sorry for rambling on everyone thanks x
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reader, mooh  +, writes (28 May 2012):
Especially do not blame yourself on the situation: your ex-boyfriend of only 3 months doesn't deserve you and if he looked into your cellphone to take one of your friends' number to then dirty call her, that doesnt seem solid for building a long-term relationship?
Your friend doesn't sound like much of a good friend... why would she even tell your mother instead of you of what your ex did and gloat/boast about it? she probably wanted to let you know one way or another because it gave her some kind of sick pride to have your bf of the time lusting over her.
You are much better off without him or her in your life.
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (29 April 2012):
You did nothing wrong and to have these kinds of problems after being together just 3 months means this really wasn't a relationship. He sounds like lying cheating scum in the making and you are better off without. Its not your fault at all and you deserve better, why go back with someone who will only do it again and make you feel like this all over again. You are young and you will find someone else who doesn't sneak through your phone steal your friends numbers and talk dirty to them, instead you will find someone who respects you, wants to be with you and wants a relationship with you.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 April 2012):
 From what you've written here I don't get the impression your friend encouraged him in any way. In fact she made a point of trying to bring this to your attention once she discovered the identity of the prankster.
And I don't think your boyfriend was coming on to her so much as he was preying on her. He didn't do what he did to impress her. It sounds more like he did it to scare and outrage her. A flasher doesn't expose himself to unsuspecting women or children because he fancies them, but because he sees them merely as outlets for his urges. It's an antisocial act, his way of lashing out at society.
I definitely do not think you should give your boyfriend any second chances and I suggest you stay as far away from him as possible. Don't write off your friend. She hasn't done anything wrong. In fact she did the right thing.
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reader, Latti  +, writes (29 April 2012):
I know your hurting & rightfully so, but you really seem to have a good head on your shoulders & you will make it through this. Now, as for the boyfriend...the reason he did it....was because he thought she might be an easy score based on the information he got from you about her fooling around with married men. He knew you two were on the outs & he didn't think she would tell you. He took her number out of your phone while you were asleep, which means.....he knew exactly what he was doing and had planned it on the down low! Yes, he has been lusting after your best friend & if she let him...he would have went all the way with her.
As for your best friend....you already know her character.....she can not be trusted! Especially around your man! I would forgive her, but keep her at arms lenght....and NEVER around your guy!
Your boyfriend needs some time to meditate on his bad behavior. However, he might straighten up for a minute, but he's not trustworthy. And you cannot have a successful relationship without trust.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (29 April 2012):
 Dont give him another chance, he cant be trusted.
Its been just 3 months and he already has been behind your back for your bestfriend!
Men like him cannot be trusted! He'll give you excuses but it doesnt make his behavior right. He was sneaky.
Why your bf behaved the way he did says alot about HIM as a character and not about you!
you must'nt make this your fault.
If your bestfriend encouraged him, you should relook at still having her around as a bestfriend, because FRIENDS DONT DO THAT!
Goodluck
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