Do I settle for what I have with my ex now? He says he's not ready to settle down. What's the best way to deal with this?
Q. I never stopped seeing my ex after we broke up. It has been over a year and we never stopped hanging out and sleeping together, we just eliminated a title. It all gets confusing because for the most part it seems like we are together still but we a...
A. 12 February 2013: People only say they are settling when they know they could do better without a doubt, but are too scared, lazy, or self-sabotaging to do otherwise. You are only 22-25. If you were on your death bed and desperately wanted to get married, OK. Like I ... (read in full...)
I just noticed my exgirlfriend got very thin and I think she looks amazing...is it because she broke up with me?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend just over a month ago and I saw her last night and she's always been a skinny girl, nice weight and her figure in all the time i've known her was just perfect. But last night I saw her out and i noticed she look...
A. 12 February 2013: There is also the possibility that she is happier without you and was only heavier dating you because she was eating of depression then. ... (read in full...)
My 19 year old daughter wants to marry a 51 year old man. He's 3 years older than her father!
Q. My 19-year-old daughter told me she's dating a 51-year-old man, and wants to marry him and have his children, and he agrees.... She told us he wanted to meet us, and we did, 2 months after they first started dating. [it had been secret until no...
A. 12 February 2013: I don't know about your daughter, but if you say he is 51, but looks 32 then at least we can agree that you can make an appointment to get your brain AND eyes checked. ... (read in full...)
Does this 'relationship' have any potential?
Q. we've been seeing each other for over a month now. Every week, but usually at his place. We will go out for dinner the odd time. He says he wants it to stay casual as he just got out of a 3 and a half year relationship. In the beginning he woul...
A. 12 February 2013: It's only been a month and you are already having these kinds of problems? 46, works in the art field, never married, and dating a 24 year old, and ignores serious questions. Mentally he is dating an older woman. This is the reason why if you like ... (read in full...)
If we get together it will be a LDR, she is worried about our age gap and she already has a FWB....should I leave now before I invest any feelings into someone I have no chance with?
Q. Hey! I am 27 year old male with college degree and stable job. I am financially stable and have established lifestyle. I met a 20 year old girl on facebook and have been talking on the phone and through text. She is from Texas and I am from ...
A. 12 February 2013: The age gap isn't large at 20 and 27. It's an excuse to cheat in your face. She likes you because you give her the attention the guy she actually likes doesnt. Grow some self esteem and get out. ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think I have more feelings for my girlfriends daughter than for my girlfriend!
Q. I am a 26 yr old man currently dating a 43 yr old that has a 18 yr old daughter and 2 younger boys I am finding a hard time not becoming attracted to her now she is of age me and her mom have been together for a few years now what should I do I am ...
A. 12 February 2013: You know what to do -- and it's not your girlfriends daughter!!... (read in full...)
Do you think he loves me, or do these signs suggest he is sleeping with his ex?
Q. My boyfriend asked me out wen I was 14..we have been dating for 4 yrs now although he is 12years older than I am and I lost my virginity to him.I love him but in our first year of dating I found out his supposed ex gf was pregnant for him..I was too ...
A. 12 February 2013: Leave before YOU get pregnant. I've lived in many countries, and there is a reason you are mentioning the age difference. You are still far too young to be in a serious relationship of 4 years, much less being cheated on! You already said he uses ... (read in full...)
Husband of many years has changed. Is he cheating?? Or does it sound like he is?
Q. Hi Everyone I have many questions but first let me explain. I have been married almost 20 yrs, I'm 38 he's 46. We have 3 beautiful children 22, 21 and 14. My 1st child is not his blood but there is no step anything in my home, however problems h...
A. 12 February 2013: You refer to him as "sexually crazy". I'm not sure what you mean, but a grown man in his mid-twenties sleeping with high school-aged girls and getting them pregnant doesnt lead me to believe he at least had the best self control, no. How you d... (read in full...)
Is it worth staying in a relationship when its difficult to get along?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a solid 9 months. He is older than me. I am 18 and he is 27. HE is an illegal immigrant and he has a 1 year old daughter with his ex. I found out about his daughter and literatly unbalanced ex 2 months ...
A. 12 February 2013: Even if the man was a legal citizen, your age, and completely single...he hardly speaks English?! I'm guessing you don't effectively speak Spanish then, so what is this relationship really based ON if you can't speak in depth? I've only dated gu... (read in full...)
Is five months too soon to move in with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for five months and we're thinking of moving in together. I spend about three or four nights a week with him anyway and we were on holidays together for over a week and got on great! I've known him for about ten ...
A. 12 February 2013: I think it is fine, but only if you are financially secure enough to move out back onto your own at anytime. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a fool for taking my ex back but I don't want to abandon him either! I don't know what to do
Q. My ex and I split from 3 years together because I found out he cheated on me over a year ago (several times) and has been inappropriately messaging other girls ever since. We've been talking since we split, and even hoped to be able to patch things ...
A. 12 February 2013: Let him go and in your next relationship, if the person begins to annoy you and you feel like treating him poorly then just break it off then and there. While it IS your fault that he ended up with self-esteem issues, it's been years. Time for both ... (read in full...)
My friend went out with him and said he was horrible. But then she asked if I'd like his number. Should I be insulted?
Q. My friend was hooked up with this guy and went on a date with him and it was horrible according to her. I sat and listened for hours as she told me everything horrible about it. At the end of this she asked if i would like to have his number b...
A. 12 February 2013: Maybe she was just pulling your leg or is trying to passively ask for a way out. Tell her to block his number. If she was serious though, you have every right to be upset. Clearly shows who SHE thinks is worth more. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him but he has a girlfriend
Q. Hey guys, I need some help big time. I have a best friend, Of whom is a guy... We met a while back, and we just clicked. I dont think I need to explain how the chemistry works as I'm sure you all understand. He's quite abit older than me (24), bu...
A. 10 February 2013: He's a 24 year old guy. He is not your best friend. Take it from a 23 year old girl. If any of my 21+ friends had 16 year old "best friends" they were messing around with, I would have to ask them to have a seat...Do your parents know how old your ... (read in full...)
Family won't let me see him since he was arrested
Q. hi everyone.. . well, just to start off this weekend has been ery hectic in a very emotional way. You see, there is this boy that I have been talking to since the begining of the school year ( since august), and we have gone more attached I would...
A. 10 February 2013: Chances are at 18 years old you are not going to end up marrying each other anyway. Your aunt is looking out for you. Forget about him and go to college. You will meet plenty of boys there.
Go give your aunt a big hug in a few months time!
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What would be the negatives about having a first child when aged 35?
Q. I am turning 21 this year and the thought of having children anytime soon within the next 5 years sounds really unappealing to me. A lot of my high school friends are getting married and having children already. I just want to be free and single a...
A. 10 February 2013: My mom had me at 43. The only downsides having to do with her age was that I grew up knowing I wouldn't have as many years with her as my peers. Even so, she is my best friend and a great mom.
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He's 12 years older and divorced. He was my lecturer. Could we make this work?
Q. Hi, thanks for those who answer my question in advance. Following is the brief intro about the man with whom i have affair. currently i am doing MBA. i met this guy during my year, because he is my lecturer.he taught me one subject,and i ...
A. 10 February 2013: Why is he divorced? Who initiated it and for what reasons?
My ex was 14 years older than me and a PHD student when we met. He called me his wife on our third date and then wham...he started ditching me, ignoring me, treating me like garbage.... (read in full...)
She doesn't post pictures of us together
Q. I have a girlfriend going for two years and I wonder why she never post pics of us together online on her page. I see women do it all the time but she does not. She says she loves me more than I would ever know but I don't feel like she is ...
A. 10 February 2013: My ex (of 1 year) did this and he was a manipulative rat. I confronted him multiple times and he would say "It's just Facebook." If it's "just" Facebook, then what is the big deal or? He finally agreed to post a photo of us together to his wall, but ... (read in full...)
My husband is Jekyll and Hyde. What's going on with him?
Q. My partner seems to be a very angry person and its got to a stage where I'm not sure I can carry on with the relationship anymore. Background info: he was mentally, physically and sexually abused as a child. He had counselling for some of it but t...
A. 10 February 2013: He is ABUSIVE! And guess what? They ALL have sob stories, just like most of us. Most people did not have a perfect childhood. He is now a grown man and he cannot continue to blame his childhood for his behavior. Do you know why he does though? ... (read in full...)
Should I allow him to "brand" me with a tattoo? He's 24. I know he will not take me back if I refuse.
Q. So, me and this guy have just been through a break up, our relationship was a little rough around the edges mainly because he's 24 and I'm 16. I know I know, forget about the age a second. I'm really desperate to get him back and he says I need to ...
A. 10 February 2013: I know you said to forget about the age, but a 24 year old man (older than me) has issues if he is dating a 16 year old. Unfortunately this is one of those things you will look back at in maybe 4 or 5 years and only then realize just how bad. ... (read in full...)
He's married. We're strongly attracted. I even told his wife nothing was 'going on'. I want to have sex with him, should I?
Q. Hi...this is my first time seeking advice through the internet. I'm almost 20 years old. I applied for a job at a restaurant and I got the job and the general manager is 37. During the interview we made deeply eye contact and then once he...
A. 10 February 2013: You are old enough to know better. Shame on you. You deserve what you get so sleep with the man all you want and wait in line for a nice dish of KARMA. ... (read in full...)
I thought we wanted the same things. But he wants lots of changes. I'm struggling with this. Options? How to deal with this?
Q. There are a ton of HUGE things that are about to change with my husband and I, and I find myself questioning our relationship and whether or not were even compatible anymore. First off, he's telling me that he wants to quit his job and take ano...
A. 9 February 2013: Okay, I think you are REALLY over exaggerating this one. We are only talking one hour away and you are suddenly saying your children (that you don't even have yet!) won't be able to see their grandparents on their birthdays and your families wi... (read in full...)
I hate the guy who will be the best man at our wedding! How do I deal with this?
Q. Ok so I've been with my partner for 8 years, just recently got engaged. His best friend used to make my life hell but I dealt with it. His previous girlfriend would flaunt herself all over my boyfriend and I would spend night after night crying bec...
A. 9 February 2013: You've been together EIGHT years and you are only 25 and the most? You couldn't have been more than 17 when you started dating! I think you need to get back into the dating scene and find someone who doesn't think it's okay to leave his girlfr... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting when I notice my Bf likes pics of other women on his Facebook?
Q. This really bothers me. My boyfriend is always on Facebook liking pics of other chicks. They're not like sexy pics or demeaning pics or anything. But it's a constant thing that a chick who he may or may not know puts up a cute pic of herself and ...
A. 9 February 2013: does he like your pics or his male friends' pics as well?
If he is only liking other girls' photos, then yeah...I would feel the same way.
Does his Facebook show that he is in a relationship with you? If so, then I wouldn't worry!
My ex... (read in full...)
Always been attracted to girls. But also like watching gay porn. Could my porn use be affecting the fantasies I masterbate to and think about?
Q. I am very confused at the moment. Since I was younger I have always been attracted to girls. When I see girls in the street, I'm instantly checking them out. Never in real life have I ever looked at a make and though hmm they're attracti...
A. 9 February 2013: I fantasize about other women a lot, but I'm straight. I wouldn't worry too much about it. It is probably more common than we think. Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet?
Q. Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet? Last weekend when I went out with a girl I've known a few years, we got a little drunk and totally unexpected she kissed me, I've liked this girl since the moment I met her but be...
A. 9 February 2013: I'm a female and both of my ex boyfriends became abusive and blamed me for being "too nice" for their behavior. Apparently it is possible to be "too sweet", but I think they were just jerks who used my personality as an excuse for treating me ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had money troubles and now he wants to transfer my name over onto his bills. Why? Is he just using me?
Q. My boyfriend has had quite a few financial troubles in his past, and has had a few court cases in which people owed him money and vice versa. He seems to be paranoid and wants his name off a lot of things. For instance, he has a mailbox in anoth...
A. 9 February 2013: I really hope he isn't around your age and already been to court so many times (in general). My father used my mom for money when they started dating and when they divorced, all of HIS debt was legally HER debt because she had put her names on... (read in full...)
My wife wants a divorce after rushing the marriage, was she just using me to get over her ex? What should I do now?
Q. Seven months ago, on a dating site ,I met American girl who was 16 years olders than me , means she was 46 and I was 30 then. In just matter of two months , she came to Pakistan and married me. Honestly speaking, she was doing all that too quickly ...
A. 7 February 2013: Wow...I'm so sorry you are going through that. Her behavior is shocking and uncalled for. Sure, you should have been more careful bases on AMERICAN culture, but I have no idea how it is in Pakistan. At 46, her behavior is very immature and I t... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend over this situation. Was I wrong?
Q. If you get confused about the situation, please ask me to clarify. I need as many opinions as I can get. My boyfriend's aunt never met me before, so she told him to invite me over to her house for the super bowl. When we went to her house, they ...
A. 6 February 2013: I think you really overreacted with this one. You were a guest in his home with his family. As others have said, your boyfriend is not a mind reader (maybe). I would have assumed if I was in his position that you wanted me to tell everyone i... (read in full...)
Was My boyfriend's reaction out of line? I had to enroll, online, for classes and the slot allocated to me ate into time he wanted to spend with me.
Q. All my college procedures are done online. Today I had to choose my class schedule. Obviously, my college has thousands of students, so we're assigned a period of time where we could chose it (for example, all names starting with A do it from 9am...
A. 6 February 2013: This is one of the reasons I broke up with my (recent...very recent) ex. I don't know how long you two have been together, but mine got worse with time. I would buy groceries and bring them to his house and cook dinner. One night I was 5 minutes ... (read in full...)
Were we right to breakup? Should I try to get back together with my ex? We broke up after Christmas.
Q. This is kinda long ... thanks for slogging through it. My bf and I broke up right after Christmas. It was a mutual decision after several years together. He's kind, funny, generous (would give the shirt off his back to a stranger who needed it), ...
A. 6 February 2013: After a few years you know the problem is not going to disappear. Treat yourself to something nice this Valentine's Day. You don't have to leave the house, but rent a couple funny movies and buy yourself some chocolates and flowers. It is o... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into the actions of my very nice boss?
Q. Ok, basically I have a problem at work. From the moment I met my boss, I thought he was familiar and I couldn't place my finger on it, I still can’t. The thing is he's always stared at me, and made a point of talking to me. He made me feel I ...
A. 6 February 2013: 1. He has been engaged for 5 years (weird anyone?) 2. He is old enough to be your dad, so I'm guessing he's around 40+ (nothing against age differences, but this combined with everything else? Hmmm). 3. He is flirting with one of his employees 4... (read in full...)
At 26 is this too early to be already be noticing the signs of ageing? Why would this already be happening?
Q. My looks have started changing noticeably and I'm only 26, I noticed at 25 they were going. I don't drink much and I don't smoke. I have noticed my jaw line has changed my eyes have gone littler and my skin has lost elasticity around them. My che...
A. 6 February 2013: I had wrinkles by age 18, as did many of my classmates. Maybe you are just becoming more self-conscious now that you are in your late 20's and suddenly noticing "new things" which had actually been there for a while.
You could get plastic ... (read in full...)
He's awesome. But would never date a HIV positive woman. Should I break up with him, or tell him I'm HIV positive?
Q. I am Hiv positive and have been positive for 10 years now I recently met this nice and awesome guy whom iv dated for 2 months now he always says he’s afraid of Hiv and he would never date a positive woman(he has never tested in his life) I don’t ...
A. 5 February 2013: I have a fear of HIV as well. Noting that it can stay dormant and undetected for up to 10+ years, PLEASE for his sake, if he is a really nice and awesome guy...end it and DO NOT tell him you are HIV positive unless you haven't had sex yet. It is ... (read in full...)
Online girl I met says she has a b/f yet sends sexual pictures to me and then gets angry! What gives?
Q. hi people i need advice and insight as to what's been going on between me and this lovely and sweet, caring girl i met a few months ago playing video games... LONG STORY SHORT. she's 18. met her online but never met in person but plan on ...
A. 5 February 2013: When my relationship to my first boyfriend was collapsing at a similar age, I began seeking attention from a guy I liked online (and also playing video games). I had always been described as sweet and shy, and regret my decisions to this day -- two ... (read in full...)
Caught fiancee cheating whilst I was pregnant now I am sleeping with his boss
Q. Me and my now EX fiance where dating for 1 and a half years and i became pregnant and we were excited but 6 months into my pregnancy i came home early from my part time job as i wasn't feeling to good so i come home and i hear him shouting out my ...
A. 5 February 2013: He sounds like my ex boyfriend. Luckily, I got away due to the wonderful help of our Dearcupid uncles and aunties! He is the one who cheated on his ex wife and girlfriends, but was paranoid that I was cheating although I have no history of such ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 5 February 2013: Marrying this girl will be the worst mistake of your life. ... (read in full...)
My BF blocked my Facebook since I posted and blamed on a sexy photo of an entertaining girl whom he often visits her page. Am I nothing to him?
Q. Hi everyone. My long distance BF often visits a Facebook page of a sexy young girl working as an entertainer by showing body in bikini in sexy ways. I've known there are some sexy young girls on his page so far, they are working for a small Asian ...
A. 5 February 2013: Your boyfriend sounds very much like my (now ex of 3 days) boyfriend! He was 14 years older than me and planning on moving to the U.S (although now I think it was a lie)...and we were long distance for 5-6 months. He also blocked his Facebook wal... (read in full...)
Why does he only phone me from work? Why doesn't he answer when I call him? Could he be playing me?
Q. Okay PLEASE HELP. So I am 19. Keep in mind I have always had a very old soul and countless people have told me this. I am not your average teenager I should probably be older I act like it... Anyways. I have always liked older guys. Recently, ...
A. 5 February 2013: You are asking here because you have a feeling that agrees with all the aunties and uncles here or? You deserve better than this selfish, immature cheater. :p You have only known him one month and he is already being so disrespectful of you. I like ... (read in full...)
Is she too young for me to be doing more than flirting?
Q. Hi, So before people start calling me things please read everything. I'm currently married but me and my wife are looking to go our separate ways. We had our first child when we were 18 and got pressured into marriage(her family felt very strong...
A. 5 February 2013: You should settle your divorce first, before even considering trying to go further with this. She is young and just getting her feet out into the real world. The last thing she needs is to start off her independent life cheating on her boyfrien... (read in full...)
Short with small penis - what should I do?
Q. I’m a 22 year old virgin male – cause I only want to date when I am financially stable. My problem is that I’m short (5'4) with a small penis (3 and a half inches erect). I look like a hobbit. Plus girls always say I’m cute and sweet, which ...
A. 31 December 2012: My 2 boyfriends have been ur height. I recommend gaining some weight and muscle. Google image Taeyang. I'm 4''10 and like their height. :)
As for ur penis size, they have surgery if u r really serious about it. Or find a girl who prefers oral, fi... (read in full...)
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