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writes: hi everyone.. .well, just to start off this weekend has been ery hectic in a very emotional way. You see, there is this boy that I have been talking to since the begining of the school year ( since august), and we have gone more attached I would say. He is not my boyfriend, but again him and I flirt a lot and he is a best friend to me. Btw i am 18 and a senior in high school. About two weeks ago he got arrested for gettig into this fight near a parking lot and no longer went to the school anymore. But the reason why he didnt go to te school anymore was because he had to finish up his credits..anyways... this was about 2-3 weeks ago and lately my aunt has been askin me who is he and how she would like to see pics of her.. honestly we never did take pocs together.. Until yesterday she finally looked him up and saw him arrested with two charges.. and now saying that i am not allowed to talk to him anymore... i begged and begged.. to me i just cant say goodbye or not talk to him even if that sounds wierd... i kept crying and crying and when i broke the news to him he was even more upset and sad as well.. even though my aunt is right and that i am going off to college like in 4 months and that i should forget about him, i still har these stron feelings for him i hope someone understands :( .. can you be perfectly honest and tell me if i have a say in this? i am an adult.. me being 18 thought i could decided who i want to talk to bu i guess not if i am living under her roof :( we spoke about it and sat down.. i tried to make her change her mind bu she wont.. and even tried to make them meet which that isnt possible at all.. i miss him so much.. and just want to talk to him...please tell me what i could do or if there is nothing :( thank you 3
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (11 February 2013):
You are in that 16-24 year old age range which for some reason a lot of females seem to temporarily lose half of their IQ points. The guy just got arrested - he is clearly trouble. Whats the disconnect here? Your aunt is clearly outside of the 16-24 age range. You would do well to listen to her.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 February 2013):
 Sorry, I am biased. I am a mom, and -kudoos to your Aunt.
You have nothing with this guy, he's not an old friend or a long time boyfriend who got himself in trouble; situation which, albeit still unpleasant ,would warrant being treeated with more sensitivity. This is a crush on a semi stranger that 's already got himself two criminal charges for acts of violence- so , the smartest thing is to apply preventive damage control and just flush him out of your life pronto. As if theren't were scores of cute guys with no rap sheet ready and waiting for you :)! You definitely can find someone better, and you'll definitely will, if you are not stubborn and just go with the flow of life , that's taking you to college, new people, new experiences.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (10 February 2013):
If you want a shot at meeting him again, you're going to need to get your act together and calm down. Crying and begging will just drive home the point that you can't be objective in this, and let's face it, if this was your sister or your daughter, you wouldn't be thrilled at having her hang out with a guy who's got two criminal charges filed against him. That fight must have been quite something. You don't get those charges for tickling someone or giving them a gentle slap.
Also, you've just known him for a few months. That's not a basis for a profound friendship: it sounds more like you have a crush on him. You don't really know what he's capable of. Yes, you may be an adult, but you're still living under her roof and that means that what she says, goes. Plus, she's just looking out for you. I'd be more worried if she thought it was perfectly acceptable for you to be with him. She knows there are better guys for you out there and she's worried he could be dangerous.
Look, I know what it's like to be lovesick and I also know what it's like to fall for the wrong kind of guy. I really do feel your pain. Giving up on someone like that hurts, lets be honest here, what could there develop between you? You're going off to college (which he won't be anytime soon). Focus on that future instead. You're 18 and trust me, 90% of the people don't meet 'the one' at that age. So let it run its course. Time wil tell if he's the good guy you think he is, or if he's got a darker side to him.
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reader, Kindpigeonette  +, writes (10 February 2013):
Chances are at 18 years old you are not going to end up marrying each other anyway. Your aunt is looking out for you. Forget about him and go to college. You will meet plenty of boys there.
Go give your aunt a big hug in a few months time!
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