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writes:Hi everyone. My long distance BF often visits a Facebook page of a sexy young girl working as an entertainer by showing body in bikini in sexy ways. I've known there are some sexy young girls on his page so far, they are working for a small Asian model company. But when I found out about that, I hadn't made it a big problem, just ignored since my BF very seldom left comments on her page (strangely just one girl, not on the other girls), and also because my relationship just started that time, was still very new and young. But few days ago, after 5 months officially waiting for and talking with me every night, the relationship has become more serious, once again I saw he left a compliment on her photo, said that the photo was interesting and he liked bugs (on a fallen tree she's sitting on outdoor) but he preferred the indoor. Hundreds of men rush to comment on each of her photos. Be honestly, she doesn't look like a professional model but a porn star, or some night club girl. I could kind of sympathize for him, most men like watching sexy girls. But I felt so annoyed because it's not just watching but also messaging, and not to many girls but only her. I realized she looks like his Korean ex someway.In anger, I copied and posted her photo on my page, commenting she's such a prostitute and men are addicted to sluts. He sent me a message to ask me delete the photo in the early morning, and I found out he blocked my page when I lately woke up, just in a couple hours since the warning. He told he was never interested in her, they're just friendly together. Then we had a terrible argument, he blamed me immature and petty and childish, he asked me not to "insult any of his FB friends" any more. I was angry too, and said he's selfish to flirt girls without caring for my feeling - as his GF. Finally he asked me to forget him and to get another BF at my age, since he's older than me 16 years, and removed me out of his Skype contacts. Up to that his move, I kicked back by blocking him out of my Skype.I think maybe he felt embarrassed as I posted the photo on a public place, so he's angry. I know it's my mistake, I should talk to him privately, not showing that on Facebook. But he's wrong too to easily block my page, as an excuse to kick me out... Am I just nothing to him? If it's right, I'll forget him and never recontact again.
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reader, Faithful000lol +, writes (11 March 2013):
Faithful000lol is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Kindpigeonette for your story share and wish. Stay healthy and happy. :)
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reader, Kindpigeonette  +, writes (5 February 2013):
Your boyfriend sounds very much like my (now ex of 3 days) boyfriend! He was 14 years older than me and planning on moving to the U.S (although now I think it was a lie)...and we were long distance for 5-6 months. He also blocked his Facebook wall from me and hid some of his female friends. He posted one photo of us together, but I found out it was locked so only I could see it. When I asked him to be my boyfriend on Facebook, he always refused and hid his relationship status. He also sent me presents like your boyfriend did aa and was planning to visit in February, but cancelled! He also planned to send me job applications too.I think he had a Taiwan lover because when we first met he showed me his FB wall and a girl was talking about him visiting. Our exs are probably different ppl (so many bad guys out there ar), but I Hope we both find better, respectful guys~!! ^^ Good luck!
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reader, Faithful000lol +, writes (19 January 2013):
Faithful000lol is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes it's lousy, also hurt and unfair. But it's life, everyone has to experience and stumble to earn knowledge and lessons, in order to complete themselves.Thanks for your idea sharing Ms So_Very_Confused.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 January 2013):
 Yes and it's ok to take time to heal! it's lousy to find out that the person you thought loved you as much as you loved them, didn't love you enough or at all.
LDRS can work but I've rarely seen them work when they are more than a few hours apart, old enough to travel frequently to see each other. and have met regularly in real life
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reader, Faithful000lol +, writes (19 January 2013):
Faithful000lol is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know I was wrong to post the photo and left bad comments on a public place.* A BF loves his GF very much would feel insulted and upset, but he might apologize her though for following and commenting of flirty words on another girl's page as well as telling her that it's wrong of her to do that at public. Then would try to get peace again.* A BF loves his GF but not very much, just so so, would criticize her for what she did. But would not block her page.* A BF doesn't love his GF, or just a bit (like but not love) would behave like what my BF did to me.Ok, I will forget him. I can't do it immediately now, but my feeling for him has turned down a lot already.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 January 2013):
Honey you have not even met in person yet and you are planing to be together in 3 or 4 years.
I've done LDR (we were a mere 2 hours apart by car but it was lousy)
I would say you two are pretty much not going to happen and it's probably best for you to prepare to move forward without him.
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reader, Faithful000lol +, writes (18 January 2013):
Faithful000lol is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the ideas. I forgot to tell that my whole family got to immigrate into the US 3 years ago, living in a same county with my BF. And my parents filed an immigration petition for me already, I've been just waiting here and will get to live there in next 3 or 4 years. My BF (perhaps ex now) was going to meet me in person in Feb in his Spring break, and even got a plan to live and work in my country this summer (he applied for some places and got invitations to interview, he forwarded their emails to me). Long distance is a hard challenge, but it's still potential for a future if the two sides really want to be together. Last month he sent me some Victoria's Secret items through post office as a gift, and just bought me some book and magazine few days ago...Back to the matter, I've been still shocked and hurt and confused since he blocked and treated me like that. For 3 days already, I've still kept blocking his Skype account after he blocked my Facebook page. Only Yahoo still available, but I've set my ID invisible so he can't see me. He almost doesn't use Yahoo, but these days he gets online on Yahoo twice a day in early morning before going to work and in evening at 8:30 pm - our daily online time, but no message from both of us since we declared to break up.Need wise advices. What should I do? Thanks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 January 2013):
A long distance 16 year age gap with jealousy and insecurity is not a stable relationship.
what you did was wrong
what he did to block you was his way of coping.
what's your plan for being together IRL?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): I would be very upset and hurt if he was talking to a girl like that and leaving her comments on her pictures. For him to block you and tell you to go find another boyfriend means he's not willing to stop doing things that can hurt you emotionally. He basically chose her over you. I would move on and find a man who focuses on YOU only.
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