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writes:This really bothers me. My boyfriend is always on Facebook liking pics of other chicks. They're not like sexy pics or demeaning pics or anything. But it's a constant thing that a chick who he may or may not know puts up a cute pic of herself and has to let her know he "likes" it. Some are even girls he's had relations with. I find it comparable to your boyfriend constantly paying a compliment to other girls right in front of you, but in this case, its on the Internet. I don't do that, in fact, don't go on Facebook much. And all the dudes I know who are married or involved don't really do that either. I don't mind that he is on fb, but I don't understand why he has to show that kind of attention to other women, even if it's "just" Facebook. Am I overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013): No, you are NOT overreacting. If my boyfriend did anything like that, I would have to re-think our relationship.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (9 February 2013):
Hmm, really depends on the context. I myself am a person who likes to give compliments. When I see someone who has nice hair, a cool outfit, whatever, I'll go up to them and tell them that, both guys and girls. I do this on facebook as well. I'm not a slime, but when I see someone's put in effort to look nice, lost weight, etc. I acknowledge it. Your bf could be like me in that regard. It has absolutely nothing to do with being attracted to a person, and everything to do with just being yourself and being nice.
Now, if he goes out of his way to make sure a girl knows he thinks she's pretty, or if his comments start becoming the sort guys only gives to a gal he wants to sweet-talk into his bed, something's obviously wrong. Basically, his behavior needs to be consistent with his character. If it doesn't, you have reason to worry and you'll need to talk to him about what he's doing and how you feel about it. But if he's like me, he's just being appreciative of other people's efforts.
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86  +, writes (9 February 2013):
That is annoying, does he like your pictures aswell?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 February 2013):
 is it just pics of girls or does he like other things too?
I am on facebook a lot and I like something to let the person know I've seen it.
it's not about flirting or disrespecting anyone... to me it's an "acknowledged" button.
if he is only doing it with the girls and not the guys and not other things that are posted... then it may be disrespectful to you....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): No your definitely are not overreacting, I mean what girl would be all right with that. He it might be that he doesn't see it as a big deal and doesn't have any bad motives especially if he does whilst knowing that you know about it and it could be innocent flirting. But if it really bothers you thenYou need to talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel and ask him to stop.Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): I don't think you are overreacting at all. If he was doing it with guys as well then you could argue he is just being friendly. But it sounds as though this is just with women and most likely when they put up a 'poser pic', ie one they think they look nice in that they post to get attention. That is disrespectful to you. If you've not spoken to him I would try that, if you have and it's not worked I'd start doing the same back. I'd bet money he wouldn't be happy with that.
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reader, Kindpigeonette  +, writes (9 February 2013):
does he like your pics or his male friends' pics as well?
If he is only liking other girls' photos, then yeah...I would feel the same way.
Does his Facebook show that he is in a relationship with you? If so, then I wouldn't worry!
My ex hid me on his Facebook, and I came to find out that he was still listed as "married" to his ex-wife!
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reader, Cripes +, writes (9 February 2013):
Maybe just say in a light-hearted way "Yo, Hefner, stop liking all the girls' pictures!" and he'll probably say "what do you mean?" and you say "well, it's easy to misinterpret. When guys like my pictures for no clear reason I'm like 'what is that all about? does he fancy me?' it can look a bit creepy sometimes - be cool!" and see if he stops doing it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): No your not over reacting as you find it insults you and your and his relationship am I right?
So take him to the side, say hey I see you viewing other chicks pics and hey I find that extremely disrespectful how would you like me looking a guy up and down and licking my lips in front of you, it's just not on . If your not happy with us as a couple then say, there plenty more fish in the sea that will see me, want me and guess what what won't disrespect me . SO you choose.
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reader, Dayzee  +, writes (9 February 2013):
No you are not over reacting. If this is what he is like now, he WILL get worse.
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