A
female
age
26-29,
*ittlemisshelpful
writes:Hey guys, I need some help big time. I have a best friend, Of whom is a guy... We met a while back, and we just clicked. I dont think I need to explain how the chemistry works as I'm sure you all understand. He's quite abit older than me (24), but thats never been an issue in our friendship. Its not that hes immature, Its more that i'd say I was relatively mature and I guess it balances out well. Anyway, I think i've fallen for him... And its the worst situation because he's got a girlfriend of which he lives with. And trust me, she's a nice girl.. and treats him well. The problem is, we've both realised we have this attraction for each other, and its caused some issues. For example, We went through a period last month were we kissed alot. Which before you all shoot me down, I know is completely wrong. So we sat down, and we decided to put some limits on our friendship to help the situation. Unfortunately, these limits aren't working and although we're not kissing, theres been alot of inappropriate touching which in my books is still cheating. The thing is, this topic comes up alot with the both of us (He doesn't know i've fallen for him). And we always agree to put limits in (He's very positive about it all) However I know that this just isn't working anymore. He told me before hand that he was starting to doubt his feelings for his girlfriend, but persisted to still be with her. I dont want them to break up and for him to run off with me, so please dont mistake me. But I love him alot... I just dont know what to do. If I called off our friendship it'd break both of us. To expect him to leave his girlfriend for me is completely shallow, so I'm just left with very minimal options. Thanks for your time
View related questions:
best friend, has a girlfriend, immature, kissing, period Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 Trust me a 24 year old boy/man who gets along with a 16 yr old girl is immature no matter what you believe.
You think you have fallen for him… NOT good.
He lives with his gf… he is off limits. Does his live in girl friend know about her boyfriends “best friend 16 yr old girl???) if so, well that’s good… IF NOT… why not? What do you think his reason for keeping you his dirty little secret is?
You are correct he is cheating on his live in girlfriend…. And I ask you this… if he leaves her do you really think you will trust him to not cheat on you? No you won’t. out of sight… what’s he doing and who is he doing it with.
He’s not a very stand up guy… if it’s not good with his GF (which if you call her she will probably not know anything about it being a bad relationship) he needs to leave her.
IF he is not telling his GF about you, he’s lying to her in addition to cheating. That means he’s capable of lying and cheating with you….
The short term pain of ending this faux friendship will pass… I think you need to end it 100% NO CONTACT as he will try to persuade you to see him for more inappropriate touching and kissing… and soon sex or blow jobs.
A
female
reader, Kindpigeonette  +, writes (10 February 2013):
He's a 24 year old guy. He is not your best friend. Take it from a 23 year old girl. If any of my 21+ friends had 16 year old "best friends" they were messing around with, I would have to ask them to have a seat...Do your parents know how old your "best friend" is?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): My advice?
As you request, I'm not going to nail you about kissing someone else's boyfriend, so let me leave you with this.
Even if you two click, he is the kind of guy who will kiss another girl in a relationship.
Even if you had him and he was single, he has already proven he is no good.
Stay away from him, he will break your heart.
...............................
|
